I just broke up with my boyfriend of 6 years. I need advice on where to go from here. Problem is, we jointly own a home together, all our bank accounts, etc are in both our names, etc. etc. (We were on the way to getting married... ) How can I get over him and not walk away from OUR stuff that I have worked so hard to get too... Also, any tips to keep me busy so I can quit thinking about it!! Must be CHEAP things to do and perferably something my wonderful dog can join me in, as I don't want to leave her home everyday so I can go sit at the bar or whatever... Thanks for your help.
2007-08-22 04:27:16 · 9 answers · asked by Em 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're both on the deed then it makes it easier. If you're going to sell the house that also makes things much easier. Both of you will have to sign paperwork and the check for the sale will require both your signatures.
Bank accounts are trickier. Hopefully you've both set up separate accounts also so that you're not putting more money than necessary for joint debts into the joint account. My advice is divide the joint account as soon as possible. Continue to pay your half of the joint bills. Be fair and pay those bills that are solely yours.
People almost always fight about things. Try to come to some agreement about who owns what and don't become to attached to them. If possible take care of the house, bills and bank accounts first so that those can't be used as clubs for either of you to beat the other with. As in "if you're taking the Spongebob glasses I'm not signing the paperwork for the house."
Personally I would say 'not thinking about it' can come later. Sorry but this is how people get screwed financially. If you truly want to not get screwed financially now is not the time to get emotional.
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Also I see that the myth of the "common law marriage" has reared it's ugly head. Common law marriage DOES NOT just happen after a certain amount of time. You both HAVE to agree to it and as the law states "the couple in question must hold themselves out to the world to be husband and wife.." This means claiming to be married in some legal fashion. The test is often "have you filed taxes as a married couple"
Please can we let this myth die???
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2007-08-22 04:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by elurle 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Simple. Soulution to every problem.
Take the dog to the park with you. Go camping, it reminds you that camping is just one step above "Homeless" living.
Join a rowing club on a lake near you. Join a singles group through the Church.
Join others in fun things to do. Read the paper and look for fun things to do there is always something to do or go see that's cheep.
Make sure you separate the accounts and be fair to him.
You can sell the home or get paid by him for your part, you can even take him to court if he does not pay you the money for the stuff. It's the same as divorce, you were living as married, (Common) law say's you are married to him.
2007-08-22 11:34:40 · answer #2 · answered by Date Dr. 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow thats tough! maybe get some rollar blades and go skating with the dog through the park? Thats always a blast & cheap too. The fresh air will do you some good for the emotionaly part. Also, surround your self with your friends. Financially, try a new atmosphere. take half or whatever belongs to you and start over, even if you need to stay with a friend for a while. best of luck
2007-08-22 11:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by sam k 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
take the dog and yourself to the dog park . I would see that you get half the proceeds from the house since you own it jointly . see an attorney as well . and about the bank accounts your attorney will make sure you get what is rightfully yours. be glad you found this out now and not 15 yrs down the road . be glad you did not marry him if he can walk away this easy then he was not worth having and consider yourself lucky . good luck dear .
2007-08-22 11:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess it will do urself gd to withdraw all the assets you hv put even it is going to lose some.
Emotionally and Financial links a person feeling for together.
Give urself a clean start but not losing everything. At least ur pride and confidence will be back.
2007-08-22 11:38:53 · answer #5 · answered by Miko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bury yourself in work, take another part time job.
It'll kill 2 birds with 1 stone: Solving your financial problems and consuming your time.
Others will tell you to face the situation dead on, but its not often the best way some of us have learned to deal with these types of situations. Get out every 2 weeks, find the cutest guy in the bar, and take him home. It'll validate your feelings of self worth and help you move on.
2007-08-22 11:32:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You were living together for more than one year so you are legally married under common law. You need to speak with a lawyer.
2007-08-22 11:30:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i would get my 1/2 of the stuff sell the sh!t and travel with your pooch.
2007-08-22 11:31:22 · answer #8 · answered by glitsyjewels 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
work and party
2007-08-22 11:29:30 · answer #9 · answered by bigboobs17 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋