Awhile ago my sister and I became friends with this really great guy, at the time I had a boyfriend, but I still felt a connection to him and we remained friends. But he hooked up with my sister. They were never serious, but had sex occasionally over a few months. Now a year later my sister is married with a new baby, and my boyfriend and I are over. The friend and I hooked up last weekend and he told me how he really liked me all along and he was only with my sister because he couldn't have me. Should I not go any further with this guy? I really like him and he says he really likes me, but at the same time I'm kinda grossed out and worried how my sister would feel. She's dated a guy I messed around with before, but I'm worried that she liked this guy more than I knew. I don't want to hurt anyone, but I don't want to pass up on a guy that could potentially be the one. Help!!
2007-07-25 14:11:05 · 6 answers · asked by deeply confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's married now, I think its pretty safe to say that she moved on. Anyway, I still think its gross, but whatevah. Good luck!
2007-07-25 14:14:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your situation, believe it or not is not that unique. Having said that, my advice is not to date this regardless of the depth of your feelings for him.Assuming that what he now says about liking you over a year ago but dating and becoming sexually involved with your sister is true, what does that demonstrate about the kind of person he was( and maybe still is).Was he just using your sister for sex then? why didn't he say anything about liking you then and letting you decide what you were going to do about your boyfriend.If he was worried about your sister's feelings back then, how does he think your sister is going to feel today with him now having sex with you( or do you guys plan on being celibate).If your motive is revenge for your sister dating a guy you once messed with then admit it and be done with it.But if you truly don't want to hurt anybody, least of all your sister, then please pass on this guy.He had his opportunity from the start to decide who he wanted to be with and he did. The fact that it did not work out does not mean he gets to start afresh with the second sister. Keep the peace in your family, your sisterly and familial love, and your own self respect and dignity. I hope you make the right decision.
2007-07-25 21:37:58 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is safe to go for it, she is married and onto her new life. She will be happy you are getting with him so that you have someone! I would stay away from anything about your sister with him just so he doesn't get freaked out and you don't get freaked out either. Good Luck!
2007-07-25 21:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with abbeycoolit. A person like that can only be selfish. How can a selfish person take good care of you and be the one??? Big NO NO.
2007-07-25 22:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, she is married and has a family now, so i dont see why that wouldnt be a problem...shes clearly over this guy and hes not just hers, hes yours too =]
2007-07-25 21:21:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dont open up old wounds
2007-07-25 21:16:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋