Just yesterday I found out I have Low-grade squamous intraepithelial lesion (HPV). I have only slept with one person, we're broken up now and are currently not on speaking conditions. However, I feel the need to inform him (although I am aware that there is no way to test males for HPV) because I believe he has just started to date a new girl and I don't want her to be caught by surprise (or cancer).
Is it possible that I contracted it from him? We lost our virginity together, but I know he was active on the dating front for a long while before we met - and he was pretty much my first sexual experience altogther. But he still could've had it without having sex, right?
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to bring it up to him? We haven't spoken for about a month and a half, as I have been very angry with him. I'm unsure of how to even begin to approach him. Any personal stories/suggestions?
Can condoms (or any other protection) cut down risk of transmission?
2007-07-28 14:06:04 · 11 answers · asked by irishpotatos1 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
It is your duty to tell him, but I agree with one of the others that it would be alright to tell him via email.
Here is a little bit of information for you on the subject: Women are often exposed to this virus by a partner who is unknowingly a carier. Condoms prevent some but not all transmission because transmission occurs during skin-to-skin contact in areas not covered by condoms. In may cases, patients are angry about having warts or HPV and do not know who infected them because the incubation period can be long, and partners may have no symptoms.
Good luck and god bless. I would ask your doctor any questions that you might have and there are HPV support websites that could answer alot of your questions.
2007-08-05 04:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by RPrincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to call this guy and tell him what you've found out. First of all, say "Hey, how are you?" Then once you've said something like that, say "Well, I'm calling because I found something out that I think you should know. I have HPV."
Tell him that he needs to tell any girl he dates to get the new vaccination for HPV before he sleeps with them or if he's already slept with them, tell him to tell his girlfriends to get checked for HPV. Don't go any longer without telling him!
I'm not sure if it's possible you contracted it from him, you could've had it before you slept with him, but I don't think that matters if you passed it on to him, he just needs to know!
Good luck!
2007-07-28 21:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by Erin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its Possible That You Got it From Him, He May Have Had Numerous Partners And Most Of The Time That's How It Happens, It Happened To Me In 2004 But Thank God I Didn't Have Cervical Cancer..
2007-08-02 23:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by misslee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HPV is one of the most prevalant std'd out there. It is also one of the most contagious. It is rare, but know to even infect people through dry contact. Condoms may help, but not always. Your ex could've definitely gotten it without having sex.
I would maybe write him an e-mail. If you guys aren't on speaking terms, then it might be akward to call him. Wirting an e-mail is easy and you don't have to "talk" to him.
2007-07-29 09:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt tell him. HPV is so common over 80% of sexually active women have it, and if it is the form that cause cervical changes, it wont harm him. condoms will cut the transmission risk, but you already have it now. HPV is a lot easier to contact than the other STDs. There is no treatment for it, and chances are anyone else he is sleeping with is going to already have it. Why tell him?
2007-07-28 22:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by jane franklin 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't think you need to tell him. Half of all sexually active people will have it in there lifetime. Most peoples immune system clears it up. Hopefully his new partner is educated enough to have an annual exam and hopefully the vaccine and use a condom. Yes, my doctor told me that using a condom can reduce your risk by 70%
2007-07-28 23:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Taters,
That is a real sad tale. It really depends upon how you want to handle it. If you like the guy just send him a letter. If you don't like him, tell all your friends and sue him.
2007-08-01 20:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't mess with telling him. Just take care of yourself and go back for regular pap smears. I don't think men ever have any symptoms from HPV so he won't care if he carries it.
2007-08-02 11:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by philosophy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just call him and tell him he was probley the one who gave this to you he wont belive you i also would let him see the test.s result.s as well let the girl he.s dating see them to that way it show.s you arent trying to hide nothing on this matter. and yes condom.s can procet you from transmitting this to other.s . good luck and take care. my opion?
2007-07-29 00:29:50 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
THATS MESSED UP. S0RRY T0 HEAR AB0UT THAT BUT i FY0U'VE 0NLY SLEPT WiTH 0NE PERS0N THEN HE MUST 0F HAD iT FiRST && STUCK iT iN Y0U S0 iM PRETTY SURE HE KN0WS HE HAS iT. BUT MAKE SURE Y0U STiLL TELL HiM
2007-07-28 21:10:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋