i met this GAY guy about 5 mths ago and now we're pretty good friends...i just recently have been crushing on him...i know its weird . Tonight i heard from a friend that knows him too, she said that he is really attracted to my personality and she said that we would date if he wasnt gay...so what do you think? isnt that usually what matters when it comes to liking someone in that way....i mean thats how some ppl even start being gay...for example if a straight girl falls for another girl wouldnt that be the same thing as a gay guy falling for a straight girl....am i right?
in case you needed to know he has been with a girl before....
2007-07-25 18:14:18 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Being gay is not a choice. Of course he is attracted to your personality. I am sure you are an amazing person. That is why you choose your friends...their great personalities! If he is gay, he will always be attracted to men. You deserve it all!!! A man who loves your personality and who is physically attracted to YOU!
It is hard to explain...but I think of my close girlfriends. Yes, I love them, their great personalities and their beauty. However, I am heterosexual so there is never an issue. I feel that the two of you are such close friends but being different sexes the question of why are we not more than just friends arises.... My advise: Good friends are not easily found. Do not throw this amazing man away. Keep him as your friend! The attraction will go away. (Possibly you are just lonely in this moment of your life...believe me, I have been ther.) Don't risk the heart ache and possible loss of a friend. Especially if he would be denying who he is to be with you. Neither of you would be happy! Best of luck! You are in my prayers!!!
2007-07-25 18:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happened to my friend! It is exactly the same straight girl falls for another girl wouldnt that be the same thing as a gay guy falling for a straight girl. Ask him if he thinks he might turn bi or straight again or if hes ever thought about a girl like he used to. (I recomened you rephase it) If he says no then just try really hard not to think of him as a crush anymore.
2007-07-26 01:24:29 · answer #2 · answered by fsh_paste 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's been with a girl before, he probably knows what he wants rather well. As much as it will hurt, I say it's better to give up. My best friend is gay, and has given several girls the whole "I could date you if I was straight" speech, and it means just that- he could date you IF he was straight, but he's not, so get over it.
2007-07-26 01:18:49 · answer #3 · answered by neogeoloco@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with your comment about how people "start being gay". That is a very narrow minded comment.
Your attraction to a gay male is you making yourself unavailable to another person because you know the relationship will never go anywhere. Consider therapy to sort this out, could be an indicator of a larger problem.
2007-07-26 01:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by Mark A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that someone can't become gay. That's just the way they are. If they're are gay then they know it and they don't fool around both ways, out in the open. I think that he's just bored and curious. In my opinion, you're safe to go for him.
2007-07-26 01:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by lizko2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just check again to see if he's really gay. If he's not then go out with him. If he is then try to be closer to him to see if he realizes that you don't want him to be gay. If it doesn't work then maybe see if there's another guy you like.
2007-07-26 05:22:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somepeople are straight , some are gay, some are bi. and some are varios shades of grey inbetween this definitions. Maybe he's not 100% gay and maybe you're not 100% straight but maybe you are just right for each other.
2007-07-26 01:20:14 · answer #7 · answered by jimanddottaylor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, ive dated a lesbian. If you know how to aproach it and how to say things right you can do it too. You can try meeting up with him and tell him how you feel about him little by little, ask him to give you a chance at least a few weeks if he can let you. Good luck.
2007-07-26 01:21:00 · answer #8 · answered by jack_lolz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....if he's truly gay then I doubt you can "convert" him so you can date him. However, since he's been with a girl before then he's bisexual and maybe you would have a chance of dating him. Good luck.
2007-07-26 01:17:56 · answer #9 · answered by The Curmudgeon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has been with a girl before, then obviously he is bi.
Maybe he likes you but is too shy to tell you. Just be patient and let him come to you, if he likes you he will eventually show it, if he doesn't then just be friends. Good luck :)
2007-07-26 01:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Vodkagirl♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋