since i had sex with my bf a couple of days ago, i felt sore and red down there, i only noticed a little white rash on the tip of his penis after! :O im seriously freaking out here, im so upset as my ex cheated on me too! and ive got depression and my best friend just moved country as it is! without having to find out that my new bf is a cheating scum too! can it be a female thing, or thrush or maybe he wasnt clean and thats why its sore, there isnt any unnormal disscarge or smell! so...
2007-08-18 11:54:40 · 15 answers · asked by x_sofia_x 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
Ok FIRST OF ALL YOU DO NOT DESERVE an STD! Second, you don't even know that you have one yet. Third you are jumping to the conclusion that you have an STD and your boyfriend is cheating without any real evidence ( thank goodness you are not a cop ). Now get a grip, take a deep breath and calm down. You made an adult decision to have sex, one of the reasons society trys to discourage young people from having sex is because they are often unable to appropriately deal with the possible emotional and physical conseqeunces of having sex. So first get to a doctor, or a planned parenthood, to find out what is going on medically down there. It may well be a simple yeast infection and what you saw on his penis was yeast from your own vagina ( but again you need a doctor to confirm this for you DO NOT try to treat yourself before finding out ) Don't douche or do anything else in an effort to clean yourself out it can make it worse if it is an STD and it won't help. Now, don't freak out on your BF either until you know what is going on. Lastly, I don't care what these other people say to you, you do not deserve an STD and they should not be judging you. However I would suggest that you are not well equipped to deal with the anxiety and responsibility of having sex and that this incident and the question you posted proves it. I think you need to do some real research and learn about your own body. I think you need to get with a doctor and really learn about STD's and Birth Control. I think you also need some emotional conseling and a lot more maturity before you engage in sexual activity again. I have nothing against sex. I have something against young women (girls) who are so totally unprepared for it going ahead and trying it and then sometimes being left wth devastating consquences. Lastly if you do have an STD you did not deserve it. I will be sorry if this happens to you. But you find out, do what you can to deal with, and then move forward. Whether you have one or not, learn from this experience. Slow down, do some serious thinking, and work on becoming a real woman. A strong capable independent woman before you put yourself under a man ( any man - or boy ) again. Best of luck dear.
2007-08-19 01:39:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make an appointment with a gynecologist and get tested. Unleft treated you could end up with more serious medical condition. At least this way you will know and not have to freak out about it. If you do have STD, you can give it to anyone that you have sex with. Also, anyone that he has sex with can get it and should be notified by the health department. Your local health department might test you, as well. See help for the depression also with your local doctor.
Good luck.
2007-08-18 12:03:24 · answer #2 · answered by princeton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had unprotected sex then get a test done for STD`s. As you don`t know what he has got or had ,if all tests are clear then you could have a thrush or yeast infection.
A clear test will put your mind at rest ,And many guys will have sex with a known STD as some don`t care about any one but them selves,And the sad thing is men cheat as well as women , as sex is a notch in the belt and they really don`t have great feelings for the women they sleep with.
2007-08-18 12:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by kevinmccleanblack 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should get a STD test done to find out the definite answer. This can be done at your doctor's office or a local planned parenthood office. In the mean time, put off having sex with him, unless you will be using protection. It is not normal for a male to have a little white rash down there. If you do find out if he cheated, I hope you get rid of him. Good Luck!
2007-08-18 12:06:25 · answer #4 · answered by Brat203 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, let's hope he didn't give you anything..because you didn't say that you had had this happen before..sometimes, there is a thing of too much sex...but I don't know about the little white rash there..I would go to the doctors and find out asap...you don't want to be in a situation that there IS something wrong, and it goes unattended..and then please honey, this is why the Lord says Wait till you're married....
2007-08-18 12:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sore and red during sex can mean a lot of things. But a white rash on your bfs part can be something serous. See a doctor
2007-08-18 13:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by Talk Talk 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get away from him and only hope to God its an STD that you can get rid of with antibiotics and not something you will have forever.
I know you are sad/depressed but he needs to go, and you will get better I promise. We all have our different bumpy roads we go through and we all end up ok on the other end.
Good luck
2007-08-18 12:01:13 · answer #7 · answered by brooklyn7582 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you continue to feel sore then you should go and see your doctor. Sadly....YOU did choose to have sex with him...so if you DO get STD`s then its half your fault. Just try to make the best of things and trust that God can lead you through it!!
2007-08-18 12:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie you need to talk to your Dr. ASAP. or you can contact your local heatlh dept. they can also test you. Seems like to me your trying to turn it to where theres something wrong with you and I doubt there is. Its not normal for a guy to have a little white rash on his penis. Please go have yourself checked.
2007-08-18 11:58:54 · answer #9 · answered by Jamiep6 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep a close eye on wats going on, and get urself checked for hiv, and other stds, could be nothing but if it is u want to find out as soon as u can, good luck,
2007-08-18 14:19:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋