I have a neighbor that constantly tells me what to do as if I am a child. Recently I found out the cherry Pepsi bottle that she has with her all of the time is not that at all. It's wine.By the end of the day-when she's pretty hammered, she will say the most stupid things..she once told a little neighbor girl that she may have a brain tumor ...because she had a headache.
Personally she has walked into my house uninvited,coments about my breasts, and has told me that I have no class because I wore a halter dress when I wAS GOING OUT WITH MY FIANCE'. (I wore that dress at my sisters wedding-my sister picked it out)How can I tell this woman in a kind way...to mind her own business?
2007-07-25 14:43:43 · 16 answers · asked by tina smith 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You are not dealing with a rational person if she is drinking. Just tell her to not bother you and leave it at that. She will probably become nasty, but so what, she has problems and feels lonely or whatever. Ignore her.
You are not responsible for her or her happiness, live your life. She is not your mother, sister, or close friend, etc.
2007-07-25 14:53:01 · answer #1 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well... I'm a man... and if some woman was treating my wife and neighbors that way she would be horrified by the words that flew from my mouth and would probably bring you cookies and do your yard work afterwards...
But I suppose we're all adults here so you need to invite her over to speak with you and confront her in a very calm and mature manner. Bring up her drinking, bring up her comments exactly the way you have here. Tell her you don't appreciate the unwarranted entrances into your home, and that you expect it never to happen again. Ask her to show a little more candor among her neighbors. Be very direct, while still being calm.
Hope this helps.
Craig
2007-07-25 21:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by Craig A 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would ignore this person because you can't reason with a drunk person.
But - regardless of what you say to this person, if she is entering your house uninvited, you need to lock the door or secure the house, backyard, etc. so that she can't get on your property. If she's drunk out of her mind, there is no telling what she could do while she's in your house/on your property.
2007-07-26 11:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by Julie R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can take her wine. Then see what happens. If that doesn't work just try to comprimise with her. Like invite her over your house. Then like butter her up. At the end you can tell her what's bothering you. So like, "You have beautiful hair and beautiful eyes. Oh your breasts are big..." Like that then say but "I don't think you want to look ugly by messing with me. So maybe we can be "Victoria Secret" and don't talk about each other. But instead lets stay silent but beautiful" So try it and see if it works. If it doesn't email me back and say I'm a jerk. But it should work.
2007-07-25 21:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by Lil Samz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If telling her kindly won't work then giving it to her the hard way will have to do. We used to have a neighbor sort of like that. We finally called the land lords and they were evicted. After that they drove by and threw a rock through our car window. At least they were gone.
2007-07-25 21:48:32 · answer #5 · answered by Olive 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life can be so colorfull sometimes, sounds like she is not all that uptight , you're lucky you don,t live nextdoor to a uptight passive agressive, their quiet but they hate everybody no one is up to their level in their eyes .. I always say Thank god for the flaws in a person , your neighbor sounds flawed ,you luckey dog !
2007-07-25 21:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by darkcloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple..!!
Just dont talk to her no matter what she say..even if she scold u... let her be what she wants... don't even smile at her..
treat it that she doesn't exsist at all...!!
u need two way traffic for a conversation to continue..
i usually don't talk to my not so good neighbour because i found out if u simle at them u are giving then chance to talk to u... and when they ask question... they can ask everything including your private life...even in their first time conversations...
and i notice if i stop smiling and answering their question..i don't even want to look at them...they stop boreder me anymore and leave me alone..
and remember also to keep your door close for unwanted guest..
2007-07-25 23:01:14 · answer #7 · answered by nightowls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she needs to control things in her life. Maybe she has no control over hers. When she approaches you turn around and leave. Keep your doors locked, get a dog, report her and if that does not work write a letter to her or say it to her face. LEAVE ME ALONE YOU WINO.
2007-07-25 21:55:05 · answer #8 · answered by silvrhawk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has a drinking problem and she will probably not change her behavior while the drinking continues. do not engage her in any conversation if she is drinking, and if she tries again to walk into your home, tell her that in no uncertain terms is she to do this again, or you will call the authorities.
ignore her drunken banter, she is not right in the head.
2007-07-25 21:53:49 · answer #9 · answered by dali333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be rude to her. That should put her off. Say "lady, mind your own business and stop coming over to my place uninvited. BTW I know you are a drunk"
2007-07-26 02:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋