At about 2 o´clock today, I asked a friend over for dinner tonight because I made a pot of chili-my husband is out of town, and I didn´t want any leftovers.
At 7:15 I ate, and she called me at 8 and said she was coming over. I asked her if she had eaten and would she like chili, and she said, "oh, I can take it to work tomorrow," to which I replied, "well, you can eat here tonight," and she said,"I already went out with my boyfriend for dinner," so I told her I was going to stick the chili in the freezer for my husband and I to eat another time.
Did I do the right thing-I mean, my house is not a carry out restaurant, or am I stingy?
2007-08-08 10:03:42 · 11 answers · asked by Learning is fun! 4 in Food & Drink ➔ Entertaining
She should have eaten it there or declined the chilli. However, it's just chilli. If you enjoy her company you should have let her come for a visit and taken it with her. You were home alone and she intended to spend time with you. You don't owe her for that but it would have been nice for you to offer. I send guests home with food all the time because I like that they enjoy my cooking.
2007-08-08 10:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by jimmy t 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you have a specific time you were serving the chili? Did you make the invite more like you wanted some company, because you were alone? I'm getting the feeling you said something to the affect " I just threw together a pot of chili, Tom's out of town and I'd enjoy your company, so I won't be alone. She was out with her boyfriend, and put him off to say she was coming over to spend some time with you. You are being hyper sensitive. She probably had plans with him already. Is she having problems in her relationship? I think you are putting too much importance on a pot of chili. Is it worth a friendship?
2007-08-09 03:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by Pat C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you ate before she came over, when you had invited a friend over for dinner...so that was wrong on your part.
But what I don't understand is, if she accepted the invitation, why the hell did she go out with her boyfriend, and not let you know she either had plans prior to, or now had plans with her boyfriend.
Except for the fact that you ate before your guest came over (I wouldn't want to go over to a friends house to eat her food, and just have her sit there watching me because she already ate) you are NOT in the wrong.
2007-08-08 18:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I'm wondering is why she didn't tell you she had other plans for the evening when you first extended the invitation to her?
Clearly, she doesn't respond to spontaneous invitations very well, so be cautious in the future in regards to having her over to share a meal. With friends like her, you have to really "nail down the details." She's kinda loose and free-like. Expects others to be "understanding" of her nature. lol
No, you're not stingy; after all, you gave her at least two alternatives and you did try to "work" with her. She expects a lot from her friends.......huh? ......likes to be pampered?
2007-08-08 17:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by wildflower 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing! You invited your friend over for dinner. How rude that she went out with her boyfriend first after agreeing to come to your house.
2007-08-08 18:47:06 · answer #5 · answered by Mike C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right! She obviously had no intentions of accepting your dinner invite if she went out to dinner w/her boyfriend. She can't expect to then just swing by and pick up some lunch for herself tomorrow. THAT is rude of her. You were right to say what you said.
2007-08-10 13:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was kindof mean, one, you were not being supportive of her and her husband, 2, you practially gave her a ultimatum, either you hang out with me and eat, or if u dont hang out with me, i wont give u the chili i promised. Have fun finding lunch tomorrow! That was kinda rude.
2007-08-08 18:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was RUDE to ditch your invitation like that after accepting it 5 hours earlier... you weren't rude at all... She had a LOT of nerve however asking you to box it up so she could bring it to her work in the morning.... YOU did fine but I would NEVER invite HER over again.... unless it was to DO YOUR DISHES.
2007-08-08 17:10:03 · answer #8 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The type of meal is inconsequential, your friend's lack of manners is NOT. I certainly would not classify this person as a friend. I'd say she owes you an apology for her lateness and effrontery.
2007-08-08 18:08:41 · answer #9 · answered by canuck1950 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You invited her to eat and then told her she couldn't take it with her?????Drama is a friend killer.
2007-08-08 17:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋