Will he ever ask me to marry him???

Question

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 years. We get along so good. We always have a good time together but when will we take that next step? Are relationship seems to be at a stand still. When I ask question about us ever getting married he always says your silly. Like I'm joking or something. I know he loves me but what is he waiting for?!?!?! How much longer do I have to wait? This is the guy that i want to spend the rest of my life with, I just hope he wants the same

Answer 1

ok honey, here goes.

if you have been dating for 6 years it doesn't sound to me like it is going anywhere else. have you and he discussed marriage plans before? have you ever (and him) talked about how marriage might be in the future for either of you?

are you happy with the way it is now? do you want more? these are questions only you can answer. if you are not happy with the way it is now. sit him down and discuss it completely. tell him you want more and if he is not willing to give more do you honestly want only a dating relationship the rest of your life? if you want more you have to tell him and make it plain. if you aren't happy with the answer don't wait around for him to use you more. move on. dont' waste time on someone who does not want the same things in life you do.

Answer 2

There is nothing preventing you from asking him to marry you. Perhaps he has witnessed failed relationships in his family or friends and so is afraid to make the next step. It certainly wouldn't hurt to let him know that you are serious and not kidding around when you discuss marriage. Inform him of how much he means to you and that you are hoping to spend the rest of your natural days with him. Hopefully this open minded mature conversation will not scare him away, but will make him take a closer look at what he wants from this relationship long term. Best of luck.

Answer 3

First, how old are you? Like early 20's and been together since high-school or older? Just a question. But still he should not brush off your question. If you seriously want to talk to him then tell him you want to be serious about talking about this. Tell him how you feel, that you think it is time to discuss this and figure out a time-line and where you are headed. Do you live together? Do you have other future plans? If he blows it off again, I would mentally set a date that you give him to become more serious about it. I would say one more year and if he still doesn't bring it up ( and don't you do it) then I would move on, because if he is into you and a future with you, it should be on his mind too.

Answer 4

How old are you? If you're 19 compared to 27, that makes a big difference. He may not be ready yet. But, he also just may not want to marry you. After 6 years you should feel comfortable enough to have a discussion about what he wants with this relationship. If it's not what you want, you need to think about moving on.

Answer 5

your just silly? maybe that is to throw u off so when he asks he question u will be caught off guard and suprised

or..............

maybe he is scared. many people belive marriage ruins the relationship

if he has been married before then maybe that is why - fear

maybe he has a fear of being tied down

the relationship getting old/dull

this is a serious issue that should not be takin lightly......

you need to talk to him ask him what he thinks about marriage tell him someone you know or a friend of your is getting married soon - let him know after you say that that you would like to get married

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Marriage is a big step. You may have yourself not fully thought it through. Maybe he isn't ready to have you as the center of his universe. Maybe he still needs to experience things a single man can't? Some men are afraid of this big committment. You need to have a serious talk with him because 6 years is a long time!

Answer 8

If he did, he would have after two or three years of dating. Just because you love each other doesn't mean you are a match for getting married - it doesn't seem he wants to.

Answer 9

I've been with my man for 5 and a half years,we have lived together for 5.three weeks ago he asked me and I said yes.We never spoke about us getting married before.We always knew we were going to be together for life.If and when the time is right,it 'll happen.

Answer 10

There are just so, so many variables - that the question is almost too hard to answer.
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Have you guys been living together or separately?

Are you both financially stable?

Is the physical relationship still good?

Is there anything that would be better about your life or relationship if you put a label on it? (Why do you want to be married?)
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If it's important, don't let him blow you off. If he makes a joke, tell him that it's something that really means a lot to you. Let him decide if it's something he wants too.