so there is a guy that i have been seeing for afew months, and i really like him, but we are not together like boyfriend / girlfriend... well, tonight i slept with another man, for no real reason, but now i feel terrible. do i tell the guy i am talking to or no? i dont know if he is only sleeping with me? he says he is, but i dont know whether i can believe him or not
2007-07-25 19:10:26 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just to let you know, i am 25 so its not like im too young to be having sex, and there is NO WAY that i could have gotten pregnant!!!!
2007-07-25 19:18:55 · update #1
haha...i'm actually kind of in the exact same position right now...I would say that unless you have strong feelings for this guy that you are talking to, there's no reason he needs to know...I mean, if you're casually seeing each other, he doesn't need to know every single detail of your life. (that's kind of what I'm telling myself anyway)
2007-07-25 19:26:20 · answer #1 · answered by terrhalee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that it isn't a big deal if you guys aren't in an exclusive relationship as you indicate in your first sentence... but then your last sentence is "He says he is, but I don't know whether I can believe him or not" so it sounds to me like you two WERE in an exclusive sort of agreement... I'm confused, and it sounds like you are too! :)
If I were you, I would tell him, if nothing else to open up the discussion as to what exactly the perimeters of your relationship really is.
He'll probably find out one way or the other, so it's probably best coming from you.
2007-07-26 02:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by R.T. of S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, Hell no. If you aren't boyfriend and girlfriend then if he hasn't asked for it to be a definite thing, then absolutely not. NONONONONONO. It is your business. Not his. If he is concerned it you are going to be with anyone else then he would ask you to be his one and only. Why do you feel guilty cuz it was good with other guy and might want to be with him as a girlfriend. Don't give it away. They don't deserve you anyway, if your feeling guilt.. You are too good for that.
2007-07-26 02:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by tna8672 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You slept with him "for no real reason"? Like you have no control of what you do?
You should tell the guy you've been seeing, so he can dump you and find a decent girl.
2007-07-26 02:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by Lawrence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its absolutley killing you, then, tell him
if its something you can keep to yourself then do it
this is why i say this:
you seem to give off the impression that this was a one night stand that meant nothing
if you know deep in your heart that was the case, then theres no reason to create tension in the relationship
once you tell him, things will NEVER be the same again
never.
so , if you are willing to take the risk that he might never trust you again, or that he will stop seeing you. go for it
otherwise, its not worth it
2007-07-26 02:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by __________________ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yess u should tell him so at least if u r going to date him in the future he will be able to trust u. but u shouldnt have slept with the other guy in the first place unless u r either married or at least old enough for it.
2007-07-26 02:14:39 · answer #6 · answered by KelSexyBaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He says he is, but I don't know whether I can believe him or not." Wow, that says it all about you.
It's my policy NEVER to sleep with anyone who I don't trust. If you don't know whether he's lying to you or not, buy a vibrator and ditch the guy or, better yet, WAIT TILL YOU GET TO KNOW GUYS BETTER before you spread your legs.
Sounds like you've done more than one thing that's stupid. Yes, tell the guy you've already been sleeping with.
2007-07-26 08:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take it to the grave. Just hope you didn't get pregnant...
Oh, and stay away from Jerry Springer. He has a way of divulging information such as this.
2007-07-26 02:16:16 · answer #8 · answered by miri-miri-off-the-wall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
will the relationship isn't stable, but remember what goes around comes around.. If you sleep with other men, then he can sleep with other women.. Do you want him to sleep with other women? Trust is very important, and I don't think either of you guys have it.. Sorry if it sounds harsh
2007-07-26 02:15:43 · answer #9 · answered by asdf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not in a relationship so there is no need to tell or feel guilty. Until you choose to become committed to this person feel free to see whomever you want.
2007-07-26 02:14:33 · answer #10 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋