Tell me that I did the right thing? He was a dream. He was also married?

Question

About a week ago, I met a gorgeous, articulate man. When we talked, it really was talking to a soul mate. I've never felt so understood....so connected. He's a retired SEAL. The real hero type. And, as charismatic as the day is long.

Problem was....he was married and had children. I've never felt so tempted in my whole life. I really want this man. But, I can't do that to those kids....to his wife...a woman who has never done me any wrong,

I hurt already. He really was so perfect for me. I can't imagine what it would have done to me to really become involved with him.

Tell me my decision to not "go there" was right. Tell my I'm not an overly naive 40 yr. old.

Answer 1

You did the right thing, it was very good of you to think of the children and for his wife that she did nothing wrong to you.

But if he was to cheat on his wife then he is not happy in that relationship he needs to think of getting out of it.

i say again you did the right thing he is the one that has to make a decision.

Answer 2

A man who is perfect for you is not a married man with children who is looking for someone else. If he would cheat on his wife and family, then he might just do it again if you made the poor decision to be with him. Meeting a man and seeing what he has to offer takes far more than one week of observation. He could be many things that wouldn't appeal to you and, obviously, you are bothered by his lack of concern for his own family. Do not look back. You did the right thing. There are many men in this world who are worthwhile, good human beings who have values that you would want in your life; don't make the choice of choosing one who does not have the same values that you would want in a mate. (Many gorgeous, articulate men can make up stories about themselves and can appear to be "heros"; take your time to investigate and be sure that everything you hear is the absolute truth. PS: Even retired Seals can cheat!!) Look out for your best interests and don't settle for less than what you want! Don't ever compromise your principles!

Answer 3

You did the right thing not "going there" with this very attractive man--you acknowledged your attraction, accepted it, and then you didnt act on it because you knew it was wrong.

Temptation can come to us in some pretty good packages and you might be in a time in your life when you are ready for "the" one--maybe marriage. Please remain true to what is right---stay away from this married man---if he does contact you, do not reply no matter how tempting--his wife and kids will thank you and remember, if this gorgeous man will be unfaithful to his wife----he will be unfaithful to you.

You are an attractive lady--there will be another man for you down the road---a single, gorgeous, articulate , soul mate and it will be right--- without guilt.

You will never regret being a good girl---some good guy is watching.

Answer 4

you did the right and only thing you could do because if you had went there and he had too,do you think you could have trusted him to not go there with someone else while he was with you?i've done it before so i know what i'm talking about and it does not lead to a happy place because 9 times out of 10 he wont leave his wife for you and where is that going to take you?nowhere but a broken heart and a lonely soul.you think your hurting now but if you and he had a took this further,it would have been much worse and took a lot longer to get over,if you ever did.pat yourself on the back for this one,you deserve it.

Answer 5

I'm trying to understand how you could be so hurt about a man you've only known for 2 weeks? Understand that if he's married and was willing to get involved with you, he is not the man you think he is. Stop allowing your imagination to run wild. And don't get hung up on a man's titles. It's what's inside the man that counts; and in 2 weeks, you couldn't have learned much about this guy. Move on.

Answer 6

i think dumping him was the right thing to do .
going with a married man is wrong and those kids . i am happy To here there are good people out there ! my sis lost her husband to a lady he started seeing from his work .
long story short he married this lady [if you can call her that] and now the lady is upset and drinking all the time cause her husband is now dating a new single lady . some men don't change there color! so yes dumping him is the best thing to do .
there are many better fish in the sea for you one that is worthy of you !

Answer 7

Well thank god for you, I was starting to think noone had any morals anymore, since most people just go for what seems good for them. You actually went for whats better for other people not just your self but in the long run it was better for you too. He probably wouldn't have left his wife and would have broke your heart and his wife's heart. You did the right thing, I'm glad there are still people who know right from wrong.

Answer 8

You did the right thing! If he left his wife and children for you, would you still say that he is perfect? Would he cheat on another woman again when a similar situation occurred?

Answer 9

Applause, Applause!!!! Finally someone with morals. And YES you did the right thing. It's rare to hear someone concerned about the wife. I totally agree that his wife shouldn't be punished for something she has nothing to do with. Nobody seems to think about them and how they will suffer. He can't be YOUR soul mate until he lets go of his marriage. Congrats to you for thinking about someone other than yourself. If others would do this maybe the divorce rate wouldn't be so high!!!

Answer 10

First off, I am sorry that your in pain, but know you did the right thing. We need more people like you in the world with self control as you showed.... well if it is meant to be, someway some how something will work out that you two can be together, if not, at least feel fortunate enough to have met him!!!!