I just went to play tennis with my bf and a few of his friends for the first time. I havent played since middle school and I was pretty sucky, but my bf was pretty bad himself along with the others,,,but all he did was make fun of me and make me feel bad. It was funny at first, but even though I improved towards the end of the night, he'd still say I was crappy and give me the head shake of disapproval. He was just as bad as me though. Do you think couple's talk rude to each other or with attitude because of lack of respect? We don't talk to each other that way....yet, but I didn't feel very encouraged with the way he was acting tonight. Why do you think he was that way? Is he starting to not like me anymore?
2007-07-25 20:33:11 · 31 answers · asked by C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
other than this tennis event, we usually have a lot of fun together and treat each other with respect. Maybe his "true self" came out tonight?
2007-07-25 20:36:55 · update #1
sometimes, it happens just because you want to be funny in front of your friends, i do it sometimes, but im aware that someone might get insulted, but i dont really mean it.... so what you can do is make fun of him 2, in front of his friends"
2007-07-25 20:41:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No one can treat you bad unless you let them. He might have been embarrassed to show feelings for you in front of his friends, so he was less than nice. I would not let him treat you with disrespect. It is not ok. You should be at least as important as his friends. If he is starting not to like you? What a crappy way to show it. I'd ask him, challenge the way he acted towards you. Don't put up with it. He might end up respecting you more for having the self confidence to stick up for your self. Good luck
2007-07-25 20:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by funngirly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe that's the way he expresses his feelings for you. Boys are complicated. He probably likes you, but you guys just got into a relationship & he doesn't want to jump into the lovey dovey stage. He'll come around once he feels more comfortable around you. But if he doesn't soon enough, try talking to him about the situation. It'll never get better if he doesn't know how you feel. Tell him you want him to act more like a boyfriend to you infront of your friends & not make fun of you. Besides, the most important part of a relationship is communication. TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT!! Don't worry, he loves you. GOOD LUCK. I HOPE I HELPED:)))
2016-04-01 03:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by Cynthia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope that you will make the right decision.
In my opinion ,a slap on the hand is equal to insults and if he did that in front of others it is equivalent to a slap in the face....If he does it now ....do you think he won't do it later on.....I don't think that your friend is going to be nicer later ,He is showing lack of respect to you when he should be showing that he loves you and respects you . if you continue this relationship. He already is beating you verbally,in public....I would break off this so called boy friend and send him backing...there are nice people too....you don't need to be laughed at even if you were the worst player and certainly not, if all of the people had a bad day.....
tough job , but show him the door....there are nice guys too....I don't believe in double standards .Don't trust that he change or be nicer later on.....good luck
2007-07-25 20:41:24 · answer #4 · answered by frieda l 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think his actions were very disrespectful towards you. He had total disregard for you.
I can't speculate if he is losing interest in your or not, but I can say that his actions certainly didn't reinforce your relationship any, neither did it help it to progress.
Perhaps if he no longer had you in his life, he would consider the consequences of his actions. There are men out there who will indeed treat you with respect. Maybe you should inquire into one.
2007-07-25 20:38:11 · answer #5 · answered by C J 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was trying to put the attention on you to take it off him because he would have been embarassed about his "crappy" playing.
Guys are very competitive in sports, their egos are on the line when it comes to competing.
Sit down with him and ask him what was really going on and explain how his behaviour made you feel.
Realise that people's actions are a reflection of themselves.
Chi Chi x.
2007-07-25 20:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by Chi Chi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a chance. Maybe he's just having fun and he didn't mean to make you feel bad. But if this incident occur not only for once, then that's the time to kick him out.
2007-07-25 20:40:49 · answer #7 · answered by peperoni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could mean a couple of things.
Maybe it's just the way he acts in front of his friend.. all 'macho' and 'alpha male'
OR
he musta gotten a little peed off about something earlier on with you and transmitted his .frustration and anger through teasing you like that while you guys were playing tennis.
I don't know.. but those are my thoughts on it.
Why don't you ask him..?
Just simply ask why he was being so silly with you while you were playing tennis with them?
Be cute about it, make it a very innocent kinda question.
See how he reacts.
He's probably gonna tell you not to have taken it personally... he was probably acting all Mr. COol infrnot of his dumb butt friends.
2007-07-25 20:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by TwistedLogic 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He was trying to feel better about himself by putting u down. A guy doesn't want to look bad in front of his friends, so he was trying to show that he's still better than a girl. Just let him know how you feel about the whole situation and if he continues to treat you poorly, leave him.
2007-07-25 20:36:45 · answer #9 · answered by Dan S 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is a lack of respect for your feelings and he should be put in check and let him know how this makes you feel. If he doesn't get the hint, then drop his *** and move on. This will only get worst if you allow this one incident to seem OK.
2007-07-25 20:38:47 · answer #10 · answered by 1TON 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The truth of the matter is that some guys just enjoy themselves when letting their woman down in front of friends. It really sucks I know . But you really should sit down with your bf and talk to him . Ask him why he is behaving in such a manner and just ask him how he would feel if you had behaved in such a manner with your friends.
He has to respect you no matter what the situation is .
2007-07-25 20:41:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋