We have been going out for a little over 9 months. THe first few months, we had it regularly and she was completely satisfied. I put her first in everything. I was the first one to make her orgasm orally. She said that for the last few weeks, she doesn't get excited by my body anymore. Naturally, a hit to the ego. However, I know that it might not be that. For some reason, she feels guilty after getting an orgasm and I think that is what is bothering her. She also doesn't have interest doing anything to herself. The last time we did it, it was one of the best times, if not, the best. That was in July. We've only had sex once after that and there wasn't anything there. She takes the pill too. Would it be out of the question that shes not interested in me because she's lost her sex drive? If so, how can I help her get it back?
2007-08-22 02:50:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you sure she lost it all together, or just with you. My ex lost it with me, but not with a bunch of other guys.
2007-08-22 02:56:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long has she been taking the pill for? Sometimes the hormones in the pill can make a girl feel depressed and not want to have sex.
I don't think its you. You should try connecting with her emotionally. Make her feel very loved and happy, that sometimes helps the sex drive come back because she feels that you want more from her then just sex!
Good Luck!
2007-08-22 09:58:09 · answer #2 · answered by inlove 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It can be a number of things... She could not be sexually attracted to you. Or like you said shes on the pill. She might need more Estrogen. You can lose your drive with that too. She should see a doctor, if she really thinks that this is a health issue.
Good Luck
2007-08-22 10:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous Cee-Cee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key in my opinion: Just touch her in a non intimate way A LOT, let her feel that you are not trying to have sex, just talk and hugs and message. BE PATIENT let her do the next move when she is ready, and even then let her take control of what you do sexually (like she on top) do not tell her what to do or what you prefer, but let her know you love her.
2007-08-22 10:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by hiron30mt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's this funny thing called hormones....it plays havoc on a woman's mind and body at times...if she recently started taking the pill then I would have to say that is the culprit to her losing her sex drive...ask her to talk to her Dr about it if it doesn't improve in a month or 2 . Good Luck
2007-08-22 10:02:45 · answer #5 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know there is thousand of pills out there!
I do understand man need to take those, but when comes to women, than the thing is really serious.
If taking pills she lost her sex drive, you are better off alone!!!
Find someone else and live happily ever after!
2007-08-22 10:00:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well get creative. she is probably tired of doing the same thing or the same routine. try something different. it was the same thing with me and my fiance because i was scared to show my true sexual side because its really wild. now she is almost just as open. he is the stuff we try when we get board.
role play, toys, different places, pools, somewhere we can get caught, act like its a one night stand, buy customs, go to Spencer's(a store in owings mills mall( they have interesting stuff like poles and games), watch porn and try to compete with the people in the movie, threesome, get books in different positions, take nasty classes together( we are still looking for one so if you find one let me know), phone then real sex, or every Saturday take turns acting out one of your fantasies. try to start off light and work up to the heavy stuff but have the understanding that both of you will be open minded and not spoil it for the other person.
have fun!!!! email me if you need any more ideas. I have a lot more.
2007-08-22 10:08:34 · answer #7 · answered by beautifull103087 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What if it's not her sex drive at all... what if there is someone else who she finds more interesting... what if it's something else that she just isn't telling you... I would really dig deeper and try to find answers...
2007-08-22 09:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by Always Wondering 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Amazing!! You sound just like you are married; what you are going through usually only occurs after you get married.
2007-08-22 09:56:21 · answer #9 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, if you've been going together nine months, she probably thinks you're old and boring by now!
2007-08-22 09:56:41 · answer #10 · answered by Theodore H 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋