the way she met him was when she was well...a hooker
and he was her "client"
i made a big deal out of hating him becuase of that and they've been going out for a year and i still have'nt met him
im not sure its right to judge him becuase of how they met and just in general the effect hes had on my mom
so i was thinking of letting him meet me
but while doing something i enjoy so i dont waste the whole day if i end up not likeing him still
also im living with my dad now, and he doesn't want me meeting him or especially hanging around with him.
i said to my mom i was thinking about letting him meet me
but i can't tell my dad if i do.
which just feels really wrong, becuase i dont like lieing to him
so to get to the point i was wondering what all of you think would be best meeting him or not..i mean hes a big part of my moms life now but im just not sure..
what would some of you do in this situation.*?
2007-07-25 17:05:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
sorry for the mess-up i meant to say she was a hooker and he her "client" ..
2007-07-25 17:07:34 · update #1
crazylegs... no he didnt stop her from being a hooker at all actually for a couple months there he wanted to hire her out after she had decided to stop...(becuase of social workers and my attempted suicide which i failed at horribly -.- , anyway thats the whole reason i even live with my dad now, im not allowed to live with her)
2007-07-25 17:25:45 · update #2
Whatever you decide to do, do NOT lie to your dad. Youve been thru enough and you dont need to put a wedge between him and you.
2007-07-25 17:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some ways, it depends on how big a part your mom plays in your life. If you are living with your dad, do you see her often? And if so, does your dad have a problem with you interacting with her? It's understandable he could be upset by the whole scenario in general, and hurt by her actions. It's also good that he worries about you and your safety, but there will come a time (I'm not sure how old you are) where you will have to make decisions for yourself as an adult, and he's going to have to accept that.
If you do decide to meet her new bf, try something short and simple (like a blind date) such as meeting both of them for coffee/smoothies/bubble tea.. whatever. I think you may always wonder about him if you don't.
2007-07-26 00:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by i_have_cheese_dreams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact of the matter is this guy means a lot to your mother, regardless of the circumstances of their meeting. You have nothing really to lose by meeting him, you will gain insights on a guy that your mom obviously cares deeply about. At least give him a fair chance before deciding that you don't like him. How can you not like someone you don't even know? Your dad, will always have a problem with whoever your mom decides to go out with, you can not make your decisions based on your dad. Your mom & your dads issue are completely different from yours. Do it for your mom, I am sure your mom will do the same for you.....
2007-07-26 00:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by always51787 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this male helped your mom clean up and stop hooking then I would say that it would be very appropriate for you to meet him and attempt to give him a chance. Your father might very well be upset, but the fact is that this woman is still your mother and as such deserves respect and support also. Best of luck in coming to a decision on this difficult scenario.
2007-07-26 00:11:02 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't go against your dad.He is your parent you would hurt him badly when he finds out.What is so important about you meeting this guy?Tell your mom,you wont lie to your dad,because its not important that you meet this man.Only with your dads knowledge tell her to ask if you could just go to dinner with them.I would not want you to go.I feel that the men that go to hookers are as soiled as the hooker.So, he will not be a person you should meet.
2007-07-26 00:23:51 · answer #5 · answered by lotteda717 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have to say that i have not been in the same situation but similar, and even after meeting my moms 'friends' I didn't feel any better, it was like if i met him, i would think better of him and i surely didn't.
thats my story, but i don't have a father in my life, so just be honest to your dad and say that 'its been a yr and i haven't met him, and i want to stop judging him, so i need to meet him'
take care
2007-07-26 00:11:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey my dad has been dating this hooker for like over a year how crazy is that shit
2007-07-26 00:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by jimbo 899889898989 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-07-26 00:09:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋