If someone has genital herpes who does she/he know who to blame for giving it to them?

Answer 1

They need to remember every person they have had sex with because any one of those people who are infected with genital herpes could have passed it to them.

Also, you can't really "blame" one person, because MOST of the time the person who contracted herpes is half to blame. Not ALWAYS, but most of the time. I understand some women get raped or are abused and obviously it's not their fault. But, if you are going to have sex with someone, it is YOUR responsibility to protect YOURSELF. Know who you are having sex with because you could end up contracting a life long and even possibly deadly STD.

Blaming someone else for something a person contracted is a waste of time and effort. Herpes is for life, and there is nothing you can do to reverse it. It's best to just move on.

Answer 2

Well the only person one can blame is themself. Everyone knows the risk, herpes is spreading like fire. And humans are pigs, and most couldn't care less if they infect someone else. Everyone is a victim at one time, no one asks for it. I have herpes from a one night stand, but I iknew who gave it to me because I'm not usually like that at all, but I was trashed. When I got it I didn't blame him, didn't even do so much as to ask him. What's the point what's done is done, and I think the chances are slim to none of him actually admiting it.

Answer 3

He or she should make a list of everyone they've slept with. That would be a good place to start. In addition to finding out if these other people already have symptoms, that person should also alert them that they have tested positive so these others can also get tested as well. There's no sense in "blaming" anyone. Herpes can lay dormant for quite awhile with no sign or symptoms until a flare up occurs. You wouldn't want other people you've slept with to blame you for giving it to them if you didn't know you had it in the first place would you?

Answer 4

Honestly, what good would it be to blame someone when you already have it? Take it from someone who's had it for 9 years. You dont want to know because it will only make you mad. Besides, there's nothing you can do about it now but go on with your life and try to live it to the fullest. If you need anymore help, let me know and I will be more than happy to talk and answer questions for you!!!

Answer 5

the last people u slept with, just ask them.

here some info in genital herpes it may help.

http://www.ashastd.org/herpes/herpes_learn.cfm

Answer 6

There is no way of knowing who had it first. No test to take, nothing. If that's what you mean.

But blame??? I know who gave it to me. He knew he had it, I'll never know why he gave it to me. Maybe he wanted to, maybe he just didnt care & hoped I wouldnt get it and took the chance. But if I have to blame someone, I have to blame myself as well for not protecting myself. I didnt deserve it, noone does, but we have to take responsibility for our own lives. Simple as that.

Answer 7

you cant blame anyone but yourself. you are responsible for you. dont count on anyone else to look out for yourself. i contracted herpes from my ex-boyfriend. he wasnt honest with me about being tested for stds. ofcourse i was angry with him when i found out. believe me i wanted to balme him but in the end it was my own fault. i should have never had unprotected sex with him. i knew the risks and i did it anyway. be thankful that its not HIV/AIDS. move on with your life and make better choices.

Answer 8

I know who gave it to me. I was a virgin until I had sex with my ex who had NUMEROUS people prior to me. I was very young and dumb. I lost my virginity at 20 and thought I was "smart". I don't believe he knew he had it because after I told him. Well...let's just say to this day he doesn't believe me.

But has yet to ever be tested for it...

Answer 9

Start with the people he/she has slept with