I'm married, and I have been seeing another man who works with me since mid May, and we have been having sex, well ... a lot. He works in the same building as I do and he has the same lunch hour as I do, so we meet each other at lunch and, well, I know this is going to sound bad but ... almost every day and, well you know what happens.
Well, about two weeks ago, one of my other male co-workers figured out what me and this other guy have been doing at lunch, so he asked me if I "wanted a change". He was really handsome and I couldn't resist, so I had some fun with him too and it was so good, so I started to see him as well.
Last weekend I started to have some problems “down there”, so I went to get it checked out, and I found out I have an STD. I might have caught it from one of the two men I have been seeing, and I’ now worried that I might have not only spread it to my husband, but one of those guys that didn’t have it.
2007-07-27 13:36:02 · 37 answers · asked by Kassie 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
I know what I have done is bad, so you don’t need to tell me what I am, I just want to know what I’m supposed to do now. I feel like I’m in big trouble, and I don’t know what to do. Just please help me out and explain what I should do. I need serious answers.
2007-07-27 13:43:03 · update #1
ok, well my question is, how can I tell my husband without ruining my marriage?
2007-07-27 13:50:39 · update #2
Sorry - but you got what you deserved.
2007-07-27 13:38:37 · answer #1 · answered by hotmomma 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
It's called justice. I hope your husband didn't get it. He's not the one who apparently can't keep it in the pants. Seriously though, if you weren't like this before (I'm not going to call names but you know what I mean...promiscuous) then you should go to the doctor. You could have a personality disorder that is causing you to be so self destructive. You should care about his health instead of yourself right now. Put someone else first for once. You certainly didn't think of him when you were doing this. Anyway, he'll find out eventually anyway when he gets problems "down there" too. Bite the bullet and tell him now. You may be able to save your marriage that way...it'll be over if he finds out once he gets diagnosed with an STD....I'd say that'd be a lot harder to forgive.
2007-07-27 14:01:21 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to come out to your husband sooner or later, and if it's later it's going to hurt so much worse, he's going to feel used and really stupid.. and you NEED to tell your husband about the affair, about your STD, and you need to tell the two men you slept with. If you didn't get it from your husband, and if one of the two men (maybe even both) have the same STD, you have all right to go all out and slap them. Hard. They should've told you, before, during or afterward. If you find out who you got it from, you may need to tell your health department.
Hopefully now you've learned a very good lesson, and maybe your marriage can be saved.
Obviously you won't want to sleep around on your husband (i hope) and so it shouldn't be a big deal confronting your partners about the std!!
2007-07-27 13:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by Erica W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is everyone feeling so sorry for your husband, you may have got it from him. May be he too is cheating. You are all a bunch of cheats and I guess you have to pay the price for it.
See a doctor on your own and get medical help. Telling all these guys about it wont help at all. The blaming game will start. Each one will blame the other. Just keep your trap shut and go see a doctor.
2007-07-27 14:40:39 · answer #4 · answered by live and let live 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have such little regard for yourself and husband that you engaged in unprotected sex with these guys??
The affair isn't the brightest move, but to add insult to injury and expose him to an STD is ...well...really selfish and horrendous.
So what exactly is your question? Because if you want to know if you are stupid well then you've come to the right place.
I'm sorry that I am not sympathetic to your lame decision making, but I am not sure what it is that you are wanting by posting this story.
2007-07-27 13:44:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why must you feel the need to cheat on your husband? And just tell him the truth, unless the next time you two have sex he will have to find out the hard way :\. Truth is the best choice, and hope for the best.
2007-07-28 16:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As my dad would always say, you made your bed now lie in it. Sorry to sound mean but you should have thought of this before you did anything. Now you have to tell the guys you slept with and your husband as well. Be prepared for some upset people.
2007-07-27 13:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by greeneyes25162 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hate to agree with the first answer.. but if you were stupid enough to cheat on your husband... and not use condoms! well it's your own health you put at risk.. along with your husbands.
Do yourself a favor.. talk to your husband.. was there a reason you started cheating.. or were you just bored.. pretty much bet your marriage is over.. cause not one but two guys and a STD.. three strikes and your out!
2007-07-27 13:42:43 · answer #8 · answered by jeselynn_81 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your up shats creek without a paddle female. Itd proly be in your best interest to contact both men you were unfaithful with and tell them the truth to find the source of it so they can get it taken care of as well as tell your husband whether he has been subjected to it or not...
2007-07-27 13:39:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Holy cow Cassie,
You need to sit down with your husband in front of your doctor and get it all sorted out.
You will learn a lot about your husband. He is either a really forgiving guy, or not.
2007-07-27 14:13:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your major problem isnt the STD, its that you were sleeping with two men other than your husband. the STD can be fixed, fixing a marriage is a little bit harder. youve got to tell your husband and see what happens from there
2007-07-28 15:23:07 · answer #11 · answered by jane franklin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋