I had a bridal shower and all my wedding girls were there except for one. her excuse was she was sick and she never called, not even the day after. Should I be mad at her? Should I expect the same behavior come wedding time? Should I worry that she wont show up?
2007-07-25 16:05:12 · 18 answers · asked by Tabby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
For everyone that says I should have called her the day after to see if she was ok..I did call her and she was fine she actually said she had to get off the phone and go to the store and she would call me back...she never did. so whats up with that?
2007-07-25 16:26:07 · update #1
Oh, calm down. Life is too short to get mad at your bridesmaids for having lives beyond your wedding. The girl was sick! She doesn't to be there to watch you open a mountain of presents if she is ILL.
I can assure you, if you get mad at her over this, she has every right NOT to attend your wedding, either.
2007-07-25 16:49:48 · answer #1 · answered by elsie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's wrong. Bridal showers are boring!! She's not required to go and she said she was sick. She's your bridesmaid, all she needs to do is show up for the wedding and the rehearsal and wear whatever you're making her wear and look pretty.
Should you worry she won't show up to the wedding? Well, did she buy the dress? If so, she probably will. If she doesn't show up, oh well. It's not really a big deal. It just means you'll be short one brides maid, but you'll still be getting married and that's what matters most!
2007-07-25 16:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by qwertatious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she has something going on, she may really not have been feeling well. Maybe the day after she had to make up some stuff she didn't do the day she was sick, tell her you need her to be there during your rehearsal dinner because you have an assignmentfor her to do, so that she has to show up the day of the rehersal or tell you now she's not up to it. Remember that sometimes these events come at times when hardships occure and money may be tight, Between the dress, shoes, make up , hair, accesories, bridal shower gift, after party split, wedding gift, etc it gets a little expesive and maybe she is too shy to tell you.
Just assign her the task and use that as a way to "force" her to tell you. Good luck!
2007-07-25 16:21:39 · answer #3 · answered by rxing 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I doubt she'd do that to you. She probably is just immature and doesn't realize the significance of the bridal shower. It was rude of her not to show up and just inconsiderate that she didn't call to apologize or anything. At the same time, she may be thinking you were rude for not calling the day after to say "hey - heard you were sick- are you ok?" Don't automatically assume she was lying about being sick. She may have legitimately been sick. I would be a little hurt and mad but I would try to not let it ruin your wedding. What's the worse that would happen? she might not show up.....so what? You'll have 1 more guy - so one girl can get the priviledge of walking down the aisle with 2 guys on either arm. Don't stress - be happy and don't let her thoughtlessness get you down.
2007-07-25 16:18:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, you had a bridal shower. You are really lucky! My bridesmaids live far away, and are extremely busy. I was mad at first too they rarely called me, but I realized that my wedding is not the most important thing.
So, you are lucky to have your shower and the ones that showed up. This girl maybe wasn't up to partying this day. Maybe something is happening bad in her personal life.
Instead of getting mad at her, I would ask her if she is ok.
2007-07-25 16:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by sweetundina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem happen at my wedding. She never showed up to my bridal shower, two hours before my bachlorette party finally said she could come, and i have yet to get a wedding present or card. I knew she had plenty of time before hand as not to miss anything but things do come up. I am not mad at her anymore. i was a little mad but i think it is to be expected. You asked this person to be in your wedding so they could stand by your side. But when it came right down to it she was there for me on the two really big days which made up for everything. I would give it a little time and by then the stress of everything will be normal and you will be back to your normal self(not the overthinking bride well at least i was), and realize that things do happen. Just remember you or your future husband chose her for a reason.
2007-07-25 16:16:11 · answer #6 · answered by sweetly_gives_kisses 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
mad is a strong word, more like upset would be better. i don't think i would be mad at her. maybe she truly was sick!! if so this could not be helped by her at all. it was however rude of her not to call and let you know what was going on and such. Now it is water under the bridge though.
has she done this kind of thing to you before? has she helped with the wedding details or things you may have given her to do? if she has then i would not be worried about her attendance at the wedding. if however she hasn't helped with things you may have asked her to do, then I would talk with her about it. stress to her the importance and how important to you that she is there and if she doesn't feel as if for some reason she can be, then it woudl be better to tell you this now.
hope it all works out for you.
2007-07-25 17:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by Southern Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was really sick then I think you may be over reacting. But if you think she was faking or just blew it off, then I would also be mad.
I remember once I had to miss a family function because I had the flu and I was so sick but I really felt horrible about not going.
Have you talked to her, if she was really sick she probably feels awful about having to miss it. If she doesn't seem to feel bad, then maybe she is just not happy at all with her own life.
Just hang in there, I am sure she will show up for the wedding and everything will go fine!
2007-07-25 16:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by Reba 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is wrong to be mad. She was sick!
My only requirement for my bridesmaids are to show up at my wedding, make sure I drink water and eat, and keep me sane. They don't HAVE to attend the bridal shower though I'd love to see them there.
2007-07-26 02:41:15 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is odd. If this is typical behavior for her then be worried; if this was a one time occurrance then don't worry. Just tell her you were hurt that she didn't call or let you know in anyway. On the other hand, this could be a passive-aggressive way of telling you she doesn't want to be a bridesmaid.
2007-07-25 16:11:24 · answer #10 · answered by longhornfan1722 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋