What should I do?

Question

I overheard my mom on the phone today that my grandpa died in the last few days but I can't go see him because I have school and he lives far from me. I don't know why she didn't want to tell me and pretends nothing has happened. I can't stay focused...

Thanks everyone. I asked my mom yesterday and I was right. My grandpa died this Wednesday... Mom's getting the paperwork done for passport & visa and leaving in 3 days to see my grandpa. I'm going to ask her more details when she gets back.

Answer 1

I'm so sorry to hear that you have lost your grandpa. You could tell your mother, "I overheard you talking about Grandpa, now I can't concentrate on school. Please tell me everything." Your mom probably needs comfort right now, just as much as you do. Tell her you love her. Forgive her for trying to keep it from you. (Resenting her won't accomplish anything positive and will only poison your relationship. I assume that you really do care about your mom and she cares about you.)

I don't know what kind of religious tradition you come from. (That's the problem with meeting people on line.) So it is difficult to suggest something that might be meaningful for you and comforting. I can only sugest what has been a help to me. Jesus said, "Come to me all you who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest." When I recall that Jesus also said "I am the way, the truth and the life, no man comes to the Father but through Me," since He left no other possibility open, His offer to receive those who are weary and heavily burdened strikes me as very generous. I have asked Him to receive me, and I am comforted in all the sad burdens I have in life. I am sure that He would do the same for you if you ask Him.

I will be praying for you and for your mom and for your whole family. Please let us know how you are in additional details! I wish I could hold you and rock you in my arms and comfort you, but since I can't, I hope this will help.

26 JULY 07, 0627 hrs, GMT.

Answer 2

Well, you should have a driver liscene if you have it then you could get a car and if optional you sholud bring your friends to go to where your grandpa is . If you don't have a driver liscene, You should tell your mom truth and just ask her if you could go to the the graveyard where your grandpa is. You need to face the facts. That's how life works, Tell your mom what is wrong with you during school time about why your grades are down. You should tell her your grades is down beacause, you miss your grandpa and you want to go to the graveyard where your grandpa is.

Answer 3

She is probably trying to soak in this loss and trying to find the best way to tell you. Let her know that you over heard her conversation and need to talk about it.... You can take time from school for bereavement. Schools will provide you with the work that you need to complete and some will give you make up time when you get back..
Talk to your mom, you can probably go if she knows that you heard about your grandpa.

Answer 4

Talk to your mom. If you tell how you feel about the situation i bet she will never hide stuff of this multitude again! And he is your grandfather the reason you are alive is because helped give birth to your mother even if you have school and he lives far, you can make up the school work, and about him leaving far from you that why humans invented cars,planes, and other machines that can take you to far way places. Do you get what i mean?!!!

Answer 5

I'm sorry to hear that. My Grandpa and Grandma (on oposite sides) died when I was very young, so it wasn't really hard for me. I would advise you to talk to your mother and ask her why she seems so passive, and then figure out a time when you can go pay your respects. Even if it isn't right now he will understand.

Answer 6

I will not give you a long answer but i'll say hey at least Grandpa is in a better place ,it was his time to go back home.Mom probably knew how much you loved him and that it would take your mind off of school.So just rejoice and be happy that he's home and that he wants you to continue to move on.

Answer 7

it's quite hard to understand the moment you know the truth. however, some things are better kept hidden for the time being so preparation can be made on how to relate such situation. that's how things always is, you'd be kept in the dark and the moment you personally find the truth, it's always too late. i don't mean to discourage you but try to accept that maybe your mom don't want you to worry,thus,she'll tell you when things cooled down a bit..sorry..

Answer 8

I am sorry to hear about this latest passing. My only living grandparent also lives far away from me (california for me, china for him) , and I have only met another grandparent for short periods of time. well, i'm sure your mother wouldn't hide it away from you without a good reason. maybe it would divert you from your school. if your grandparent was her parents, she might want to keep it to herself, which could be another reason. If i could, i would wait a little longer, maybe a week. If she doesn't reveal by then, you have the right to ask her about this, since you personally feel bothered and affected. I pray for you, that this will be resolved soon.

Answer 9

If your grandpa, died, how do you want to see him? You mean visit his grave?
I mean.. if he were dying, you'd have to rush to see him, got it. But if he's already dead, maybe you should wait till school ends.
Either way, I think you should talk to your mom about it! I mean, she's probably just wanting to protect you, but you have the right to know the truth!

Answer 10

My great grand mother passed away earlier this year, unlike your story, she lived near, and I skipped school very easily, but im not quite sure if that works with your grand father being so far away, but they easiest thing i can think of is to talk to your mother, telling her you over heard the conversation and you would like to skip class to see your dead grandfather