What if I cry???

Question

I am a very emotional person. I'm very close to my mother...I'm still living at home with my parents, I'm not moving in with my husband until we're married! So my question is...I know I'm going to be an emotional wreck on my wedding day, because I'll be very happy but also sad to leave my parents (I'm the youngest girl of 5 kids if this helps). For those of you who are married, are there any tricks to hold back the tears? I don't want to be crying allll day and right now thats how I think it might be!

Answer 1

I bite my tongue (hard, but not too hard to make you cry, lol) and think of something else.
Being dehydrated makes it harder to cry.
Maybe try to make yourself cry about all this before the day.

If you do cry:
Have a hankie ready (get a cute one to match you theme)
Wear waterproof mascara.
Have a touch up kit on hand.

Answer 2

yes. the more you think of yourself as an emotional wreck the more surely you will fall apart. the trick ! is to start now to condition yourself , literally hypnotize yourself to be poised, calm and happy. see how the word teary is not there? i got teary at my receiving line and the pictures from that part of the day look just dumb. i guess i thought everyone expected me to tear up., well, the truth is, i did not know this then but know it now, and this will help you a lot, NO ONE expects you to tear up! isnt that great! they just expect you to beam calmly and happily. so, yes indeedy, there are tricks to hold back tears, one is, if you feel yourself getting a little upset, just breathe from your stomach, slowly, calmly. here is another, if you are speaking or everyone is looking at you and you feel the tickle of tears, just look just OVER THEIR HEADS.. NOT AT THEIR EYES. and that will calm you right away, and no one will know you are doing this. also, you can have a word you say, such as 'calm calm calm' that will remind you to breathe and just be happy and poised and calm. really. with your big family you being calm will give you lovely pictures and a wonderful day. you can actually role play and practice being calm and happy and poised. people in the public eye do it all the time.

Answer 3

It is normal to cry on your wedding day. But as far as all day goes - I think you will be all wrapped up in the practical side of it (getting it done and making sure things go right) for the most part except maybe the actual ceremony. Just remember... your family will always be there. What house you live in is just geography. The real closeness is in your hearts - and you can't lose that no matter how far you go.

Answer 4

I'm getting married soon too and i have exactly the same fear as I am also a big sook. I guess if you think and worry too much about getting emotional then you will cry. Keep busy that day (which I'm sure you will be anyway) and worn all of your bridesmaids that you may get emotional and assign them with the job to keep the day very light and fun.

Answer 5

well. I thought I would bawl my eyes out at my wedding and to be honest...I never shed a tear. I was beyond happy, but I didnt cry at all, even when my mom was bawling her eyes out....shes the one who cried all day long and I wasnt even living at home anymore. its sad to leave home, but at the same time, its not like your never going to see them again. I'm actually 100% closer to my parents now that I dont live there and I enjoy just going to visit with them, but being able to do my own thing when I'm at my home. just think of all the visits your going to have with them and inviting them over for a meal your going to cook and everyhting. you'll be fine because you have so much to look forward too. just have your MOH keep some tissues on her so your makeup doesnt run all lover the place.

Answer 6

I was leaving family and friends and moving to Germany after I married, so I can empathize with the emotions you are going through.

I cry a lot when I´m happy, and sometimes, my husband teases me. He joked with me, told me I would cry at our wedding. You know what happened...when he saw me walking up the aisle, he cried. I focused my eyes on him-not on our guests, and didn´t cry during the ceremony-I was too happy to cry! When the ceremony ended, and we were in the ministers room, I started to cry, but didn´t want to ruin my makeup-so just think of this.

Whatever happens, don´t you think that it´s worth it to let all of your emotions show? I didn´t cry, but it´s not because he would tease me, but because I just couldn´t stop smiling-I don´t think I stopped smiling the whole night. I just let him do all the crying, and a lot of the women guests cryed as well

Answer 7

it is ok to cry. it will be a very emotional day for everyone. yourself and your parents. I thought I would cry that day too and I only shed one small tear of joy actually. My fiance helped me though. He knows how emotional I am so during the ceremony itself each time it looked as if i might cry he would make little faces at me and make me smile instead. you should see the video of it. his face is all distorted at times because he might be rolling his eyes, or sticking out his tongue or whatever it took to keep me from crying. To me this made the day that much more special for him doing this.

Answer 8

I wasn't so worried that I would cry but I was worried that my crying would turn into sobbing, and I would look like a mess.

The day of the wedding, I chose to wear waterproof eyeliner and mascara to make sure my make up wouldn't run down my face.

As my dad and I waited to walk down the aisle, I tried to say stupid funny things. As we walked down the aisle, I didn't look at his face. At the end of the aisle, when he gave me a kiss on the cheek, I only glanced at him briefly. This may sound bad, but he is a cryer, and seeing my dad cry would have been a disaster for me.

During the ceremony, when I started to feel like I was going to cry. I forced myself to smile. I did shed a few tears during the ceremony during our vows. Again, I wasn't scared about a few tears, I was scared about being a big, blubbering mess. After the ceremony, the only time I felt teary was during my matron of honor's toast.

So my advice is wear waterproof eye make-up, force yourself to smile when you feel tears coming, try not to look at the faces of anyone you know who might be crying, and don't worry about a few tears because they are sincere! This day will be full of emotion and you don't want to force the tears out, but like I said you don't want to turn into a blubbering mess :)

Best wishes!

Answer 9

You'll be too busy to cry, but if you lose it during the ceremony, make sure your maid of honor has some tissues ready. You can always redo your makeup afterwards, so don't stress about it. Just be you! Weddings are emotional, it's OK to show it, but try and smile too!! You may suprise yourself and be fine!

Answer 10

So what? It's true emotion showing through. I just didn't wear mascara because I knew I'd be crying happy tears!