I threatened my husband that if he continued to not come home every night...?

Question

that I'd divorce him. That didn't work. So I threatened that I'd kill myself. Now he comes home every night. Was it wrong to threaten him that I'd commit suicide if he didn't come home?

I know, I'd have to kill myself if he didn't come home some night. What does the Bible say about suicide? I know according to the bible I can't divorce him cause I have no proof of infidelity on his part.

"hello" - site your chapter and verse. Otherwise you are speaking out of your elbow.

Yep, I prayed already. All my pastor says is "God either answers yes, no or wait".

Answer 1

No man is worth killing yourself over. Divorce his butt! This way, the urge to commit suicide will be gone and you will be a much happier person.

Answer 2

Regardless to what the Bible says about suicide (it's not acceptable...by the way), why would you want to do that? Trust me, no man is worth your life over something as trivial as that! If he doesn't come home enough to keep you happy, then there are better ways to communicate besides suicide!

Rather than threats, try to find out why he doesn't come home every night. Let me know how you feel about that (without threatening him) and see if you can come to some understanding. A marriage based on fear, threats, and distrust isn't much of a marriage.

The two of you need to understand one another's needs, work together to meet them, and learn ways to communicate and please each other instead of manipulating one another.

And if he is staying out all night on occassion, he'd better have a darn good story to disprove infidelity.

Answer 3

Suicide is a sort of unforgivable sin. No, suicide is a faithless act that basically says "God I dont care about what you want for my life, I just want to end it." It contradicts everything Jesus tells us to do in Matthew 28:19.

Is pain and suffering fun? No it isnt. Did most of us ask for the pain and suffering we have and will suffer throughout life? No. But its part of that unwritten agreement each of us signs before we enter this life that we are responsible for the curses of sin and the bad things that come our way. Our character as well as our relationship with God is defined by how we handle these things. Suicide is the faithless way to go in any situation.

We need to use what precious little time we have on earth to serve God and not give in to evil or death.

Likewise, a good marriage is achieved through giving love, not manipulation.

Answer 4

I really don't know if you're being serious or not ... but if you are, do you honestly want someone to stay with you because they're afraid that you're going to commit suicide?

Infidelity and adultery mean several things. It doesn't always mean sleeping with someone else. There is such a thing as emotional infidelity, also. The Bible also says that if he is happy to leave, let him leave. He's obviously not happy in your marriage or he wouldn't be staying out all night.

Your life is a gift from God ... seems pretty pointless to throw it away just to make a point to someone who doesn't appreciate you anyway.

Answer 5

I am sorry you are going through this, but threats can not make him love you and I think you may have to come to terms with that.

I am sure you know that the bible would not condone you committing suicide. I think it would be a bigger mistake on your part because it may be a relieve to him if he already wants the marriage to end.

You have to love yourself whether he love you or not. You giving him threats make you sound desperate. You have to chose if you can live with what he is offering you. If so carry your cross, if not give him an ultimatum. Change or leave. If he really loves you he w ill fight for your marriage and if not he will leave. You have control only over yourself. If he doesn't want you someone else will.

Please love yourself.

Answer 6

Did you try anything aside from threats beforehand? Like just letting him know that his coming home late is disrespectful, makes you worry, and makes you suspicious of him? If he still does so, blatantly in defiance of your feelings, you should either grin and bare, do some investigating, or just divorce him; the Bible could care less. It's not right to threaten him with suicide, and it is better to divorce him than to kill yourself.

Answer 7

Are you one of those who choose which things in the bible to obey and ignore other teachings? Are you not worried about other things in the bible your not complying with? Or are you a perfect child of god. The bible also states to stay away from evil. Do you have bitterness in your heart over your husbands actions. I'm not trying to bust your chops but just trying to open your eyes. If you are bitter and unhappy get away from the source of the negativity. Nothing good comes out of negativity. Negativity is a blinding evil force. God is an enlightening positive force.

Answer 8

How is killing yourself the solution. Why dont you strong enough and enlighned enough to positively influence your husband to be a better person. Let me tell you their are alot of women who are in a worse position then you. Its about time you face the reality and start to learn the depth of Life. Dont be afraid , the road though is full of obsticles but you will happy once you cross it. Be strong enough to face the situation, dont make it a burden on yourself. Suicide is not the solution, it just means you let all the problems get to your head and they won. Start to have more confidence in your self, there are alot of people who will help you out, only you gotta know when to ask for help. God bless you!

Answer 9

I think you were right to threaten to divorce your husband if he did not come home every night.

It is wrong on many levels to threaten suicide in order to get your husband to come home and it is wrong to threaten suicide under any condition. Do not take this offensively but if you are willing to threaten and actually go through with suicide, I believe you are mentally unstable and that you should seek counseling. It is unhealthy to want to threaten to or do something as extreme as taking your own life over marital problems. You may think that this has solved your problems because your husband is coming home at night now, but it hasn't. The only reason he is coming home now as opposed to before is because he fears you are mentally unstable.

The first thing you need to do is seek help for yourself. You need counseling for threatening suicide and you need counseling for your dependence on your husband. You do not need to feel like you NEED him in your life in order to be happy.

ONLY once you have healed yourself can you begin to heal your marriage. Threatening suicide is NOT the way to heal your marriage. Marriage counseling is.

Answer 10

Wow, pretty personal stuff here and I'd say that if you are a Christian you need not do anything but pray.
Forget suicide, it's the easy way out and it's not Gods will for your life so with that being said it is sin. Not sin that takes away salvation but sin that is pretty bad and certainly loss of reward in heaven.