I have trouble in relationships. Not just bf/gf relationships. With anyone outside my immediate family. I mean at home, I'm an extrovert. but in the outside world it is just SO hard for me to talk. The most simple conversations are almost impossible. I guess, i just make people feel uncomfortable or something. And the worst part is, I hate being like this. I just want to be me, everywhere. What can I do?
2007-07-25 12:52:25 · 12 answers · asked by Dr. C∂ƒƒee £ips :} 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why r u afraid of being urself? peole cant like u if they dnt know u. give them a chance and theyll give u a chance. ur obviously a good person if u dnt want to be alone. jus be urself....wats the worst that can happen to u. just take a risk, if u r already alone, what ddo u have to lose. people can be very comforting and accepting. if u dont, ull probably spend the rest of ur life wondering wat happend to ur life and regretting all of the things u didnt do, the people u didnt meet, the friends u never had, and the things u never said.LIVE,LAUGH,LOVE!!!!good luck
2007-07-25 12:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by LOV 4 EVE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling you think other people feel that way. But it is just you. You need to find a group activity. A weekend hike, bowling, putt putt golf, take a class in anything where you have to interact with others. Volunteer somewhere, a food band, hospital. Everything I suggested you will be doing or learning something that will make it more interesting for you to talk. Now this is the easiest one. Where ever you go the market, the mall, gas station, engage them in conversation. It is not the topic just a way for you to talk and have them talk back. I know you can do it. Let me know how it goes. If you really do hate it, it's up to you to try over and over until you don't worry about it anymore....Now get out there!!!
2007-07-25 13:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds to me like you're just more comfortable being yourself around the people closest to you: family, friends etc etc..
It's not a matter of being one way or the other, humans in general need interaction. Stop worrying about what other people think and just be yourself! if they don't stick around, then their just missing out on someone fun and that's their loss..not yours!
I've always been an extrovert myself, but my best friend is a home body and didn't enjoy going out or being around alot of people. She was much more comfortable socializing with the family, rather than going with me to an open bonfire party. When we finally ended up living together, I started asking her to go with me to places. Eventually she became more comfortable with the idea, and now you can hardly keep her home! So, my suggestion is to just get out there and do it! Think of all the fun you'll have and all the amazing people you'll meet!
2007-07-25 13:07:25 · answer #3 · answered by Marissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing, get off the net.
why is it so hard for you to talk?
Theres no such thing as a at home extrovert.
Everyone is a extrovert at home.
Your just shy, just make a little effort every day to be more open and it will come in time. Smiling helps tons.
2007-07-25 12:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love being a loner.
I can be a chatter box when I need to be. People enjoy my company. But I have a difficult time with crowds. I love being by myself.
You know, a smile - a genuine smile - will get you by when you don't feel like talking. Or find the conversation not to your liking.
2007-07-25 12:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by Max Marie, OFS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First git new outfit
New Daylife(off the internet)
A nightlife at a club
And a man
2007-07-25 13:02:05 · answer #6 · answered by M!55.(0NFU53D & L05T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are trying too hard to present yourself the way you think others want you to be. Relax and let your heart of gold project outward......others will see those wonderful rays and enjoy what you bring into their lives.
2007-07-25 12:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a classic case of "need for approval". Check out the site below.
http://www.coping.org/relations/aprove.htm
2007-07-25 12:59:59 · answer #8 · answered by Yea Yea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your shy in public...I'm the same way..
she scared of how people may see you as
it's actually pretty normal...just try to be more
yourself in public places && to talk more
good luck =]
2007-07-25 12:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by manda102285 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont think about what others think about yourself. Think to yourself that you're interesting and funny and carry on conversations like you do at home.
2007-07-25 12:57:07 · answer #10 · answered by Panthera Onca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋