So, he can go to a music concert! He asked by e-mail if I could possibly change it. He said that he was "hoping to go" and if I can't change it, "I totally totally understand." He didn't make it sound like he already had tickets as the concert is at a county fair, so I think he was going to wing it and see if he could get tickets the day of.
Is it wrong for me to be upset? My daughter was a preemie. It's a miracle that she's even here! To be putting himself before family to me is just assinine. What say you?
I can't adjust the time, as I purposely planned it in the evening after the dinner hour as it's just cake, ice cream, and gift opening. My sister also works that day, so I planned it to be in the evening so she could come. Ugh....this is so irritating.
2007-07-25 18:32:36 · 15 answers · asked by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The party is THIS Saturday and he just asked now to change it. It makes me upset that he asked at all!
2007-07-25 18:33:10 · update #1
He's not young without children...he's 37 with a six year old!
2007-07-25 18:45:51 · update #2
Keep the party as planned. Your daughter is what's important not your brother-in-law. E-mail him back that he can drop off his present on the way to his concert.
2007-07-25 18:37:49 · answer #1 · answered by Honey 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are not wrong, plan it for the evening, as it is YOUR family and your daughter's special day! If it was your husband, that is different, but your brother, though in a nice way asked, shouldn't have any expectations of you to change it.
I say tell him: here is the time and place, if you can make it, that would be great! Bring the Reddi-whip! ;)
Congratulations and especially happy b-day to your baby girl!
2007-07-26 01:46:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No reason to be upset. Just go ahead with your party and smile. Have a good time and make it an enjoyable day to remember. When all is said and done he only asked. And he understands. No Problem.
2007-07-26 01:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
he is not trying to force you to do this, has merely asked if it would be possible. just tell him that you cant rearrange it, that you would like him to come, but its not the end of the world if he cant be there. he might be really excited to go to this concert or something. its not as if he is the father. you should not be upset about this. if he did it every single time, then be upset. for a one off, dont worry about it
2007-07-26 02:57:13 · answer #4 · answered by Minerva 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you cannot change it as you have already invited other family members. Let him know that will "totally totally understand" if he wants to go to the concert.
2007-07-26 01:38:43 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are correct to be upset, HOWEVER, remember that many people, especially young people without children, think of only themselves first. Your brother-in-law obviously has no clue, so, although hard, DON'T take it personally.
The biggest disappointments in our lives are when people don't do what WE THINK they should do. Your brother-in-law is acting dopey, no doubt, but to stress about it will only make you more upset. Celebrate and enjoy your daughter's party! It's your brother-in-law's loss.
2007-07-26 01:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by Jason 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This day is for your daughter and it's already planned. It's just rude to ask you to rearrange plans that have already been made. If you reschedule it for another day who knows who else wouldn't be able to make it on such short notice. Keep the party on the day that you have set it for.
2007-07-26 01:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by greedywendy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't get upset about this. He obviously does not acknowledge the miracle of your daughter being alive. That's his loss. You and your spouse and probably a lot of other people do acknowledge it so let him be. I congratulate you with your miraclegirl and I whish her and you the best birthdayparty ever!
2007-07-26 04:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by chocolatebunny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him sorry these are our plans and I can't change it like this at the last minute..sorry you prefer to go to a concert instead of to your neice's b-day party...
2007-07-26 01:51:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply choose the date that the MOST number of people who are a part of this event will be able to make it and it suits them more (including yourself and your husband).
If it's the date he chose, so be it. If it's not, apologize politely by emailing him back saying the date you chose suits the majority.
2007-07-27 03:32:00 · answer #10 · answered by Serendipity 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋