Will god ever forgive me?My ex hates me?

Question

My ex hates me and it kills me to think of it. I know I did wrong to him i.e. got angry and insulted his family etc which I regret now. The last argument we had I hit him with my umbrella he just got me so mad but even depite it all I still love him and cannot get him out my sysytem. He says he's dating another gal now and that kills me. I have a man now but I still miss my ex. I regeret the way i was to him and wish he would at least meet me but the last time he said he would he then said he didnt want to meet me. This is hard but I trust in god so it shouldnt be but any one ever expereinced this?

The fact that he says he has been dating some one for 2 weeks is killing me. I know I am christian and I beleiev e in god should help but i am finding it sooo hard!

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Think the thing that hurts me most is the fact that he has met someone else and I cant help but thinking that shes loads better than me in every way thiugh I have never met her? And the fact he hates me does not really help? I know these feelings or thoughts are not of god but I am finding this really difficult.

But I dont think i can get over this i HAVE prayed and prayed and it keeps getting worse I feel like i have this weight upon me and i keep thinking of him with this girl and that totally kills me i feel like god has left me i know he has not but i feel so totally lost

But I dont think i can get over this i HAVE prayed and prayed and it keeps getting worse I feel like i have this weight upon me and i keep thinking of him with this girl and that totally kills me i feel like god has left me i know he has not but i feel so totally lost

Answer 1

to forgive is human, to err is divine why not write to him and explain how you feel, maybe the breakup was hard on him too and he maybe needs time to come to terms with your break up, but please give him time and space and I am sure at some point he will forgive you, it may not be today this week even this year, but I promise if you keep hassling him forgiveness will be the last thing on his mind

Answer 2

If you insulted his family and assaulted him, then you have probably done irreperable harm to that relationship and you should forget him and get on with your life. You will grieve for a while, and that means going through the suffering that you now experience. Be patient, because if you let yourself experience the pain (rather than bottling it inside), it should heal eventually. Perhaps send him a message saying you're sorry and that you understand that you should go separate ways might help bring a sense of closure.

One thing I feel I should add is that God is unhappy with sexual relationships outside of marriage. If by "you have a man now" you mean that you are engaging in sexual activity, then you should stop because it is sin. Of course if you mean you're just going out with someone, that's a different matter. Even so, why are you seeing someone else when you haven't resolved your feelings for your former boyfriend?

If you feel God has deserted you, then you need to try and be objective (yes it's not easy) and work out whether it's because:
(a) you've done something sinful (e.g. assaulted someone and haven't asked for forgiveness, sex outside of marriage, whatever) and you subconsciously realize that you have no right to feel enjoyment of your relationship with God; or
(b) you're simply upset about what happened--and you have every right to be--and your life is a bit of a mess at the moment.

Of course it could be a mixture of both. Try and put right what you can, ask God for forgiveness for what you might have done wrong (which he will give if you are in a saving relationship with him through Christ), trust in him that he has forgiven you.

Take life slowly, a day at a time. You have suffered a great loss and it will take time to heal. Try and do things to take your mind off your loss, such as going out with friends or engaging in some hobby. Yes, it might feel like you're going throught the motions and you can't really enjoy it, but accept that and make the best of distractions like that to help you through the darkest days ahead.

Answer 3

The question is not will God forgive you -you know the answer to that and it is yes. The real question is:

Will you be able to forgive yourself?

Your ex doesn't hate you or he wouldn't have talked to you to decline a meeting. Your ex is afraid of getting involved with you again -and rightly so. You "abused" him with your words AND an umbrella.

You know you acted poorly (and it is hard when we know these things -especially when we have someone/thing to remind us of this). You are right that these negative feelings you have are not from God. God does not want us feeling like we're useless and unforgivable. However, God does want us to learn from our mistakes.

The best way (IMO) to remedy this situation for yourself is to recognize and accept that it was because of your negative behavior that you "lost" your ex. Recognize and accept that your ex is trying to put himself back together again in finding a new girl. Recognize and accept that if you continue on this path of anger and violence that you will eventually be alone. Recognize and accept that you CAN change yourself -not the mind of your ex.

The best way to "get over it" is to live your life appropriately. Treat your new man with respect and dignity. God is using this time to develop your character and to iron out the kinks. Be thankful and grateful that He showed you the error of your ways before you landed in jail - or while you still had a chance to do a better job with what you have been given.

Answer 4

You need to get your unresolved feelings out. Write him a letter apoligizing about what happened. Tell him how sorry you are that things turned out the way they did. Recognize that he may not respond, but you'll definately have left a better impression of yourself than what he has of you now. Two weeks is NOT a lot of time to give yourself to get over something like this. A broken heart can take a long, long time to heal. Give yourself space and time. Talk to a good friend about your feelings. If you're still feeling totally hopeless about the situation after a couple of months, you may be having some trouble with depression and you need to talk to a professional. We've all been here and it totally sucks, but it gets better (I promise!) with time.

Answer 5

If you still feel your relationship is worth salvaging, you should tell him so in a place where it is public yet not around her. You may have to come to grips with the fact that this is the beginning of the ultimate and subsequent dissolution of you two and may need to move on now.

If the love is truly there you two will meet in the middle and resolve your differences but in today's world as you know, many couples just split because one or the other is not willing to reconcile putting forth the effort that is necessary to mend wounds and make the effort to rekindle, to make the valiant effort it takes to make things work.

Also, if both parties apply Godly principles that is such a strong foundation and with these Godly principles can a relationship truly turn itself around and have a chance at being healthy. Other influences such as new mates, adultery or fornication only add to the delimma and are a sure bet of further destruction of a marriage rather than building it up.

Both of you must apply Bible principles and standards in order to overcome the demonistic ones that plague most failed relationships today. It's an arduous task but if both parties love God and love each other surely this will eventually work and satan will stand no chance.

One other thing, I notice you said ex? Are you just ex mates or marriage spouses? This is important.

Also, God will forgive, but your ex may not. Apply Godly principles for any chance, both of you. You may have to come to the realization that maybe it is just over and you need to move on. You wouldn't be the first to have to work thru this as many, many of us have experienced the break up of our loved ones and marriage mates.

Answer 6

Listen - give up! Turn is over to God, asking that He forgive you - get down on your hands and knees and talk to God. He will listen as you say you are a Christian. Then tell your ex that you are asking his forgiveness and then let go. There is nothing else that can be done. If you have asked for forgiveness from your ex and he does not give it to you - you have done all that is required of you. You tried your best. Now dear one after all this - trust that God will take care of it - believe that He is in control. Blessings dear one. God is so good!

Answer 7

Really a partner should be there for you when you are having a difficult time. That is what relationships are all about. Its understanding he is hesitant becaus he may feel that if you through another patch then you may push him away again. Read here https://tr.im/6Rtoy

I am going through something similar, but she hasnt made any contact to come back to me, and I know even though I may want her, I would be hesitant because of the possibility of going through the same thing again.

I dont know how long you have been apart, but dont pester him to get back with you, although it would be good for you to let him know your feelings, and that you are sorry for pushing him aside.

If he is willing to chat, then great, if he is reluctant, just offer to be a friend maybe, but you have to know that it does not mean he will come back to you.

He will care about you, even after what iv gone through...feelings dont just dissapear no matter what he may say. Stick in there. only time will tell.

If you get another chance, then make the most of it and never let him go awain because if you do, he will never come back. I really hope it works out for you. Its a difficult thing to go through.

Answer 8

try talking to other people rather than god, you'd get more sense. Looks like you haven't let go of your ex, you probably don't want him but you hate the idea of someone else having him. Best let him go (ie avoid him for a while) these feelings do get better with time.
As for forgiveness, learn to forgive yourself, god's forgiveness is a bit abstract and you won't find out till you are pushing up daisies anyway.

Answer 9

Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/WQ7MW

Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 10

I think part of your problem is that you can't forgive yourself, so that you don't believe God can. Stop beating yourself up, and I know this can be easier said than done, but as you appear to be moving on, let the past go. The more you look behind, the less easy it will be to move forward!!

God loves you so much, and is waiting to hear from you, He knows your heartache even before you tell Him.

Answer 11

letting go of the anger within yourself and forgiving yourself is healing and more healthy for yourself
lm sure your ex is only angry as well,
onl;y time can heAL his feelings of hate
hating yourself can only be helpful if you learn the reasons why you hate yourself and try not to repeat it again some other way
letting go is more beneficial for yourself and your ex,you could try writing a letter to explain the feelings you feel towards the wrong doing but not expect him to like you for the actions towards him at that time,he may forgive he may not but sometimes writing it down can be helpful in healing forgiving and letting go
its the actions you did wrong and that is something you can be aware of in the future and change them
cheer up and dont be too hard on yourself we all make mistakes in life and learn from them
good luck to you and your future
yes god forgives