only 19 and the first person ive slept with i contracted hpv?

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my bf of about 2 1/2 years and he feels so miserable.. i try to hate him for it but i cant. he didnt even know he had it. if a std is contracted by 80% of women why isnt there a test for men?

its caused me to be so depressed and frightened. i realy keep to myself now. i have one of the worse cases and have had the freezing done 2 times. im going back at the end of this month to see if the surgery worked this time. im so angry with myself that i may never be able to have kids.. one of the most important experiences i look foward to in my life.
im only 19. im not ready to have cancer

im a 19 year old female. ive been with my bf for about 2 1/2 years and he feels so miserable. for giving this to me.. i try to hate him for it but i cant. he didnt even know he had it. if a std is contracted by 80% of women why isnt there a test for men?

its caused me to be so depressed and frightened. i have had the freezing done 2 times. b/c the first time didnt work. im going back at the end of this month to see if the surgery worked this time. im so angry with myself that i may never be able to have kids.. one of the most important experiences i look foward to in my life.
im only 19. im not ready to have cancer.
my doctor doesnt really communicate with me well but i get a horrible vibe that he knows something bad is going to happen.
if the test comes up abnormal again im going for a 2nd opinion because the freezing can lead to a higher chance of being infertile

Answer 1

You might never develop cancer, just keeping seeing your doctor and keep fighting it!

I contracted HPV and genital herpes when I was 17 years old. I have had each virus for 6 years now. I was also afraid I would never have kids because I actually DID develop cervical cancer from my HPV.

Don't be angry with yourself though! As long as you are staying on top of this and are getting your pap smears done you should be just fine. Try and stay positive! Good luck!

Answer 2

There isn't a test for men frankly because it doesn't do anything to them. HPV is very common, because you are young your body will probably rid itself of the virus over time. Men don't know they have it and that is why it is so common. It is so important for young women to make their partners use condoms. Now if you had cryo it won't sffect your ability to have children, you just need to tell your provider that you had cryo when you are preg, so that when you do get pregant and are in labor they can manke sure you don't have scar tissue present that stops dilation. If it didn't work there are many more procedures that can be done and keep your ability to have children intact. You are not alone.

Answer 3

Oh you poor love. I feel for you but lets look at the facts.
Have you been told you have cancer? no so keep your checks going, and think about fighting that battle if and when that happens. It prob wont if you keep your reg checks going. Follow the advice of your doctor on this one, keep your self healthy and try to reduce the risks.
Have you been told you can't have children? Wait and see, get some tests done when you have dealt with this infection. Again worry about this when you have the facts. It may not have affected your fertility at all.
Good luck keep your chin up. Look for support groups on the net if that helps
Keep yourself safe in the future. best wshes

Answer 4

If the surgery works which i really hopes is does i suggest that you learn from this experience and before you have sex get tested both of you and be more cautious. I hope that you will able to have children and you and your BF learn from your mistakes.

Answer 5

i really feel for you, I probably would not have coped well in your position. I think you're being really brave for 19, don't worry, you could adopt if you are not fertile, but of course there is a chance that you are fertile, Have a good cry with someone in your position, it'll get some stuff off your chest, good luck xx

Answer 6

First, Cancer does NOT care how old or young you are.or if you're ready are not.Go ask the parents of kids who have died of Cancers, if they were the right age to have Cancer.
Sorry about that,but the self-pity thing got to me.
NOBODY deserves Cancer!
Shutting yourself off from the rest of the world won't help you or the world.You need to find something that you can do,like to do and are needed to help someone else!

Good luck and I hope the surgery is successful!
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Answer 7

Most men who get genital HPV do not have any symptoms. However, some types of HPV can cause genital warts. Genital warts are single or multiple growths that appear in the genital area. They may be raised, flat, or cauliflower shaped.

In men, genital warts may appear around the anus or on the penis, scrotum (testicles), groin or thighs. Even men who have never had anal sex can get warts around the anus. Warts may appear within weeks or months after sexual contact with an infected person, or not at all. A person can have the type of HPV that causes genital warts, but never develop any warts.


Genital HPV is passed on through genital contact –such as vaginal and anal sex.
Both men and women can get HPV – and pass it on - without even realizing it.
Genital warts can also be passed on by a person who has HPV but no visible warts. Since the virus can be “silent” for a long time, people can have genital HPV even if years have passed since they have had sex.


Certain types of HPV have been linked to cancer of the anus and penis in men. These cancers are rare –especially in men with healthy immune systems. The types of HPV that can cause genital warts are not the same as the types that can cause penile or anal cancer.


Over half of sexually active men in the United States (U.S.) will have HPV at some time in their lives.

About 1% of sexually active men in the U.S. have genital warts at any one time.

The American Cancer Society (ACS) estimates that about 1,530 men will be diagnosed with penile cancer in the U.S. in 2006. In this country, penile cancer accounts for about 0.2% of all cancers in men. It is especially rare in circumcised men.

ACS estimates that about 1,910 men will be diagnosed with anal cancer in 2006. The risk for anal cancer is 17 times higher among gay and bisexual men than among heterosexual men. The risk is also higher among men with compromised immune systems, including those with HIV.


At the moment, there is no test approved to detect HPV in men. However, there are ways to detect the most common problem caused by HPV in men, genital warts. Genital warts are usually diagnosed by visual inspection. Some health care providers may use a vinegar solution to help identify flat warts, although this test is not specific for warts. That means the test may falsely identify normal skin as a wart.

my uncle has the same thing you have he has been having his since 1976 for more than 31 years now in there is no cure for hvp ever she is misleading you dude you got to e-mail her back in asks her why she is lieing to you about the cure

Answer 8

Well I'm sure you are telling everyone you know now that they need to be using condoms.. every time.