We are getting married in Las Vegas with our immediate families. My mother says we have to have a reception when we get home but I don't really want to have one (that's kinda why were going to Vegas in the first place). Do you think we should have one to please the family and friends??
2007-07-25 16:22:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am in the same situation that you are. We are having a runaway wedding/cruise (just the two of us) and I did not want there to be anything traditional.
I didn't want a reception or anything, but after we started telling everyone that we were going away to get married, we got a lot of "well, you are still going to have a party when you get back, aren't you??"...
I went back and forth on whether or not to have a party, and I'm now about 80% sure that I am going to have one. Here are my reasons...some of them are even kind of silly:
1. Since our parents are paying for us to go away and get married, and both sets wanted a party...I took that into consideration
2. I want all of our family, and especially friends, to know that it actually happened...I thought about just sending out pictures and announcements after the fact, and after thinking long and hard, I decided that I wanted it to be on more than just paper and ink.
3. I LOVE the potential invitations
4. We can use the Caribbean theme, and make it simple with cocktails and hor'dourves
You will just have to sit down and think about what you want and if you feel that you are missing out on anything. I didn't even want a veil...and yesterday I was at the dress shop, trying my dress on again and I ended up buying one...hehe. I hope this helps...and congrats!! :)
2007-07-26 04:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by WorldTraveler 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if family or friends want one then yes, you should have one. But not an expensive one. Instead of wasting $20000 or $30000 on a single day, have an inexpensive reception and put the money towards a house.
Inexpensive receptions can be just as much fun as expensive receptions, and you won't be paying the event for years.
Have it at a friend or family home, or rent an inexpensive hall. Get your friends to make the video, and play the music. Take it easy on the flowers, etc. and you can have a great reception for $2000. Basically the music, food, and people you invite is what makes the reception a success, not the limos, flowers, expensive cards and other frills.
2007-07-25 16:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by Tom S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. you are going to vegas to get hitched quickly right? also to save money on that big wedding expense! no u don't have to have a reception when u get home! just maybe have a potluck dinner to celebrate the occasion:)
2007-07-25 16:37:30 · answer #3 · answered by becky2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mel
You are not going to like this answer.
Weddings are not about the bride and groom. It is all about the relatives getting together to celebrate the tribe. Have your Vegas shindig by all means then have the party at home for the rellos. Copious amounts of food and alcohol all done in formal attire and lots of candid photographs - it is a rite of passage.
Don't be such a minge.
2007-07-25 16:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
It is all up to you, but why not celebrate your marriage with great family and friends. Doesn't have to be a big reception. Just close family and close friends. They would love to celebrate with you.
2007-07-25 16:26:32 · answer #5 · answered by TJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether you have a reception is entirely up to you. If you really don't want one, stand your ground. This is the bride and groom's decision, not the parents.
2007-07-25 16:27:25 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it would be nice and give them a chance to share in your happiness but you don't have to do anything you don't want to do. If you really wouldn't feel comfortable don't do it because that will likely be apparent during the party.
2007-07-25 19:41:50 · answer #7 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't have one if you don't want it. This is after all your and your fiance's day and no one else's. You might however (to please them) consider having a welcome home married couple small intimate party instead. just a small get together announcing that you are now husband and wife. this should keep them happy and could be done within a month of your return.
2007-07-25 17:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by Southern Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u don't wantone, then don't....it's not up to your mom, it's up to u. If u can't avoid it, make it an informal thing. Jeans and in the backyard, with hotdogs. Whatever ur comfortable with
2007-07-25 16:26:24 · answer #9 · answered by mrsprincess07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to have one then don't organize one.
However, if MOM wants to organize (i.e. PAY) for one then she would be more than welcome to.
At least, if I were in your shoes I'd do that.
2007-07-26 02:43:35 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋