2007-07-25 22:28:19 · 11 answers · asked by jcampwick 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't expect him to give up his friends for you and you can't expect him to spend every minute with you. He's had other girlfriends before you came around and they're gone, but his friends are still here. Cut him some slack. Spend time with YOUR friends when he is with his.
Work out a compromise. Maybe he can be with the guys every-other-weekend. Or X times a month. Remember that "compromise" doesn't mean you get your way and he gets your way. You will BOTH need to compromise if your relationship is to last.
Good luck.
2007-07-25 22:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. At 37, he's just not into you as much as you think. That "hanging with the dudes" syndrome ends around age 33, when real responsibility is taken.
At his age, it's a guy dominance thing, or a bad habit he developed with women who put up with his crap.
See how it changes when you start preferring being with the girls more than him? Yeah! Then you'll see a REAL guy thing. :-)
Maybe you just need to set him straight. If he cares big time, he'll straighten out soon enough. If he doesn't, get someone who cares enough to be your companion and friend, especially during lonely nights.
If he does not want to socialize with you, why is he with you then? You figure it out, you decide, and then you choose what life you want in a relational sense, then make it happen.
Kindness
2007-07-25 22:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by justaguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a guy thing. But a sign that he doesn't care for you. I have a husband who prefers to go to church and be with others instead of me. To me it is way obvious he doesn't care for me. I don't even bother asking him. His actions speak clearly. In my case I'm married to this idiot. Your not married. So if he isn't what you want in a partner. I suggest leaving him. And finding someone who wants the same things from a relationship as you.
2007-07-25 22:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is definitely not a 'guy thing'! Some may try to brush it off that way though...
Sure, people like their friends, but if friends take precedence over you much of the time (esp. if you aren't even invited!), it's more likely that he is not serious about your relationship. When a man (or woman, or person) is keen on another person, not only do they want to spend time with them, but they generally find it difficult to drag themselves away!
Good luck. :)
2007-07-25 22:39:14 · answer #4 · answered by Finchy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, only some guys are like that, and it won't stop or ease off if you get married. He will bring his friends over and you will be catering for parties of ten while they watch a game on t.v.! If that doesn't appeal to you, look for someone who likes just coming home to a female and staying in for cosy meals (plenty of guys do), because your guy won't be like that.
2007-07-26 09:49:50 · answer #5 · answered by jenesuispasunnombre 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it is !
Do not try to avoid it or he will get sad !
Try to fine the right balance for both of you: you can probably enjoy those moments where he is with friends and you have the opportunity to take care of yourself.
I like inviting friends, I like see my friends alone,and I would like my wife to do so. So I told her and now that we acknowledged on the right balance, it is fine.
2007-07-25 22:38:05 · answer #6 · answered by Daddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a guy thing. while he probably enjoys being with you, guys like to be around their friends alot.
2007-07-25 22:31:25 · answer #7 · answered by rob b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he loves them so much, sleep with them, because you are going to find someone that wants to be with you.
2007-07-25 22:32:18 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes , it is a guy thing . talk to him , i am sure he'll understand your problem . if you want to know more about guys ...and relationships please click ....
2007-07-25 22:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya sure it is
2007-07-25 22:31:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋