My ex hates me?
My ex hates me and it kills me to think of it. I know I did wrong to him i.e. got angry and insulted his family etc which I regret now. The last argument we had I hit him with my umbrella he just got me so mad but even depite it all I still love him and cannot get him out my sysytem. He says he's dating another gal now and that kills me. I have a man now but I still miss my ex. I regeret the way i was to him and wish he would at least meet me but the last time he said he would he then said he didnt want to meet me. This is hard but I trust in god so it shouldnt be but any one ever expereinced this?
The fact that he says he has been dating some one for 2 weeks is killing me. I know I am christian and I beleiev e in god should help but i am finding it sooo hard!
2007-08-22 00:40:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Think the thing that hurts me most is the fact that he has met someone else and I cant help but thinking that shes loads better than me in every way thiugh I have never met her? And the fact he hates me does not really help? I know these feelings or thoughts are not of god but I am finding this really difficult.
2007-08-22 01:07:43 · update #1
Seems like you should be seeking your ex's forgiveness, not God's.
2007-08-22 00:45:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am confused over your question so I can imagine your ex is confused by your intentions as well.
Maybe I'm reading between the lines, but you seem to be a bit of a controller, self centered and manipulative. Sorry, don't mean to be cruel, but just an observation in what you said and the way you said it.
You show a disrespect for God and Christianity by using a small g and c. Probably an unconscious thing but a true reflection of your real thoughts.
If you were really wanting to seek God and His guidance, you would first approach Him with reverence.
As to your ex, why are you upset that he is with another woman when you're with another man? Isn't this a double standard?
My mother always taught me to treat others the way you want to be treated. Jesus taught us the greatest gift is Love.
If you really love your ex and are not just jealous because he has moved on, why not write him a letter and tell him you made of lot of mistakes and understand why he no longer wants to be around you - that you acted on impulse without thoughts of what it was doing to your relationship. Tell him why you love him and would like a second chance.
Why do you love him?
God is always forgiving for those who seek Him with a repentent heart. Is God in you life at all times or just when you need someone to come to your rescue?
Sorry, but I think you have some real issues to work out. You can't control other people's lives. You need to step back and take a hard look at yourself and try to improve you - not others. People loose their temper - it happens. This doesn't make you a bad person. If your ex was causing problems that caused you to react the way you did, then he is involved in your response as well. Relationships are a two-way street and take two people to make it work.
When you love and respect yourself and place God in the center of your life, your love will show to all who see and know you. You will become a reflection of God's Love living inside you. So maybe the first place you should start to work things out is with your church minister, pastor or priest so they can help guide you.
I pray the Love of God will surround you and show you His real Love for you, that He will comfort you and show you the true meaning of Love.
John 3:16
For God so loved the world He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in Him will not perish but have everlasting Life.
2007-08-22 01:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by Naturescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you claim to be a Christian, you showed a very poor way of showing it, you don't say if he is a Christian, You made have to understand that the relationship is over. Date someone in the Lord Only. Yes God will forgive you, Sometimes an arguement is over nothing but jealousy, & jealousy is like cancer. Let him make the first move, if he came back to you & you will hate him becaused he is dating someone else, you then will once again be at each others throats. Wait On God, Good Luck.
2007-08-22 00:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
trusting another being to stop pain is silly if he doesn't want to see you accept it and move on. i had a very messy breakup with one of my exes 9 years ago and I only go over her properly when i realised i had to live in the present not the past. i think you are scared to be alone as you say you have another boyfriend but are still wanting your ex. will you destroy one relationship to be with him or will you realise your lucky that you have someone to share your life with at present and make the most of it.
i don't believe in god but i don't thing the universe forgives or condemns we do that ourselves
2007-08-22 01:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by manapaformetta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send a letter to your ex and apologize. Then move on with your life. I think you are forgetting about all of the things that are special and great about you and are giving over too much of your power to someone else.
You are responsible for your happiness. Not him. Take control of that and you'll be fine.
2007-08-22 00:49:57 · answer #5 · answered by Bran McMuffin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
breaking up with someone is so hard and it's natural for you to feel sadness and regret. it doesn't sound like the happiest relationship and maybe better in some way that you have split up.
just give yourself some time and you too will move on and maybe meet someone else and be happy.
2007-08-22 07:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by katrina c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's water under the bridge, don't let the devil beat you up anymore over it. If you apologized and asked God to forgive you, He did. It was a terrible life's lesson, but you can still be happy, if you give this situation to God and go on.
2007-08-22 01:09:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe what you should do is to say sorry to your ex. Then better to leave him alone. C'mon girl, he's now with someone new. And you too are with someone. Relationship problems could be as complicated as math, but every one of us has to create our own method to solve them.
2007-08-22 01:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by narnia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is all forgiving.
We have the choice of what to do and we sometimes do what we shouldn't do.
I am sure you will work it out. It is time to move on and forget about your ex and what went on.
2007-08-22 00:48:42 · answer #9 · answered by Beanbag 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Welcome to the REAL world Sarah, all the stuff that just happened is all part of "it", if you know what that means since you are a Christian, and no its not punishment some people have it worse
2007-08-22 00:46:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋