How do you reach personal inner peace?

Question

I keep searching.

I would appreciate all cruel answers to just go on your way. I left my Mom at the hospital where she is undergoing cancer "treatment" and she is deathly ill. How does one maintain a peaceful feeling when you watch someone you love suffer?

Peace to all,
and
To all Good Night.

Answer 1

I just left a friend whose wife has colon cancer and has not come out of the induced coma following complications after surgery that shut down her kidneys. Her husband(they are both in their 70s and have no children) is devastated but has great faith in Christ. I was there when the priest came to anoint her and read from the Bible. "Come to Me all you who are weary and heavy burdened and i will give you rest."

My sister in law died of bone cancer last March at age 60 and she inspired all of us with her faith and peace. She planned her funeral and wrote 15 personal thank you letters to friends and family which were given out at the house after the Mass.

I felt very helpless and would have taken on myself her struggle. i believe that this is what jesus did for and with us . I talked personally with Jesus about my pain,her pain,my brother's pain and my nieces' pain. The crucifix was never so real and meaningful a sign to me before that.

Talking with others who were open helped me. Others I did not talk to about the situation because they could not handle it or they just did not get it. Jesus was always there to listen to my family.

Hymns helped such as the Spiritual "I Want To Be Ready" and "Be Still My Soul"

Answer 2

Talk about all the great stuff she has done. Look back on her life with her and laugh about things. Everyone makes mistakes, but there are also the little things we cherish and some big ones, too. Focus on those things and have no regrets about anything you've done in the past.

Inner peace is one thing we all look for but rarely find because no one really knows what that is. The most important things are how your minds are working. If your mother passes, she is going to a way better place than here. You will be going there when your time comes... Rather than focusing on the cancer, focus on the LIFE. Whatever happens will happen, no matter what. Like I said, think and talk about the positive things in life and maybe even ask each other about the best things in your lives.

Answer 3

To reach personal inner peace you have to realize what is bothering you and solve it. If leaving your mother at the hospital is bothering you, then go back. If you can't then wait until you can. If you never can, then there isn't anything you can do about, but try to call her if she feels well enough to. Send flowers, just do what you think would make her and yourself happy.
Its not your fault she has cancer. So you shouldn't be tearing yourself up inside. I mean, I'm not saying you shouldn't feel bad at all, i mean its your mother, of course you will. But do what you can to show that you love her while she's still here and you'll find it easier to overcome your lose. She'll be in a better place soon enough, just try to comfort her until she gets there.

Answer 4

You will find your personal inner peace through
courage and strength. I understand how difficult it is. I spent 33 days in the hospital with my son (4 days in ICU) when he was first diagnosed with stage IV abdominal sarcoma. I thought I would never laugh again. We were all devastated and terribly traumatized. In all honesty, I did not know you could live your daily life in such terror.

My sons attitude during this whole ordeal made a big difference. He was never angry, even though he was only 17 years old and filled with cancer. He had to endure and be humbled by his illness so many times that first month. He showed us how to be courageous . . to live one day at a time. To literally stay in the moment and not worry about tomorrow or next week or next year.

I came to the horrific realization that we had no choice about what was happening. The cancer was there and we had to deal with the reality of it. So, I began to research . . and that was hard because most of the information was beyond grim. It took me weeks to be able to read every bit of information about his disease. It took months for me to even begin to understand some of what was written. But, it helps to know as much as you possibly can about treatment options. It helps to join a support group when you feel like your head is going to explode. And, it help enormously that you love this person with all your heart. They will keep you going.

When you are with your mother give her all your love, attention, and positive spirit that you can. Do not look into the future, concentrate on how she is right at the moment you are with her. Do all you can to comfort her in those moments. And, enjoy her.

My son is still here with me. He has been fighting this rotten disease for two and a half years. He has had three major surgeries, 9 months of high dose chemotherapy, and about 18 months of low dose chemo. Each obstacle we have faced together. And you and your Mom will too.

If you are religous than you might find comfort in your church. Or at the hospital, you might ask to talk with a medical social worker (they often work in oncology units and clinics) or join a support group like the ones offered at Cancer Care:

Cancer Care
http://www.cancercare.org/

Sometimes talking will help.

Stay strong.

Answer 5

My mum underwent treatment for bowel cancer 2 years ago and almost didn't make it but today she is well and healthy and back to doing all the things she used to do, so there is hope for your mum yet. You may not have any interest in the bible but Matthew 5:3 says that happy are those conscious of their spititual need. The scriptures also teach that the dead are conscious of nothing and Jesus likened it to sleep when talking to his disciples about his friend Lazurus dying. I've always found the JW's good to talk to about the bible because they really know their bibles and can give you real comfort and peace of mind. Hope your outcome is a good regardless of what happens with your mum.

Answer 6

I am very sorry to hear about your mother, my best wishes are with her. To answer your question, I don't believe that you can maintain "inner peace" during such a difficult time. If you could you probably wouldn't be human. What you can do although is keep your composer as best you can. You are probably feeling very emotional right now, which is normal. Allow yourself to feel what you are feeling, trying to suppress those emotions is only going to postpone the reality. Try to learn as much about your mother as you can, do your best to comfort her and help her feel at ease and that will make you feel better that anything you could do on your own. Best of luck to you.

Answer 7

I'm sorry Mom. There is no answer that I know for this question. I personally couldn't find any solace through such an ordeal. If it were me, I would just try to make the most of the time you have left with her. However long that may be. Regardless of it's a day, a month, or years to come. You have a long time to cope with this issue, but your time with her may be limited, so cherish each and every moment. I'm sorry I can't help you with an answer to your question, but please know that you and your family are in my prayers tonight.

Slide in baby, together we'll fly
I've tried praying but I don't know what you're saying to me
Now that you're mine,
We'll find a way
Of chasing the sun
Let me be the one
Who shines with you
In the morning, we don't know what to do
We're two of a kind
We'll find a way to do what we've done
Let me be the one
Who shines with you
And we can slide away.

-Oasis

Answer 8

I have this relaxing music that is like the beach and stuff.
Listen to it closely and lose yourself in it.

Also, get someone to say in a monotone voice:
You are walking along a beach, the sand squishing beneath your toes...etc etc

Answer 9

Just think how much better off they will be. Lost both of my parents at a young age.

Answer 10

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