EX Jehovah's Witnesses?

Question

After being excommunicated and losing all of your friends...Jobs...families...everything..does it finally feel good to you to have a platform like this to be able to tell others what is was really like?

I realised why I hang out here and do what I do...
I never got to tell my side of the story....
When they kick you out...there is no closure...They can do what they want and no one will speak to you so you can't explain what want wrong and how you are mistreated....

http://silentlambs.org
http://freeminmds.org
http://watchman.org

Magnetis..I was the one abused

My father was an elder and he did unspeakable things to me my entire life...there is a huge cover up in the Witnesses due to the fact that if you are abused, you have to bring 2 witnesses to the elders for them to believe you....then it is,, or was, never reported to the authoraties, because it would bring reproach on the name of God's people.....They can excommunicate you and everyone will shun you and you can not tell your side of the story.......

Mosie...you are an A$$...If you are employed by a Jehovah's Witness, and you get disfellowshipped, you WILL lose your job.

Misplaced mother...You are not very bright..I know perfectly well the Witness termanology for Disfellowshipped...excomunicated...is a genaeric term so that other than Witnesses would know what I was talking about.

Heill...come up with something different to answer than vomiting up the same watchtower dogma...


PLEASE...it is worrysome, and kind of creepy that you of all the practicing JW's have nothing of your own to say.........

typo...my last posting was to Heiss...cant type to save my life...lol

Answer 1

It greatly helped me to find that 10,000's JWs are leaving every year on learning of the deception of the Watchtower Society. I now spend a lot of time on jehovahs-witness.com talking to others that are in the process of leaving.

I also have written a book and put a lot of the information at jwfacts.com and www.jehovah.net.au and get great encouragement from those that email me in gratitude to learn that being a Witness is based on falsehood.

Answer 2

Very true. On some level, this must be very therapeutic, especially for individuals who still hold a lot of anger over how they were treated throughout the process of leaving.

When people go through a profound change that comes about through loss--whether it be the death of a loved one, a divorce, loss of a job, etc., there is always a grieving process. Even when the change is for the better, there can be conflicting emotions that need to be resolved (ie closure, as you say). I have often compared the WT to an abusive husband. As badly as someone may want to get away, there is a lot of fear and anxiety, whether they stay or finally leave, and a lot of the same emotions surface.

In any loss, coming to a place of closure requires that we go through the following phases: denial, anger, fear, acceptance, depression. Sometimes, we get stuck in certain phases longer than others and sometimes, we advance only to regress back to a phase we thought we were finished with. The ultimate goal, of course, is acceptance.

Right now, you seem to be working through the anger, and that is okay. The important thing is not to get stuck in anger forever. You do want to eventually come to a place of acceptance, not only for your own benefit, but so that you might be able to help others out of the organization later.

Since you are a Christian today, please pray that God's grace and Holy Spirit will help you to resolve these inner conflicts to His glory.

God bless.

Answer 3

When you leave them, all that you say in your defence falls on deaf ears. They shun you and claim that your words are poison and that you are a servant of Satan.
It is so frustrating to have the basic right of free speech taken away from you, to be denied the chance to tell your side of the story.
Even when you try to speak up in a public place such as Yahoo Answers they try to silence you.
I don't tell lies about them or spread rumors etc, I simply speak from my own experiences of being a JW for 17 years, yet they still denounce me.
That isn't fair. I and others like me have the right to be heard.

EDIT: misplacedmother- so you base your assumption that she is lying on the fact that she used the word "excomunicated"?? Almost everyone on this forum knows the meaning and implication of "excomunicated" and almost no-one would know the term "disfellowshipped" or fully understand the consequences of being punished in this way. Using the term "excomunicated simply make it easier for others to understand.

Answer 4

It's important to me that people know the human costs of involving themselves with this religion. The costs that aren't explained initially, at the time when the home owner would close the door in the faces of those persons at their door if they were told if they joined, under certain circumstances and in order to stay in "good standing," they'd be required to make choices between their religion or their family.

I view this telling the other side as outreach and education. And yes, it's cathartic, but mostly it's sad and I'm sorry it's part of my history.

I feel the animosity and negativity expressed against us by current JWs reading this board is due to the fact that they feel if they don't say we're lying and if they acknowledge the truth of what we post, it diminishes their respectability. How could anyone in good conscience involve themself knowingly in an organization that advocates the treatment of human beings as expressed by those who've left?

Answer 5

i'm so thrilled you asked former Jehovah's Witnesses to respond to this question. in any different case, how ought to you ever discover out why they left? There are some exciting solutions out of your non secular brothers and sisters - yet not considered one of them has arise with the glaring. whilst i became right into a Jehovah's Witness, I additionally thought I had the real faith and there became into no way i became into ever going to depart it. which would be truly stupid, does not it, to depart what you believed to be real that gave you peace of recommendations. Neither did I depart because of fact i became into immoral or somebody stumbled me or I in basic terms did not desire to stay as much as the Bible's intense standards. I wasn't blending with worldly people, i did not soak up smoking or ingesting. in actuality, i became into pioneering and that i became into married to a pioneer. So why did I depart? you're able to desire to comprehend that my father and mom grew to alter into Witnesses in the 1930's, and that i knew not something different than what Jehovah's Witnesses believed. We have been all watching for the top of 6,000 years of guy's life to end in the autumn of 1975 (i will furnish the Watchtower quotations in case you doubt me) and that meant Armageddon could come quickly after. My father and mom believed they have been the era that would see the fulfilment of the top-time prophecies in Matthew 24 and that they could be alive while the Millennial reign of Christ began. None people made any of this up. all of us believed what the Society instructed us. wager what? This prophecy became into fake - we are nonetheless waiting, 33 years later. consequently I left - fake prophecies approximately dates and predictions while 6,000 years of human life will end. Any peace of recommendations I had became into shattered when I realised the quantity to which I were misinform. i'm now a born-returned Christian with a heavenly wish and that i compliment God that, in the direction of the Holy Spirit, he delivered me to a place of repentance and forgiveness. faith does not shop. in basic terms Jesus Christ can do this.

Answer 6

The WTS has a reputation of an "occasional" or somewhat "sporadic" effort of giving help to anyone OTHER THAN fellow JWs no matter what the case or disaster being spoken of. Actually, it is quite the opposite----that people EXPECT no help from the WTS or any organized effort by JWs, when others are lining up to send donations and to offer help and supplies of food, clothing, lumber, etc. The JWs as a group...are nowhere to be seen.

Even in the aftermath of the recent Katrina disaster....the JWs were told NOT to send donations earmarked for this express purpose....but to send their checks to the general "wordlwide work", and that THEY the WTS....would then decide how best this money was to be spent.

But then, they need to hoard the contributions and donations sent to them in order to funnel them to whatever "interests" best benefit the WTS as an oragnization.....with nary a thought to those flood and hurricane victims.

Answer 7

Yesterday there was a touching story on here from a former Jehovah's Witness..The JW's basically told her she was spreading lies..They were so mean and ugly to her..That girl was in tears from what she put up on additional comment..It was a true show of their un-love and the way they judge people. It was extremely sad to read.

I put my story on here once and LineD. told me that I was not being truthful as well. They are showing their true colors on here..The way they treat ones that no longer believe as they do is horrible. The majority of former JW's on here..99.9 % have told no lies..only the truth..They seem to be the ones that cannot and will not tell the truth about their feelings towards us and other things as well. I could write a very long comment here..but it does fall on deaf ears as far as they are concerned. I get very discouraged trying to explain my feelings to them..It makes me have a bad day when I read their mean, ugly, hateful comments to me.

Answer 8

I was born a 3rd generation Jehovah's Witness in 1957 was enslaved to the Watchtower corporation for 33 years and made my exit in 1992

I was in the cult and now i'm out-Life has been better since I got out!

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Answer 9

My ex-husband is a JW and his mother left his father, who were also JWs, the father still is. My ex-husband was 'counseled' not to speak or 'associate' with his own mother due to the fact she was disfellowshipped. His own MOTHER...how evil can you get?????

Answer 10

i'm not sure what you question is. I looked at the link.

are you saying you were or tried to protect another from abuse and were kicked out of the kingdom hall because of this?