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My friend just said thats 'why you're alone'! That really hurt me!
Just because she lays down with anything that says Hi, she thinks i should too.
I dont see why I should settle for someone just because they like me. Isnt the whole point to like them back?
The guys that approach me arent model boyfriend material, they are involved in gun crime or dont have a clue about what they want to do in life.
Shall I just settle and stop being picky or shall I hold out for the 'one'??

2007-07-25 22:35:25 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

35 answers

Its rare that people find THE ONE. Most relationships happen as a result of settling. However, I think there are some qualities that should not be compromised. Of course you should not settle on a gun toting loser but if a nice guy comes along and he is just a little short of Mr. Right I think you should go for it. Ensure that you get to know him before you make any commitments you might be surprised who ends up stealing your heart.

2007-08-02 14:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by Gotta know for sure 3 · 0 0

NNNNOOOOO! don't settle! Never settle. Why should you settle. Tel you friends to give a better reason than that! I respect you for waiting till you are just as "in like" for some one else as they are for you. I think that you are on the right track. You DO NOT NEED NO GANGSTA in your life. Take a look at the statistics. How many young beautiful women are raising thier children alone because thier BF are either in jail or dead! That not fair to you or your future childen. Get an education, work and find some one with good values, and with goals. You will not h ave to worry about wher your next meal is coming from or who your baby's daddy is. Do not listen to these so called friends, they are not. Remember. misery likes company. Think!

2007-07-30 08:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by Hermosa bori 2 · 1 0

Being too picky is what the problem is.

Be open.

Don't just settle for any dumb@$$ that walks by. You're better than that :)

You don't need some skanky man whore to make you happy. You need a guy that wants to make you happy. Which alot of guys, believe it or not, are starting to learn to do!

Don't get involved with ANYTHING AGAINST THE LAW if you aren;t a rebel. It's so much easier for you to get sketched out.

Haha not to mention I went to jail for 2 months, in county, and I'm 15, because my boyfriend was caught with a gun, and not I.

If you need anything, you can send me an email.
Good luck!
Cheers :)

2007-07-25 22:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

If your friend is sleeping with anyone and everyone, then that's a good signpost that she has some self esteem issues. Don't settle for anything. A man with no direction, as you said, is not boyfriend/husband material. And so what if you're alone? How is that any of her business? Tell her she has her own issues that she should be working on instead of sticking her nose in your life. You're doing just fine - don't let her insecurities run your life.

2007-07-25 22:41:24 · answer #4 · answered by lanagrl78 4 · 1 0

keep lookin luv, you don't want to settle down with a trouble maker who plays with guns. You might want children, and people like that are no good for children. You are not being picky, just lookin for a decent man. There are a few around, and they are worth waitin for. Try gettin in with some different friends, and meeting new people and then they will introduce you to more people. You will eventually find the right man. Good luck.

2007-07-25 23:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Definately hold out for the right man. I got married when I was young to a guy I thought was "as good as it got" - he wasn't and it took a lot of guts to leave him, but now I have found the love of my life and the difference is amazing.
Don't ever settle for 2nd best. Finding the right man might take time, but the best way to find him is to stop looking. I know that sounds mad but if you genuinely stop looking (rather than just saying it) he will emerge from nowhere. Believe me, it works. In the meantime, don't necessarily stop dating and having fun, just don't go into it thinking it could be serious, just have fun.

Your friend just has different values to you. She may need a man to make her feel complete. Just spend your time discovering who YOU are and what YOU like and then your confidence in yourself will attract the right person for you at the right time.

2007-07-25 22:53:16 · answer #6 · answered by Ceri D 1 · 1 0

And the reason your friend is so popular is because she's probably a walk over! If you can really call her a friend that is.
My answer to your question is,NO,you are not being too picky at all,sounds like you have your head screwed on the right way.
The right one will come,in time,so for now,just be yourself and enjoy life,and never let your so called friend make you think any different.

2007-07-31 07:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by tinyfeet64 5 · 0 0

I think you should not settle for second ,
why should you ???
You would be miserable and why should you be??
I feel your friend is only trying to help but she is very miss guided ,
I went on a dating site and I met , well to put it nicely total bloody wasters, don’t get me wrong if I could have taken one aspect of this bloke another from another rolled them together then I could have made my own perfect man, but if I had of settled for any of them I would have sold my self short, so what if it takes me time to find Mr Right as they say I don’t care I know then I will be truly happy,
You do what you feel and know is best for you and only you.
Good Luck

2007-07-31 00:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Never, never "settle". It is better to be alone (and available!) than to be with the wrong person. You want quality. Look for quality. The kind of guy you want does exist. Just keep looking. No, you should focus on living your life according to your values and interests. Work on doing the things you want to do and being the kind of person you want to be. The guy will come along when you are busy and happy with your life.

2007-08-02 21:56:35 · answer #9 · answered by treebird 6 · 0 0

It is difficult to judge, but in my very humble opinion, you are doing the only right thing! The fact that you don't go off with every Tom, Dick or Harry just for the sake of "being attached" shows that you are a highly intelligent, moral and confident person who is not desperate to grab the first man she sees just to prove to nobody in particular that she "still got it." Please don't consider resorting to those men who are involved in gun crime, etc. just because your friend thinks it is acceptable. A man like that can wreck your whole life faster than you can blink an eye! As for the whole "liking" issue, I am sure that people (and guys in particular) would appreciate you a whole deal more if you simply treat them back with kindness and respect rather than immediately jump into their arms. Nobody likes a needy and desperate girl who is constantly proving something to someone.
Nevertheless, if you believe you'd like to meet somebody to love (and that is because your own heart tells you it's high time), then you might perhaps start thinking, what your dream soulmate might be like - e.g. his character traits, personal qualities, little quirks, etc. Think of what you want to see in him - perhaps, remembering your favourite actors, musicians, or a school crush could help to pinpoint what it is you want in a man. But one thing - whatever you do, please, never jump into a relationship simply because another person says it is the "proper thing" to do! It's better to be independent and confident, than cheap and needy!

2007-07-25 22:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by LittleMenace 1 · 1 0

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