can someone give me some ideas how to fix a broken heart,,i cant go to back her as the situation is crazy,, she always blackmailing me.so i got to move on but i tempted to go back,,,,,,,,,,,,help please
2007-08-22 02:21:34 · 12 answers · asked by sedgwick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what i don't understand is the term broken heart..i always tend to see things in terms of the mind...the heart besides being a figurative element in our speech is nothing but an organ...if u really want to consider it its your mind that feels broken...your mind that sees and feels. as difficult as it is...its important to keep moving on....if she is blackmailing you and u love her then that love is one sided...all love is tru till it lasts but once its gone from either end its time to push aside the emotional tumult and walk on bc there always will be greater and better things to pursue. time and importance taken away from person or thing is time and importance that can be invested elsewhere and with a little bit of precaution u may just invest it in the right place.
2007-08-22 03:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well there is no exact answers to that question but I will tell you what I did, it helped me.
First think with your brain instead of your heart, don't let your heart over-rule your head.
Second, sit down and write down all the bad things you can think of why you don't want to be with that person.
Third, every-time your heart kicks in read the list to let your brain overtake it.
Forth, keep yourself busy with other things that interest you, if you don't have empty time you won't think about it.
And finally, I know this is an old saying but it's very true, Time does heal! Eventually it will not hurt so much but I'm not going to lie and say that it will go away because it wont.
It will however strengthen you, every lesson we learn in life does that, eventually it will be placed in the back of your mind as a life experience and it won't hurt you any more but it will take time. The amount of time depends on how deep the wound is and how fast you heal.
Good Luck!
2007-08-22 09:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by unknown friend 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know how lucky you are. Far worse is not knowing whether to go back or not. Also, if you are tempted to go back, apparently she didn't ruin your life too badly, which is also good.
So consider yourself lucky but you also have a chance to practice self-denial anyway. And this will better prepare you for a few difficulties you are bound to encounter in the future.
2007-08-22 09:35:25 · answer #3 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I know how it is. I had a crush on a guy in college and I wanted him bad. Well, I didn't have the guts to talk to him and I never saw him again after the 3rd semester. I was disappointed. Yet, at the same time, I had hope that we would one day meet again and maybe be together. Well, it's been 6 years since that time and being the idiot that I am I never went out with anyone or anything like that....I saved myself for him ...... come to find out recently, I looked on his My Space page (I just happened to remember his last name and type that into my space and find his page) and found out that he was married!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I was so mad!
2007-08-22 10:53:45 · answer #4 · answered by sarah a 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really does hurt like hell, i've got a broken heart also and its been 6 months.
I found this book and it helped me think differently tho, you could try it
'the four agreements' by Don Miguel Ruiz
It helped me think about things differently and stopped me assuming things so much.
2007-08-22 09:31:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
read the book "how to get over a broken heart"
it has some real practical things in it
how to cope with the good memories and stuff xxx
2007-08-22 10:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by bec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have fun wit ur buddies! do d things tat u've wanted 2 do so much but couldn't when u're wit her.(legal things she prevents u 2 do) go 4 a short trip wit ur guy frenz n meet new people. make frenz wit them. tell urself it's over, i have 2 move on n it's not worth crying over some1 who always put me down. tell urself tat everytime u wakes up n b4 u went 2 bed. repeat tis everyday until d feeling(hurt) is gone. it will eventually, wit perseverances!
2007-08-22 09:41:51 · answer #7 · answered by 26250403 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that your relationship was crap and that you can't spend the rest of your life like that... come on now. Think about that. long enough and you'll get over that hump in time.
2007-08-22 09:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by Challah back Girl... 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you don't you have to just put it down to experience and get on with your life .time will help [sorry]
2007-08-22 15:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by NORMA P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make yourself hate them lol, think of al the things they done to hurt,upset and anoy you! you will be fine in no time!!!
2007-08-22 09:32:33 · answer #10 · answered by smartypants 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋