i'm vegetarian, my family is going to simply fondue for my moms birthday, my mom half-convinced me into eating chicken, i really don't want to eat chicken, so when we go there for a meal (all they have for entrees is meat) should i just eat before we go there or stomach the chicken...
2007-07-31 05:35:21 · 10 answers · asked by woosh* 2 in Food & Drink ➔ Vegetarian & Vegan
A SLIGHT PINCH??
are you f***ing out of your mind??
i honestly think your answer has had the reverse affect on me, peeled turtle, i think i'm skipping the chicken
2007-07-31 05:46:15 · update #1
actually the cheese is kind of in the appetizer...
yeah and my grandma is going to be so skeptical and disapproving it will be hard to bear
2007-07-31 05:52:27 · update #2
If you don't want to eat the chicken, then don't eat it. Maybe you could call ahead and talk to the manager at the restaurant and explain that you're going there for your mother's birthday, and that you're vegetarian, and ask if they have a vegetarian entree option that they can make for you. If there are vegetarian "appetizer" options, perhaps they can just turn one of those into an entree for you. Or you could order the appetizer for your entree and supplement it with a green salad, etc. If you're concerned that it won't be the most "complete" meal for you since there won't be a good vegetarian protein source, then make sure you eat a little extra protein for breakfast and lunch that day to help make up for it.
As far as your grandmother and other family members go, I've found that it helps to simply say something like "I've made a personal decision to be vegetarian because of ____ (and briefly state your reason -- concern for animal rights, personal health, whatever your reason)." If anyone presses you about it over dinner and you don't want to talk about it because it seems like a hostile situation adn you don't want to cause a fight at your mom's birthday dinner, try saying "I'd be more than happy to discuss this with any and all of you another time, but we're here tonight to celebrate mom's birthday, and I don't think that everyone at the table wants to spend the evening talking about my eating habits. If you want to talk about this with me, then let's pick a time (tomorrow? next week?) to sit down and talk about it, and I'd be more than happy to answer your questions." That way, you keep the lines of communication open, and avoid overshadowing your mom's dinner.
2007-07-31 06:19:37 · answer #1 · answered by Sara M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there - I really feel for your situation! I went vegetarian then vegan when I was in high school, and I remember SO WELL the crap I got from my family (especially the grandparents). One thing that will make a huge difference is to talk to your mom/dad about your decision to be vegetarian (whomever you have a more open, honest relationship with...or both if they're both great). Explain to her/him that this is an informed decision you've made, that you know it will present you and the family with some challenges, but you're dedicated to your decision. Offer to bring them books on vegetarian nutrition, the ethics of eating, etc. They are probably worried about your nutrition, etc, and helping them see that you are concerned about that as well should help remove that argument from the table. Basically, you want them to understand where you're coming from, and show them that become vegetarian isn't something you're taking lightly. Once you've got that established, explain to them you are concerned about your grandmother's attitude, and ask them for help in defending your decision if it becomes an issue at dinner. Once you have someone in your family who really understands your reasons and motivations for being vegetarian, you might find that they do more of the arguing for you. The key is to not fight with your family about it - just explain your position and listen to theirs. If you don't agree, then say just that. And maybe ask your mom to try to pick a restaurant where you can all find something to eat the next time you go out for a celebration. Good luck!
2007-07-31 13:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by Molly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can, eat before you go. If you don't really want to eat the chicken, don't. Don't let your mom sway you. But do find out if you can cobble together some side dishes into a meal; if you can, call the restaurant ahead of time and let them know when you're going and what your dietary needs are.
For dealing with your family and others, I recommend "Living Among Meat Eaters" by Carol J. Adams.
2007-07-31 13:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by VeggieTart -- Let's Go Caps! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody can force you to eat chicken and vegetarians don't eat chicken and normally can't be convinced to do so either.
I'm sure they can make any veggie side into an entree. Most restaurants will do that.
2007-07-31 12:51:41 · answer #4 · answered by KathyS 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you would not be vegetarian if you eat the chicken.
your life, your choice.
i would never eat meat just to pacify my mum, surely they have more respect for you than expect you to trash a moral value.
would you die if you didn't eat for that one meal ??? Maybe just go and enjoy the social event but skip the food.
Life can be really simple if we want it to be.
"peeled turtle" is wrong on so many levels its difficult to know where to start, so i won't bother. sometimes ignorance is so high its just too big a mountain to climb. Its funny to see someone talk about "quality protein" when you read her profile.
2007-07-31 12:39:16 · answer #5 · answered by Michael H 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I looked at their menu (if it's the same place), and they have cheese fondues, veggie friendly salads and desserts. I love my mother dearly, but I would never eat meat to please her (there are more meaningful ways I can show her my love). She has respected me being a vegetarian for over 26 years and for that, I'm grateful.
2007-07-31 12:50:17 · answer #6 · answered by wherever you go there you are 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't give up on your values. Just eat something before you go or bring a vegetarian dish with you and let your family try it. It will be a new experience for them and it will also give you a chance to show them how dedicated you are to your beliefs.
2007-07-31 12:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by JustWondering 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it's important to realize that chickens don't generally suffer during the process of going from stupid bird to meal. Chickens do not have big brains, or a big heart. They feel a slight pinch and it's over. God made chickens so that people could eat them. (And other animals). But, if you still can't stand the idea of eating God-meant quality protein, go ahead and eat only the massacred plant life. Just eat the veggies and whatever before ya go! But, be prepared for people wanting to know why you are being difficult. To you, you're not- but to everyone else, you'll be asked on or about. That's just life.
2007-07-31 12:40:46 · answer #8 · answered by The Wonderer 5 · 0⤊ 9⤋
www.meat.org
ITS SO SAD. the chickens in all.. you dont have to watch it if you dont want to
2007-07-31 12:44:45 · answer #9 · answered by Wassabi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just eat it lol...or order a salad
2007-07-31 12:44:54 · answer #10 · answered by metro900 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋