as u all can read from previous postings my bf decided he gave up on us after a year, so last thurs (almost 2 weeks ago) was the last time i spoke to him well this sat/sun he sent me a text saying hello and another saying how are u doing, i replied good and u, but he never came back after my reply. never has called yet and were going on 2 weeks not tlking just textn . i was cleaning i found some books of his, i sent him a text asking him when did he want me to mail them to his house, hes out of town now and i didnt want to clog his box up with these big books, he replied back why dont you bring them to me when i get home. i said for several reason and after i made that comment he didnt reply back to me. i have texted him several times after this to find out what he wanted me to do with the books since i do not want them but i get no response from him. Does this mean he still wants to be with me and wants to see me or why is he doing this to me? please i need some help understanding men
2007-08-22 01:24:39 · 10 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that he has made it very clear that he does not have time to talk to you . Just leave the books in a bag by his homes door and dont speak to him anymore about it . Move on and it is time . good luck .
2007-08-22 01:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly....it is way too soon. Even though he dumped you, it may be very hard for him. Maybe he always thought it would lead somewhere....maybe he feels guilty for hurting you, maybe he recognizes that he is partially at fault for it not working.
I say send him the book via mail. Then continue the no contact. You both need some real time to figure out what you each want and what is actually best for each of you. At most send him a text saying you sent the books, and that you will be availible/there for him if he needs you....then let it lay.
You can't force someone to want to be with you or love you....he must make the decision that it is the right or wrong place for him. He needs space, and he probably sent a text to you, you assuage his guilt....or because he is unsure. Either way....i hate playing games....but in your case, professing love may just backfire....give him the space he and you both need.
2007-08-22 08:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by someguy_in_halifax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds pretty confused to me. Looks like he chases after you only after you ignore him. So my opinion is you stop texting him and just mail the books to him. Whenever he texts you don't reply immediately. Let him wait. Don't reply with a question like you are waiting for an answer from him (like, when he asks "how are you?", just reply "Great, thanks" instead of "Great, and u?". Be dignified. It's funny, but most people are annoyed when they break up with someone and that someone doesn't fall apart but continues a happy life without them.
However, if you don't like playing power games, just send him the books and ignore all his texts.
2007-08-22 08:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by Martha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is for sure giving you mixed signals and it is annoying because it is easy to read it as he is holding on to you and involving you emotionally by saying nothing l think he is struggling with his feelings but at the same time he doesnt want to alarm you..if you continue with the communication cycle the more he will confuse you because there are moments he will confess he still loves you..then what will you do then? send the books you have done your part.even if it means delivering them yourself...and stop giving reason to you getting back because that is a gray area now
2007-08-22 08:36:20 · answer #4 · answered by judie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, with what you've described, being a guy myself, i dun think he is instigating a patch-up. instead, i feel that ur ex-bf is just plain bored and perhaps needed some kind of attention. even if he really do want you back, its a huge risk u gotta take, coz i dun think he's sincere enough.
2007-08-22 08:33:46 · answer #5 · answered by Stanley B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you guys dated for a year you should be comfortable and honest with one another. If he doesn't reply throw his books away. Don't sound desperate. it's over
2007-08-22 08:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by yazmin21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him and move on.
He is now playing with you
Post those books.
Find a new bf and move on.
Forget him or you will get very much hurt... and we don wnat you to get hurt.
All the best
2007-08-22 08:52:44 · answer #7 · answered by Ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is past you, but probably entertaining the thought that he might have sex with you again if you visit him.
give the books to a friend to pass on to him and stop texting him.
the relationship is over.
move on.
2007-08-22 08:36:20 · answer #8 · answered by Aleksandr M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like he wants to be with you but he wants his freedom as well, maybe he is just confused give him space, if he wants to be with you he will get in touch, if he does not then he must not want to be in the relationship you had
2007-08-22 08:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probly just wants to see you cause he misses you. Hes not talking to you now cause you were rude to him.
2007-08-22 08:31:21 · answer #10 · answered by Thing H. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋