i would like to spend at least 3 or 4 days a week with someone i'm in a relationship with, but my boyfriend can easily go 5 or 6 days without spending time together. he doesn't seem to understand how important it is to spend quality time together - especially this early on in a relationship. when we do get together, i feel like his knack for romantic, fun ideas has gone downhill.
also, he makes certain comments and fails to make others when i believe he should know better. it got to an embarrassing point recently when we went to a wedding together - he hadn't complimented me on my appearance (i'm extremely confident, and know i'm attractive) at all that day, and it only got worse when a guy i had dated my final semester in college came up and told me i looked absolutely stunning. matters only get more annoying when he mentions a new female co-worker that has all the male employees drooling over her "good looks". i'm not jealous - but seriously? thoughts on how i should deal?
2007-07-25 13:04:09 · 9 answers · asked by Izzie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have to ask the answer is NO. Talk to him and tell him not only how you feel but what you need in a relationship. If you don't see a difference, go to the herd and pick out another one. Remember, a relationship is composed of trust and communication. Without it, there is no relationship. P.S. No real man ever throws another woman into his relationship, that's lame and the fastest way to turn her off, don't play into that! Good Luck.
2007-07-25 13:15:22 · answer #1 · answered by dhwilson58 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from a guys point of view you should dump him. All he is doing right now is stringing you along until he can find somthing else. Plus I'm sure you deserve better, regardless of your self confidense if you get dolled up he should tell you how nice you look if he doesn't he's a jerk. Now if you do dump him he will come back to you and be nice and thoughtful and ask for you back, especially if you do it out the blue. Now it will be up to you to sniff though all the bullshit he is throwing at you and find out whats true or not. As far as the female co-worker you should have anything to worry about, think of it this way if he hadn't have mentioned anything about her than start worring cause she the one he's trying to replace you with. Good Luck
2007-07-25 13:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by Big J Cracka Style 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have to be -trained-! Seriously! We men have no manners at all. Without women we live like bears with furniture.
You have to tell your guy what you expect of him. If he really likes you he'll try to improve. If you're in a steady, exclusive relationship you have the right to see him 3-4 times a week. It's his job to come up with some romantic ideas.
You might have to explain to him that girls need feedback on how they look, need to be told 'I love you' every so often, etc., because guys aren't like this
Tell him about the problems and see if he's interested in helping to solve them. Teach him some manners! That's what GFs are for! They are a civilizing influence!
2007-07-25 13:12:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bf lacks the ability to give compliments like yours does.
last night we went to a softball game and tons of ppl remarked how cute i was looking and noticed i had make up on. i usually go w/out it.
did he say anything? nope.
i've come to realize some guys are just verbally stupid and not able to give complements when needed unless prodded in to it
we live together so the quality time thing only applies to our not so frequent dates lol
we do lots of stuff together but i still try to get him to take us on dates and do things out of the house together.
yeah he has no romantic side either.
kinda sounds like we could do better now doesn't it lol
2007-07-25 13:10:04 · answer #4 · answered by nataliexoxo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends how long you guys been together and how serious, but if he really likes u, he will put more then enough effort to make you happy. Cu's he cares for you. talk to him i suggest and let him know how u feel.
2016-04-01 02:32:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut your time with him. Find some other friends to be with as you may be drowning him. Spend some time with others. You may find that He may wish to spend more time with you this way.
2007-07-25 13:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a incredibly high maintenance woman.
You need to find a guy thats willing to put up with your emotional needs, i dont think this guy is up to the task.
Time to move on.
2007-07-25 13:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like pretty normal guy behavior! lol! but seriously, he may not even realize it, just ask him sweetly and talk about it.
2007-07-25 13:09:37 · answer #8 · answered by c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you are asking the question, you already know the answer.
2007-07-25 13:10:19 · answer #9 · answered by freespirit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋