I don't know weather I should go or not.I think it's rude if he donse not want her there at all
2007-07-25 17:43:29 · 53 answers · asked by crystal t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
it is your brother's wedding...don't bring your daughter. if you don't like that arrangement...don't go at all
2007-07-25 17:46:02 · answer #1 · answered by booooooooooooby 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It could be that they are not having any children present at their wedding. Some people prefer weddings without children. Children sometimes cry and run around. Also, sometimes there is a financial burden. Most wedding reception dinners cost a lot of money. It could be that the meal is $60/person or more. If that is the case, children (who are often picky eaters or who eat less than adults) often cost the same as adults. Also, at my wedding, we couldn't afford to have the entire extended family. Only aunts and uncles were invited (not their children) because we knew them the best. No one had a problem with this.
Do NOT, under any circumstances, bring her anyway. Your brother and his new wife will never let it go. Weddings are planned down to the smallest detail by the bride and she will never forget it if you are vindictive on her special day. Try to look at the situation from their point of view before deciding that they are just rude people. However, if you really feel like your brother just hates your daughter for no reason, don't go.
2007-07-25 22:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by Ariel H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is your daughter? If she's under the age of 6, then don't take her to the wedding. Its not that your brother doesn't love your daughter, its just that it is a VERY important and VERY special day for him and his fiance. The last thing anyone would want is to have a child cry out during the vows, or laugh during a wrong time, or go running down the aisle....I can see his point. I can also see yours, you want to be allowed to take one of the most important people in YOUR life to the important event of his life. But really, try to think about leaving her with a sitter and make it a renewal between you and your husband, or like a date night. Your daughter will be bored to tears anyway, and your brother really seems to think its important.
2007-07-25 17:47:59 · answer #3 · answered by heatherfalcone@sbcglobal.net 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This tends to be a controversial topic. If they want an adult-only event, then that's what they want. A parent can leave their child at home for a night - I'm sure she'll be okay with a babysitter! Just go and have a good time. Don't miss your brother's wedding. (I never went to a single wedding my parents were invited to in the first 17 years of my life. I certainly didn't get upset over it and I'm sure they were happy to have the night out.)
2007-07-26 03:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Weddings are stressful, and the bride normally wants them to be perfect, so don´t take this request personally. Weddings are also very expensive, and cutting out children from the celebration is one of the first things brides do.
Get a babysitter, go to the wedding, and support this couple. Don´t think of this as rude...you´ll probably notice that all children are not invited-not just your daughter.
2007-07-25 22:25:50 · answer #5 · answered by Learning is fun! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it dont seem right and it does seem rude but more and more people are doing that today not inviting kids.My brother did the same thing and Ive always said if my kids were not invited then I would not go either but its getting so common anymore.It maybe because weddings are getting so expensive to put on I mean its crazy how much they charge you for a plate threw a catering company.if no kids were invited I would go but if it were just my daughter then I would say forget it..I guess it would just depend on the reason she is not invited.
2007-07-25 18:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by lynda p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how the invitations were addressed...how old is your daughter?...Here is a sad fact, while it is not your day...it is his...and if he and his future wife only want adults...it's their right...and their day...I don't know the circumstances, but a lot of people don't like children at the wedding so as not to distract from the ceremony?..No matter which way anyone goes...someone always seems to get hurt feelings...Me, I would just elope..save a lot of hassel...and then have a dinner or shower after I came back...just my opinion..need to talk to your brother, before it causes you both problems....my suggestion...
2007-07-25 17:49:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple choice: either go without your daughter as invited or don't go at all. Don't go telling your brother off or starting a fuss. He and his fiancee get to decide who they invite to their wedding; the guests don't decide for themselves. They may have very good reasons for not inviting your daughter. You don't mention her age, but small children can be very disruptive because of their short attention spans, babies cry, children run around and are loud, bump into people, create disturbances (I'm not blaming the child--it's what children do). They may also have elected not to have children due to cost. Perhaps they feel the entertainment at the reception, or the setting, or the hour, are not appropriate for children. It's not rude of them to decide who is invited to their wedding.
2007-07-26 04:11:36 · answer #8 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends upon how old and / or mature she is and what was agreed upon as to the age of guests being allowed. I have heard of no kids under 5, no kids under 2, no kids under 16, etc. weddings. Maybe you could come to a compromise with your brother. My son was babysat during a couple of weddings when he was younger, including my own to his step-father, but joined us for the reception and I would do the same thing if I had to do it all over again.
2007-07-25 17:51:59 · answer #9 · answered by OOO! I know! I know! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honor his wishes. a lot of people are choosing not to have children at their wedding. I see nothing wrong with it myself. This is not to be disrepectful of those with children, but truly a wedding is not the place for kids. Only the children in the ceremony itself. If this upsets you try to put it aside and go for his sake. A lot of people are doing this because in all honesty children can be very disruptive during the ceremony and afterwards. crying out, screaming, talking and what not. once more i am not saying this is how yours would behave. If this is his wish and his brides then you must honor it or chose not to attend.
2007-07-25 17:49:05 · answer #10 · answered by Southern Belle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is your daughter? It is customary not to bring children to a wedding because if the child cries, it takes away from the bride's day. May don't want a child under 12 there because they fool around and make lots of white noise. I don't blame her at all. She is right. If you find it rude and don't go, you will just make a fool of yourself in the bride's eyes.
2007-07-25 17:46:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋