I'm a single mom of a 7 yr old, and guys these days seem to want a wife/mother or to play "dad" to my son! What ever happened to going out and having fun, without looking to get serious? Two failed marriages have me somewhat gun shy...... but I do enjoy the company of a good guy that is fun to be with. Where are all the "real men" in this world?????? Have things really changed that much ? Somebody tell me what is going on!
2007-08-22 02:54:16 · 13 answers · asked by Kim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me elaborate.... I can take care of myself, my childs father does the "father thing" with him, and I refuse to introduce him to men I date, unless things eventually get serious. The men I am refering to want to rush into a relationship, and I don't want that at this time. I am enjoying being single, spending time with my son, and doing what I want to do in life, for a change! I don't feel the need to have a man take care of me, I can do that on my own. But it would be nice to date guys that understand that.
2007-08-22 03:06:45 · update #1
You guys are HARSH!!!! I'm not looking for drunks, guys don't come to my place, and my son IS #1 at all times. I didn't date for a year after my divorce because I wanted to devote all my time to my son. Is it so wrong to want to go out and have "fun" (this does not mean random sex), without it automatically turning into a "relationship"? My nights out are occasional, and I think I deserve a little fun in my life.
2007-08-22 03:12:39 · update #2
Yeahh I have no clue either.....I hate it when they try to be too buddy buddy with my son (7) too soon..it's kind of a turn off cause it seems to soon and somewhat fake..plus they are too clingy and want to be serious right away..
When you're not looking I think that's when a real man comes along.
2007-08-22 03:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand... The guys you're dating are trying to settle down with you and your son, but you don't like that? Not a typical single mom...
Most want a man to settle down with them and become a reliable father figure. Probably because whoever is the biological father left, and she doesn't want it to happen again.
However, it seems like you don't have that fear of ending up with another kid and no dad. Good for you, but keep in mind that your child should now be your top priority, not yourself.
As for the question, I'm sure you can find a guy that would love to "have fun" with you and not care about your kid... There are plenty of immature boys out there!
In my opinion, the "real men" are the ones that want to be your child's dad! It takes some major maturity to accept some other guy's kid as their own...
2007-08-22 03:00:14 · answer #2 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now wait a minute. A single mother that doesn't want a mature guy that wants a life?
So you're basically saying you want a chauvanistic pig that's out to get drunk and act like an idiot...wow. Really, just wow.
Well, first, don't intro them to your son.Second, don't take them to your place.
Good luck
EDIT....Ok hon, I'm confused. You don't intro them to your son, unless thay aren't "real men", because you're getting serious. But then complain about them being a figure for your son. But you don't want anything "serious" but you've had these problems. I am truly confused and you sound about as confused as you made me on this one.
2007-08-22 03:04:49 · answer #3 · answered by chaoss13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Great! You've got a kid, but you're so terminally shallow you don't want to settle down and find a dad for your kid! What do you want to do? $crew your idiot brains out with every Tom, Dick, and Harry and make a bunch more fatherless kids, all in the name of "having fun"? How pathetic!
2007-08-22 04:16:59 · answer #4 · answered by Theodore H 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good Morning Kim,
Yes... there are Only a Few of US.... left out Here!
No one can .... Play Dad.. to your Son... except His Real Dad!
Maybe that is what is the Problem? In as few.... as 12-Years your SON... may not be At Home... any Longer?
DO... you want ... FUN.... or... TO MATURE... Your SON?
HIS.... Maturation is Determined ON.... Your relationship with HIM.... and his Biological Father!
Or... that of ... HIS.... Absentee... FATHER?
The QUESTION... and.... Solutions... Are Complex.... and ... Multi-Faceted!
The PROBLEM.... just didn't happen... OVERNIGHT... and there are NO Quick.... FIXES!
Feel free to contact me for.... More?
Thanks, RR
2007-08-22 03:06:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Real men??? do not ever call men who get drunk and party and sleep with women real, they are very gross, a real man has responsibilities, and is mature enough to not mind that you have a son...
2007-08-22 03:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by Tea Crazed Person. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, a "real man" IS one that wants to be a husband for you and a father to your kids.
You seem confused about terminology.
What you're looking for isn't a "real man"...but a "player".
2007-08-22 03:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by Mika 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there are real men out there, women just don't take the time to go find one. go to a club, what do you see? girls hanging out by the walls, and then girls dancing with each other pretending to be lezbians... girls in this country are stupid, I'm sorry, you complain about not finding a good man, yet you do nothing to change it...
2007-08-22 03:00:03 · answer #8 · answered by EBA_Devil 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe your looking in the wrong places. if you dont let a guy know what you want, what do you expect? plus if you dont want to date mr. mom, dont. date who you like, weather you have children or not.
2007-08-22 03:00:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
huh??? i don't think dat you hv mind in your head or you would hv not bben searching the father of your son on the net.....
2007-08-22 03:13:39 · answer #10 · answered by Dennis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋