weird problem( only females answer please)?

Question

my girlfriend has asked me to do some weird things. like she told me instead of forgiving her for doing something wrong, for me to yell at her or if it's bad enough hit her instead. also she told me to ask for what i wanted no mater what. for example she told me to "ask her to flash me in public" I love my girlfriend very much, and i want to make her happy, I just don't want to hurt or humiliate her

I will NEVER hit her

she told me she wants me to " let my inpulses and desires take over more often"

Answer 1

It sounds like to me growing up, this is what she was exposed to. Have you met her parents? I personally think that your girlfriend wants to make you feel high and mighty and "better" than her to make you feel better about yourself. You need to tell her that you respect her and you are very happy with your relationship. If you want to talk more email me! =]

Answer 2

Well these are obviously things that she likes. She wants more drama and more thrill. The problem is that you are not that type of guy. If you want to stay with her then tell her you can give in to certain things but that there are other things you won't do. Try getting kinky when no one is around and see how she likes that. Or you can make up hand signals or something that let her know to do something you like. try these:
Next time you are watching tv together tell her to put on some lipstick and give you a BJ

When you are in public tell her to go to the bathroom and take off her panties.

Tell her everytime you give her a thumbs up you want her to walk arcoss the room and bend over at the waist

I mean the list could go on and on. I think that the point is that she wants to feel more alive and while it kinda sucks that she is using you for it, there are a lot of bright sides to it too. And if there are certain things that are beyond you then don't do it and tell her you're not her puppet. (which is kinda like giving in too so its win win) But yeah give your woman what she needs without losing yourself.

Answer 3

My guess is she has a fetish or obsession with some kind of guilt or need for attention or punishment. This sounds like the S&M dominance submissive type of scenario that works for some people but may not be right for you. I would suggest you and/or your girlfriend together or separately talk to a counselor who can explain this dynamic to you. It doesn't have to be considered sick, but I think it has the same root as people recovering from forms of abuse or addiction.

So if it were me or my friend, I would urge counseling to make sure there is not some hidden issue that needs to be addressed. Only for people who are aware of their issues and have worked through them and are at peace, and who still choose to play these games to get thrills would I not be worried. For someone in denial or not aware, I would not recommend manipulating that with shocking or spanking behavior, but make sure everything is dealt with openly.

Does that make sense? If people are open about it and not defensive or addicted it's one thing; but if they have a control issue and make you feel uncomfortable or try to hide it or deny it, I would say that spells trouble. That more is going on.

Answer 4

It seems as if she's letting you in on some strange fetishes she has, probably because you've been together long enough for her to trust you to understand them and maybe oblige her wishes. However, that doesn't mean that you have to do what she asks you to if it makes you uncomfortable or scares you. She seems like she's into the whole "Treat me like your slave" kind of thing, and a lot of girls like the feeling that their boyfriend has power and control over them. Try to be understanding and go as far as you're comfortable, and talk to her about your limits and why she wants you to do certain things. If she truly cares about you and trusts you she should be able to answer you honestly and it should help build up your relationship and make your bond even stronger.

Answer 5

Your girlfriend sounds like she has some issues and she likes to be controlled rather roughly. You need to sit down and talk openly and honestly about this and find a way to make her happy while not making yourself feel bad about doing it. You just be patient with her and try to give her the support she needs. Good Luck. Live Life to the Fullest and Enjoy Every Minute Of It.....

Answer 6

It sounds like she either has some emotional or mental issues (not meant in a mean way, I'm bipolar myself).

I think she should seek help from a psychiatrist and/or a counselor (you might try to nudge her gently in that direction).

She might have had abusive parents and therefore the only way she recognizes love is through violence and put-downs and humiliation.

Good luck, Dear.

Answer 7

Sounds like to me she wants to set you up for a fight later on. If you hit her, she can use that against you any time..Don't do it...to premeditated. Also, the flashing stuff, she really wants to make you look bad. Does she know you would be embarassed if she did that? If so, then she's using you.
Don't give in, stand your ground...she is wanting to humiliate you.

Answer 8

She wants an abusive relationship from you. Sounds like she might have been abused in the past and wants to get that kind of attention back, because she associates it with love.

NEVER, EVER, HIT HER!!!

The other stuff... it's ok, some people like that sort of stuff. Just don't abuse her physically or go to far verbally and you'll be ok.

Answer 9

What's she's doing is not normal at all. Sit her down and tell her how much you love her and that you don't understand her sudden change in behavior. If she refuses to talk to you maybe you should get professional help because what she's asking of you could get her bruised and you sent to jail.

Answer 10

She has issues and the best thing for her would be to set up an appointment with a shrink! I'm not being stupid or mean or anything, but she seriously has problems and needs help!