Please help! feel like im dying emotionally part 2 A.S.A.P.!?

Question

Okay im not emo or anything but........

Theres this girl who ive become REAL good friends with......

Actually i think shes the only one ive ever loved besides my girlfriend.

I really do, but...well

She kinda is disowning me i guess...she says "she cant keep torturing herself" being my friend when she loves me in reality.

So basically im dying as i write this......

Im man enough to admit im crying my eyes out, and i cant get the pain to stop.........

I seriously, honestly think im going to die..........


So please help me, please i beg you all my friends


Okay i need to explain better:

I love my girlfriend for dear life.....shes everything to me and always will be, and she deeply loves me back.

But this girl......i started to feel love towards her after a while, love like for my girlfriend.

But she cant do it because........she cant be with me because shes never been in a relationship longer than 3 months because she doesnt like people to get close

And she also lives in colorado and i live in california.......so we cant be together.

Same with my girlfriend.

But i need help please..........i really am dying, honestly,

Just some encouragement please?!

And advice.......

And maybe some "man up" stuff may work ut i dont know.....

Answer 1

Well this may not be the best but i personally think that you should go with the one closer to you. I mean its not rele love when you dont get to see your girflriend who lives in a different state. Who is always there for you? you have to decide who you love more!!!! oh wiat she cant be with you because shes never been in a relationshop longer than 3 months because she doesnt like people to get close. Thats the stupidest thing iv ever heard so she wants you to date her but not longer than 3 months gee mebe you should just go with your girlfriend

Answer 2

I'm an Iraq War veteran too, so I know how hard it is for your husband to be away (and also how hard it is on you too). But besides reading the dribble, why did you marry him again? I don't understand why you would want to marry a person whose first inclination is about the money he'll be making? Honestly I didn't read the whole thing because it seems too long. Pretty much like this, if you don't love him get a divorce. If you do love him try to work it out and go to counseling. Either way, the base you live at or near has marriage counseling (and you can go by yourself if you want) or speak to a chaplain. I think you have already put two strikes in the marriage and you've only been with him two years. If your not happy and you don't love him then get a divorce and it'll be easier on you and him. If you do then wait till he gets back and try counseling. I don't think you being resentful and bringing up all this past stuff helps much. You should talk to him about your feelings and maybe see if some kind of common understandings can be reached. Good luck.

Answer 3

Shiz bro, That's tough! Listen, here is what i think. This is not a decision you should be making right now. You need some time to mole over the whole scenario. But I would say if you really love your girl, and she really loves you, you are gonna eff things up if your not careful. If your friend really loves you, i mean real love, not just deep desire, she would want to be close to you even if it means having to see you with your girl. Cause real love doesn't require a relationship, it just means you love that person. But, if you don't see things working with your girl, and you know you would be happy with your friend, maybe you should tell your girl that you need some time. I've kinda been playin your girlfriends roll as of late, and let me tell you, it sucks! I love my girl, and i know she loves me, but she started liking this other wumbi while she was away for the summer. nothing even happened but just them liking each other, but it sucks man! It makes you feel like every "I love you" was a lie! So be real careful in your decision. Just remember, if this is about other peoples feelings, The girl you've commited to is the one you are resposible to keep happy! either way you decide DON"T CHEAT! It will ruin everything for you!

Answer 4

I was coming up with a good answer for you, until I read that this girl (and apparently also your girlfriend) don't even live close to you. In any case, I say stick with your girlfriend. However, I think you should find a girlfriend who lives around your area, one you can see and be with. I admit, it's sometimes fun to talk to people online, but it got old once I got out of middle school. You can't date someone online like that, because you can't even be close to them. For all you know, either of them could have (and probably do have) several "boyfriends" online, and maybe one or two at school. I say keep talking to them, they're your friends, but get outside or your house and talk to girls in person.

Answer 5

look man, you have no idea how lucky you are to have two women in your life that you can say "love you." be grateful, if you truly love your girlfriend and you two are in a stable relationship FOCUS ON THAT. dont **** around with other girls, that will mess things up and then instead of 2 girls loving you, you'll be down to zero. try to remain friends, but is a potential love worth jeopordizing an already certain love? i think not. its okay to cry once in a while, it helps to let the emotion out, just make the right choice. goodluck man.

Answer 6

situations like this happen u have a girl already but fall for another one at the same time, id suggest u try to forget the girl whose in colorado cuz shes far and how would u guys see each other i mean could communicate but its not the same. try to work out things with the current girl u have and try to forgett about the other girl but dont get desperate take it calm and try to think things clearly before u make a decision.

Answer 7

It's better to have loved then to never have loved at all.

Be happy you''ve found some one( 2 girls) to love, and to love you. Just let things play out, your not going to die, take a break clear your mind. You really just need to pause and think about something different for a while.

Answer 8

Listen to yourself man. I mean, yeah, do that. You have a gfriend that you can't live without to begin with. Stand up with what you think is right. You think of yourself 5-10 yrs. from now with one of those girls and decide, should you stay or go towards colorado.

Answer 9

first of u got to be calm with ur situation.. love is never bed of roses for anybody. love has always been as sweet as honey but as bitter as bittergaurd. in ur situation.. u need to give ur girlfriend little more space..
many a times it so happens that we try to run away from the reality . reality of falling in love with someone. reason behind is that we r scared that we might loose him/her.so in order to overcome that fear.. we try to avoid keeping more closeness.. the way ur girlfriend is doing..but u got to make her understand either by staying close to her or try to make her realize ur importance in her life.. maybe give her little time to think about both of u .
i feel if u love someone. let her go. if she comes back she was yours n if not then she was never destined to be urs. u cant force her ..but i hope that she comes back in ur life on her own.. if u really love her.. give her this much space to make her own decision.

Answer 10

I know, I went through the same thing but one of the guuys lied to me about himself. So youre not the only one going through it. I suggest you just try to take your mind off of both of them. Go have fun with your other friends! When you are ready to deal with it, go deal with it however you choose to. Good luck!