Why I am so bothered? because I don't have a boyfriend yet?

Question

I am 17 but still I don't have a boyfriend yet..

I feel like that I'm a loner... I don't feel usually this but as the days go by I feel that this special person that will love me is never gonna show up and to make it more loner I have friends that are in a relationship and whenever I join them I feel like "left out" and every night I can't sleep because of it and sometimes I want to be alone because I'm not fit in this world...

Can someone help me and give me some advice...

Answer 1

Don't worry..it could be worst...u have friends...so at least u have people to talk to...and a guy will come along...it's only a matter of when....

Answer 2

Well there are lots of girls just like you that haven't met a special boyfriend yet. Chances are that you are not very outgoing...and that can make it harder.

Try to join things where you can meet new people...like at church or in a sport, etc...one where you will share a mutual hobby or interest...that will help.

You are worrying too much about something that time will take care of....but you can help it along by being a little more outgoing...a little more assertive....like show an interest in the other person....and remember that guys are shyer than you.

Many won't ask you out unless they are pretty sure you will say yes...they just don't take chances. That's why the more outgoing, friendly girls gets the dates....because the guy feels safer asking her out!

There are ways to encourage a guy to ask you out, but first you have to meet some....then you can do things like "make a friendly bet"...where you take the guy out for lunch" if you lose, and he buys you a coke" if he loses....you get the idea....either way...you win. But first you have to be on a friendly basis. If you need to meet some guys, then widen your circles to some other ones. School clubs, whatever....where you can meet people and get to know them.

There is nothing wrong with you....any more than anyone else.

Also...make the best of yourself....how you dress...your hair, etc.....then get going girl! Stop feeling sorry for yourself, and do something about it.

Answer 3

I just don't think of it. I never been in a relationship and I'm 19. The reason why is because I never really found a girl that I liked. Most of the girls that are around me are all too superficial and dumb. I have been asked out a few times but I declined them all. I have asked out girls before (just two) and I got shot down by both. I sometimes get depressed cuz I feel like there is no one for me because there really isn't anyone out there that I like and the ones that I do like do not like me back. But I look at other peoples relationships and I notice that they all go through the same thing. Really bad drama, that is the last thing I want cuz I have school to worry about. So when I see them arguing I think to myself "lucky me that I have never gone through that". But I know someday that I will find someone. This planet has a lot of people in it, its impossible to not find someone who is interested in you. Plus you are young, you have plenty of time to find that special someone.

Answer 4

well its only been 17 years and there is alot more life left to live, trust me its worth being alone until something good comes around, do your self a favor and find out what you want in a person and look for people who are mostly like that, but be realistic in the traits you look for.

find other single people to hang with that can solve the left outness
you can also be the agressor and go find someone

just remember
how can two people find each other if they are both waiting for the other to come along??? they cannot so cross the street and go have some fun.

Answer 5

I know how you feel, Im pretty much in the same position. Ive never had a boyfriend, and it does suck sometimes, but I usually think about like the things that I really need to think about, like working my butt off in school so i can get a good future, so that keep my kind of sane, and my friends. Dont worry about it, Im pretty sure that you'll find someone soon =] You never know, he could be right beside you. Your still young You got plently of time

Answer 6

I'm sure you're gorgeous. Forget about what some of these people are saying. I'm in the same boat. I think I am pretty attractive but I've never had a serious boyfriend. All my friends seem to have them too. I was just about to write a question about this so just look out for it and read it, it'll probably explain more about your situation too.

Answer 7

Ok your 17yrs old. Enjoy it, relantionships are great believe me. But it is not as easy as it looks, it can be emotionally painful and like it can completely break your heart. Sometime being single can be so much more fun than being with someone. I had a break-up 2 years ago. It actually turned out to the best thing that ever happened to me. When your in your mid-20's you will realize that you being happy and being self-sufficent is sometime better than anything. Another thing is you will meet someone when you least expect it.!!

Answer 8

17 is sooo young! My advice o you is not to worry about it. You have a long time left to worry about relationships and all of that. Just spend time on your education, making friends, living your life. Make yourself the best person that you can be - then you will not settle for anything less than the best person you can be with. Good luck!

Answer 9

I'm sure you will find someone. But at the same time, don't sit around waiting for this guy to come along... you have to do some work too! If you spot a cute guy, go talk to him. If you meet a sweet guy, see how that works out. A guy is not just going to find you and fall in love with you, you've got to work at it too. Good luck! :)

Answer 10

Girl, I have a child your age, and we just discussed this yesterday. Nobody is ready to commit to "real love" at your age. You should be experiencing new things with lots of different boys...preferrably in distant areas. Love is someth ing that limits your life experiences. Keep it light until you want to seriously settle down. Love is a chore, not easy and free, like you should be right now. You have too much to offer the world to concentrate on who loves you most

Answer 11

Please don't rush it, and please don't do anything stupid - like having sex with some guy just to have him as your "boyfriend".

As someone who is out of high school, let me just tell you: "High School sucks."

Put effort into your education. Join one of the groups in school that you can have fun with - drama, band, science, whatever. You'll be surprised at the people who you will meet in clubs that spark your interests.

Go off to college and major in something you can be happy at. Being successful is the best "revenge" when it comes to these losers in your school now who won't give you the time of day. Go back to your 5th year reunion and show them.

Or do what I did and NEVER go back. I figure if they didn't like me then, they won't like me now, and I really don't care anyway.