ok so ive known this girl for about 2 yrs and are really good friends. in the past month we finally found out that we both had feelings for each other. she told me first and i told her i shared them. the problem is shes engaged to this total jerk and he treats her bad and her family and friends wants her to leave him.
shes not happy and had left him. but after talking to him they had scheduled counseling a few months back and she feels she should do it for closure. she wants to leave but doesnt know how b/c shes been with him awhile now. shes told me and her family that shed rather be with me b/c i make her happy. im just so nervous waiting on her to be done with counseling with him. im afriad she might make the mistake of staying with him.
is there something i should say or do that i havent already? how do i get her to wake up and just leave him altogether? what should i tell her on how to break up with him since shes having trouble with it?
2007-07-25 15:22:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her the truth. If she's really having trouble with it, there's hope
2007-08-02 15:25:52 · answer #1 · answered by Someone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her issues with this guy are HER business--not yours. It is her choice and her decision--you better not say a thing or even get involved--you say she says the things she says--so you already have had some discussions--if she feels like she has to stay with this other guy--well that's it--move on--get away and do not risk getting involved with a woman that is with another man.... that's the way the ball bounces. She better make the right choice for the right reasons--what if this guy is OK and has no idea she sneaks around on him--maybe she will sneak around on you also. I think you can do better--this girl sounds like trouble all the way around. Why ruin your life??
2007-07-25 15:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that thousands of people make this mistake every day, and only a hundred of them get out of it.
She loves you and you love her, she has someone to turn to after the storm, so many people want that..
Tell her to tell her boyfriend that she tried the couciling, but it isn't helping her personally. Let them stay friends. Let her read all of these responses. Often people outside of the problem can really help make a difference.
She only has one life, and this is it. Remind her that she's gonna wanna be happy for it.
2007-07-25 15:29:12 · answer #3 · answered by reflectivecandle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is actually thinking about getting married. You have known her for 2 years and you both have feeling for each other. Obviously she is ready to be married. I hope you feel the same. You seem as though you think she is the one.
Propose to her. You don't need anymore time. Buy a ring, even if it is 25 dollars. Do something romantic. Tell her you love her and your only intention is to love and treat her as a blessing in your life until the day you die. You are about to lose her and it is time to fight for her. Isn't she worth it?
2007-07-27 17:46:09 · answer #4 · answered by Peggy Pirate 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You love her and she loves you too, but realize that if she chooses the other person how you are going to feel. It is almost like you have your life is"on hold" waiting for her to figure out what she wants. I mean if you are ok with that and you are confident she will come around then fine. But she needs to realize your feelings too. Some people like complication in there life. But you have to think do you want this much complication. I hope it works out for the best and it will. Good luck
2007-08-02 15:31:13 · answer #5 · answered by Cath 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go to counseling, and let her make her own decision. There are some things you cannot help her with. But, if after all this, she chooses you, then you will be confident that she will never be looking over her shoulders asking 'what if'.
And if she doesn't, her loss.
2007-08-02 12:41:08 · answer #6 · answered by Eric C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes it takes time for someone to wake up.I don't understand why she is still with him if she wants to be with you.she should not drag out the bad relationship any longer.it is good that she is sticking to her word on counciling with him that shows character. but why stay when she not happy.Just wait she will come around even if it seems like forever if its true love then you will be willing to wait as long as needed.Good luck
2007-07-25 15:35:21 · answer #7 · answered by foxy lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, just be there. Wether it is right or wrong, she has to make her own decision. Apply no pressure, just caring and understanding. Be her friend first. Let her make up her own mind.
2007-07-25 15:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to bring the bad news, but shes playing you . if she really wanna to be with you, she would of be there in a heart beat. come on now its not rocket sciences
2007-08-02 13:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by Mr ABC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i didn't even read what you put for a description cuz i can tell you the problem right now:
she's lying to ONE of you... just gotta figure out which one
2007-07-25 15:30:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋