my father just re married my mother and hes been gone a while since i was 7 and we have been doing alright by our selfs he says i can no longer go over my sisters house becouse of her husband hes says hes a pedafile. he has been very nice to me and never touched me. what do you think?
2007-07-25 18:44:31 · 11 answers · asked by neverb407 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
well find out if he really is a pedafile. If he's been arrested for it he has to have his address listed with the local authorities. another thing, does your sister and father get along? if not, maybe just maybe your father is mad because of something your brother in law said on your girl's behalf, as in your father not being there for you. Who knows, but till you do know what is true or not, dont take the chance by goin over for now. Let your sister know what your father has been saying and ask her if this is true. find out the facts first, your father may be doin the right thing for once.
2007-07-26 03:48:25 · answer #1 · answered by Green eyed Tlingit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, I misunderstood that question. I'm still unclear whether the charge of pedophilia against your brother in law is based on a specific incident, is based on general suspicion, or what, so it's hard to assess. I'm also unclear as to how old you are, so it's here's my take.
If you're not of legal age, you need to abide by your father's decision until you are.
If you are of legal age, I'd still be pretty wary. See your sister away from the house, rather than at his house. Find out why your father says he's a pedophile, and find out what your mother thinks of this assessment. After all, if her daughter's married to this guy, she must have an opinion, too.
And if you do find yourself around your brother in law, and you feel that he's treating you in a weird or inappropriate manner, tell him to stop. If it feels strange or creepy, leave and tell someone right away. Don't worry about making him look bad or looking foolish. Be safe, and take care of yourself.
2007-07-26 01:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You do have to listen to your parents right now. I'm sure your sister won't mind visiting with you somewhere else but until the three of you are used to living together again and comfortable with the level of decision making each of your parents will have it will be easier for you not to push the bounds on some issues. Pick your battles, you have a better chance of winning that way.
2007-07-26 02:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your father knows something you don't. Lets assume for a moment that he does know this man is a pedifile, would you really want to put yourself in a situation that could harm you the rest of your life? Now, we'll assume the opposite, what then would make him say such a thing? Maybe you and Dad need to have a serious conversation about it, no yelling, blaming etc., just a Dad and daughter talking.
2007-07-26 01:52:47 · answer #4 · answered by pjs1951 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa ... it sounds like there are deeper issues going on than you think. Your sister is your sister and will always be there for you. If your father thinks badly of her husband, then he should bring it up with them - it isn't your place. Depending on your age, he really can't tell you not to visit her, so I wouldn't be concerned about that. If you've never had any problems, then there is no reason to ruin the relationship you have with your sister.
2007-07-26 09:36:14 · answer #5 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope:
Hes your father and has always been so.What happened was between your parents and not you.
If your dad looks out for you ,you should be happy and thankful.Ask him why he thinks your bro-in-law is a child molester,then make your decision.
Better safe than sorry.
Goodluck.
2007-07-26 07:28:33 · answer #6 · answered by sanam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he says he's a pedafile, i wouldn't chance it!!!!! of course he's been nice to u now, u think pedafile's do things RIGHT AWAY!!! they wait and wait and gain your trust. i don't know your dad and your whole family but i would stay away!!
GOOD LUCK HONEY!!!
2007-07-26 01:48:28 · answer #7 · answered by the1andonlystory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he's out of bounds. Tell him that you have been able to make intelligent decisions for quite awhile now, and he is going to need to regain your trust before becoming your dad. Be sure he knows you are willing to trust him, as long as he makes it obvious that you can.
2007-07-26 01:48:16 · answer #8 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you now?
If you are 18 and over you can go over if you want, but if you are 17 and under you need to bide by your parents wishes.
2007-07-26 09:12:25 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents want you to be safe, stay away from there.
You can still spend time with your sister outside of her home, go shopping, see a movie together, etc. Just stay away from her husband! (He's likely being nice because he might want to do something to you...best to play it safe)
2007-07-26 08:42:25 · answer #10 · answered by J3NN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋