2007-08-03 07:50:20 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Food & Drink ➔ Entertaining
In this scenario, the invitation is addressed to you and your spouse. You are the only ones named on the envelope.
Even if it is to a cocktail party, do you still assume your kids are welcome?
2007-08-03 07:55:18 · update #1
Note: I'm not asking because I don't know. I'm asking b/c I have a lot of cocktail and dinner parties. I'm always surprised by the number of people who DON'T know and show up with their kids!
2007-08-03 09:13:20 · update #2
Kids are not included when they are not on the invitation. You're put in a tough spot when someone shows up with kids. It is an error of etiquette on their part to assume that it is okay to bring their children with them. I might suggest that for the next 2 or 3 parties you have a babysitter on hand and let the guests that come with children that you generally don't have children at your parties, but you have provided a babysitter on this occasion. Hopefully they will get the point that children are not invited. You do, however, run the risk that guest think that a babysitter will be provided.
2007-08-05 04:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by The Butler Did It 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but the first answer is so wrong!!! It inspired me to answer. You cannot assume that children are invited.
If the envelope was addressed to Mr. and Mrs. and Family then the children are included.
If not, it is limited to the people on the envelope. If inviting a single person, the envelope might read Miss Jones and Guest. That means she can bring a guest but NOT children.
Adult only weddings are becoming more popular and I have been to more and more of them.
Leave the kids home with Grandmother and enjoy yourselves. Why on Earth would you want to take children to an adult cocktail party and wedding anyway? This is an opportunity for you two to have some fun without worrying about the kids enjoying themselves.
Don't be offended at all by this at all. It is the Wedding couple's choice, not yours. It is their wedding and they get to have it anyway they want.
Also the cost factor might be a reason as most caterers don't have a child's plate price, just per person.
Enjoy their special day and get a babysitter!
2007-08-03 09:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO !!! Never assume that anyone other than yourself is invited unless the invitation says and guest or and family, etc. Some people like small weddings or they have only planned the meal/reception for a certain number of people. I have been to several weddings lately where children where NOT allowed. Also, many dinner parties have alcohol and not everyone is comfortable with children being around when people are drinking. Your best bet is to call these people and ask them or ask someone else who is going if they know.
2007-08-03 08:15:54 · answer #3 · answered by Carrie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No; I would assume the kids are not invited, especially if the party is in the evening, or a cocktail party. A wedding invitation should be addresses to all members of the family who are invited. If it excludes the kids, chances are, the event is adult-only.
2007-08-03 07:58:23 · answer #4 · answered by sarahkidd08 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should not assume anything. The invitation should include the phrase "and family" or "the family of" if the kids are invited too. You may get away with it though, if there's an RSVP card enclosed with the invitation. That way you are able go get back to the host with the number of people you are bringing to the party. To be on the safer side, you could call the host/hostess to ask if kids are invited to the party too.
2007-08-03 08:44:26 · answer #5 · answered by Bantree 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your children were invited, they should have been included in the invitation. I also disagree with the suggestion to call your hostess (unless they are a very close friend). To call the hostess and ask if the kids are invited puts them in a difficult position. It seems rude to say no even though it's not a kid event. If you show up and they ask where the kids are, kindly point out the oversight in the invitation (doing so without embarrassing the hostess), and perhaps they will be better informed the next time as to proper etiquette.
2007-08-03 09:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by Alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO - the wedding invitation states who is invited. Dinner parties depend on how formal it is - if it's a casual affair, then you may be able to assume you can bring "extra" guests - if its formal, there will be place settings to consider.
Never assume you can bring your children - if there are any doubts, call the person in charge of the invitation and make a POLITE enquiry as to whether or not children are invited...and don't cause a fuss or issue an ultimatum if the answer is No.
2007-08-03 08:02:20 · answer #7 · answered by allusian_fields 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The people invited on the invitation, are the people invited...ONLY. I'm surprised people would bring their children to an " adults " party. A cocktail party is no place for children. I guess since you have some friends that can't grasp this idea, have printed on your invitations " adults only " This seems so unnecessary, but I guess that's what you have to do.
2007-08-03 21:58:21 · answer #8 · answered by Pat C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I assume it's adults only unless it says "and family" or lists the kids or something. With weddings, I'm from a small town and things aren't formal like that, so kids are almost always invited, but if I wasn't sure I wouldn't just show up with my kids. I would call the host and ask.
2007-08-03 11:52:49 · answer #9 · answered by afmamma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. An event that is formal enough to be announced by a mailed invitation will specify if extraneous guest or kids are invited either on the invite, or by being addressed to Mr. & Mrs. Jones and Family, Mr. and Mrs. Jones and Guest(s), or to The Jones Family. If it does not, they are not invited, and it'd be inappropriate to call the hosts and ask, because it puts them in the uncomfortable position of having to say no to a guest.
2007-08-03 08:06:41 · answer #10 · answered by macbeth00798 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋