Bridezilla wedding should I go or not?

Question

My younger sister is getting married after 11 years, two kids, and buying a house. After planning several weddings wasted money on reservations, invitations, and dresses and never following through she wants me and my kids to come to see her get married. Problem is money is tight for me as a single parent, she lives twelve hours away and who knows she might get in a fight w/ her boyfriend again ans cancel at the last minute again. I do not care for her boyfrined at all becasue he has always made negative commentsto me and about me and both of them are very foul mouth curseing each and every other word and constantly argueing with one another and screaming at their kids. This is the only sister I have, but I hate to waste my time if she cancels, and I have little room for drama that may jump off if they act out (as she is very stressed out). I just found out that other family members who were invited are not coming for the same reasons (been togethere forever, and their drama, cursing)

Answer 1

While she might be your only sister, you need to think about your children in this situation. If you do decide to attend, I would definitely leave the kids at home with other family members who are not going to the wedding. I'm sure your sister wants you there for support, but it doesn't sound like she respects the wedding itself or the time commitment from family and friends. It is definitely up to you whether o not you attend, but I would strongly suggest to go it alone if you so decide.

Answer 2

I would try to make it if you can. But it seems like they have a volitile relationship and I don't think this marriage has any chance of surviving. Tell your sister that you hope that she doesn't cancel again, as this will be the last time you are making arrangements to come. That's it. Case closed.

Answer 3

Tell her you don't think you can make it due to your financial/children issues. Let her know beforehand that there's a "slight" possibility that you can't come. If she freaks out then, then you know you need to wait til the last minute to tell her you're not coming. If she acts cool with it, then you know you can tell her a few days later that you can't make it. She should be more concerned with getting married than if everybody and their mom is there, but if you don't really want to go, you need to lie a little and make it seem like you really want to go, but simply can't. Good luck.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

She is your sister, go. Make a plan to get there, it causes so many rifts in families and if you can be there to support her then do it. If you really cannot afford it then tell her that the only reason you are not coming is because you just don't have the money.

Answer 6

Well she is your sister. And always will be. Go.... driving 12 hours to support your sister on her special day (wheather or not she has it) shouldnt cost you too much. Just see if you can stay with her or maybe family that lives out that way. Sure she might fight with her boyfriend and leave him at the alter or vis versa, but thats what your there for. SUPPORT!!! And if nothing else.... at least you wont be bored.

Answer 7

I wouldn't go esp for the money sake. Send a thoughtful card with a gift. I wouldn't go. Sounds like she likes being a drama queen. I wouldn't "pay" for anymore drama.

Good Luck sweetie, I know its hard when its family. :)

Answer 8

Let your sister know that financially it is just not possible for you and your family to attend. If she wants her family to see her get married so badly then why doesn't she go to where her family is?

Answer 9

I wouldnt waste the time going. doesnt seem like these 2 should be living together no bother getting married. tell her that as much as you would like to be there for her wedding its just to hard with the money and travel it will take.

Answer 10

Since money is tight I would not go. Just send a nice card and a gift if you want to.