it's happened before..about a year ago, but i had a long talk with my dad and somehow they worked it out. they had another one again, and my dad claims that the house belongs to him (because my mom owns houses in another country) and idk he said don't come back to the house, but when she didn't, he came to get her. i mean, they have had big fights quite a lot, but this is the worst one yet. i feel soo bad. suicidal even. i just don't know what to do..please help. i can't deal with a divorce.
2007-07-25 13:05:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like you can talk to your Dad - I would do that right away.
I have been married for 30 years and my husband and I fight too. I think most people do.
Please realize that this is between your parents and it is not your fault. Let them know how much this is hurting you - and I guess if the situation is really out of control, I would call my best adult friend and ask them to come over.
I hope that after talking to your Dad that he will see how much they are hurting you and begin to take care of you.
Please take care - there are alot of friends out here. Don't forget that.
Lots of good thoughts from Texas -
2007-07-25 13:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by Nan74 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the divorce big deal. It happens. It sucks. But that's between them. You are not in their relationship. Wouldn't you prefer the two be happy rather than always fighting? If it means getting a divorce to do so then let them. How old are you? Are you still dependent on them? If so I'm sure they will arrange something that will be best for you and they will always be apart of your life. You will make sure of it I can tell. Anyway it's time to face the facts that some marriages don't work out. You parents maybe one of them.
2007-07-25 20:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by Shon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there kid! That is how marraiges seem to be these days. Your parents need to work some things out. Offer support. Try not to judge or choose sides, just try to be helpful however you can. Even people who are right might need help improving. Sometimes it is not a matter of who is right or wrong, but how they work together to resolve their differences. Compromise is important.
They can consider marraige councilling. It might help them to understand their relationship better.
Sometimes it is better for people to get devorced or seperated, so they don't keep hurting each other or fighting or arguing all the time.
Hopefully your parents will be able to work out their issues and compromise. MAybe sometime appart might remove them from the situation enough to see a way to work things out.
One big argument or fight in a year is not very often.
Get them to spend time doing more things together as a family. That includes you as well.
Speak to them. Let them know how you feel. But remember, you are important, but you are only one of the many things that they must consider.
Good luck!
p.s. Keep training hard. It will help get your mind off of things.
I think you can do it.
p.p.s. I still think you should do kick boxing!
2007-07-25 20:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by Coolman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to both of your parents asap dont try to commit suicide cause its not gonna be worth it u r gona miss out on life and well i was suicidal; i used to cut my wrist and take a lot of medications that i shoudnt have......the point is that u really need to talk to both of them and tell them how u feel or go live w/ a family member or friend for a while or till u feel fine and if u'r parents do get divorced i think u would have to get therapy so u can deal w/ it. just think about it u will still have both parents but some people arent that lucky like me for example my father past away 16 days and im holding up ok and by the way im 14 and u still have both so just think before u do something stupid
2007-07-25 20:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay so heres the deal. your parents have some huge issues. you need a creative way to tell them to get help without butting into their lives too much. after all, you are just their daughter. maybe leave them a note on their bed that says that you do not want things to get worse and you want them to seek help in a marriage counselor. DO NOT GO UP TO THEM AND SAY THIS! if you do that it just seems bratty like you are mad at them for fighting and want them to shut up. if they care about you they will go get the help they need (mention that in the letter). this way they have no choice but to go get help. and then the counselor will help them decide whats best. if divorce is the best option you need to understand that as long as you have two parents that care about you alot, its no big deal. my parents were never married, so i always had to go from one house to the other. and it really was not that bad. unfortunately for me, my dad was a drunk and a loser so that had to be ended. but honestly, its a lot better than listening to them fight constently.
2007-07-27 17:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie... I am sorry your parents choose to continue such behavior. You did not say your age or if you live at home. It sounds to me there may be things between them that you do not know. My suggestion. Sit the 2 of them down. In a calm way say your many fights are very upsetting to me. Adults should not continue to do this. I want both of you to go to a marriage counselor and work things out. This is not healthy for you 2 nor me. I love you both
2007-07-25 20:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happend to me wen i was young..cry if u have too..but hang on there...my parents got a divorce about a year ago and now im doing much better. no more fights. talk to ur siblings or auntie/uncle. that helped me. always look at the bright side and u will be ok =) trust me^_^
2007-07-25 20:12:01 · answer #7 · answered by Oppa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please focus that you arent the source of their problems. They just have martial issues to work out and you cant continue to be suicidle. I would feel devistated that my child committed suicide regardless if i was in a martial dispute or not. If you want, why dont you suggest a counsiler for their problems and tell them how much the fights affect you.
2007-07-25 20:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by Prettiest Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has fights... You will make it through this! You really shouldl sit your parents down and talk to them.. if that is too hard, how about writing them a note? I do that sometimes, and I am fifteen...
I'll be prayin for yah, and your family. Hope you are doing all right. E-mail me if you need to talk!
Meg
2007-07-25 20:10:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should not be fighting in front of you or anyone else, them to go get help and talk to someone about this problem they are having!!! I sorry you have to hear their yelling I know what it can do to the kids.
2007-07-25 20:10:37 · answer #10 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋