I need to know the exact number by 8/1, what should I do?
2007-07-25 18:41:25 · 21 answers · asked by *Duke*my*baby* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There are a lot of people in this world who will not send back a RSVP card even if they are driven to the post office and a stamp is put on the envelope. They just can't be bothered.
If you have not received all of the responses by August 2, then call each person ONCE and say to them, FIRMLY and POLITELY, "Your response card was due yesterday, August 1, I did not receive it. I need to know right now whether you are coming to my wedding and reception . . yes or no."
Do not accept the answer, "I'll have to get back to you." because you have already given them plenty of time to make up their minds.
People are always waiting for "something bigger and better" to come along. When a wedding guest puts off making up their mind about attending someone's wedding it tells me they probably shouldn't been invited to begin with because your wedding is not very important to them.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-07-26 02:29:07 · answer #1 · answered by Avis B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean Aug 1 or Jan 8?
Anyway, if the date is very near, give them a call. But only if their presence is really important to you. As for the rest, just assume they are not coming. If your wedding date is near, you would have better things to do than stress about less important people.
I read a rule in some bridal magazine that you should assume 20% of those you invited are not coming. My advice is, ask more people who are likely to go, those who do not mind getting a late invitation. You would rather have more people on your wedding/reception than empty -- but, paid! -- seats.
2007-07-25 19:08:01 · answer #2 · answered by belle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must call soon. My friend thought that we were not coming to her wedding because we had not RSVP'd. Turned out that we never even received our invitation. Neither did about 20 other people. Had she not called she would not have known.
2007-07-26 05:45:53 · answer #3 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, start calling. It can either be you and your fiance calling, or the two of you AND your parents calling if there are alot of unanswered guests. Call your own guests (i.e. you/your parents call your family and friends and vice versa). Say, "Hi! We haven't gotten an RSVP from you yet, and we were really hoping you would come to our wedding. Will you be able to?"
Always make it sound like you aren't annoyed (even though you are...I will be, when it happens, and I'm sure it will.). Remember--they are the ones buying the presents, tee hee!
Good luck!
2007-07-25 18:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by Esma 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You and your fiance need to divide up the list and start calling. If you need a definite number by next Wednesday, then I would say beginning to call tomorrow is a good idea. If the list is relatively long, then get both sets of parents involved to make things go faster.
2007-07-26 02:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely call them. I had to do this.
Its tough to get an EXACT number, but by calling you can get a close count. I told my caterer about 10 more than I expected. ( 90 guests )
We ended up with about 75, since some who said they'd come did not show.
2007-07-26 01:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by J3NN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait til a few days after your rsvp date, then you and family members get on the phone and call. You must know the numbers, and it was rude of guests to not respond.
2007-07-26 02:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes call them, people are lazy and don't RSVP, even if you send them the RSVP stamped, addressed and ready for them to post back you will find a lot of people won't send them in, it's so rude. So yes, call them or you could end up with a lot more or a lot less people than you thought.
2007-07-25 21:45:17 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call Them.
Would you rather not call, count them as not coming and then have them show up? That could cause big problems on wedding day, if they show up and they don't have a seat or food to eat.
One quick phone call could prevent a possible stressful (and costly, you'd have to pay for emergency dinners to be made) situation.
2007-07-25 18:45:57 · answer #9 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well yeah, call them, or email them and dont stop until you get an answer. A good way to do it is ask your hubby-2-be to give you a hand by calling his side of the party that hasnt RSVP...
2007-07-25 20:25:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋