my boyfriend, well ex boyfriend and i broke up a week ago and i cried for the first two days. then i pulled myself together and said to myself that i wouldnt let some guy tear me to pieces like that.
but i saw him today since our breakup and when i got home i just broke down and couldnt stop crying. i still am too.
when we first made eye contact, he smiled at me and i tried to smile back but it just wouldn't come to my face.
he said he wants to be friends, but i don't know if i'm ready for that. he was the first person beside my grandfather that i had ever cared about.
i love him, i want to be friends but just looking at him makes my stomache flip flop in a bad way.
i just want to talk to him or something. we were together for so long, and i dont know how i'm going to get use to not being in his arms, or going without his kisses. or his wonderful hugs that make me feel like i'm on top of the world.
give me some ways to get over my first love. please.
2007-07-25 12:50:30 · 14 answers · asked by {♥} 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have to see him everyday for the next two days. the whole entire day, because of a school related thing. and after that we have a week until classes start. and i know for a fact he's in one of my classes and mabe more.
we also have some extracurricular events together that i cant no get out of..
2007-07-25 13:04:40 · update #1
next two weeks. not days.
2007-07-25 13:05:21 · update #2
I am going through the exact same thing with my ex girlfriend right now, she broke up with me out of nowhere and I was madly in love with her. The best thing you can do is stay away from him right now until you get over the initial feelings of just wanting to be in his arms. I still have that feeling towards my ex and thats why I dont want to see her right now. She also wants to be friends, she said I was one of her best friends. BUT friendship will never work if different feelings are involved. I am still not over my ex, and not until then will I decide whether or not we should be friends. She was also my first love. Hope this helps.
2007-07-25 12:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by Cizzers 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It took me quite a while to get over my first love... because I didn't realize that there were other people around me. You have so much to look forward to!! Eventually, maybe very very soon, you'll find someone who only wants you and wants to be with you.
These feelings don't last forever. First love is the hardest love. Do you have some girlfriends?? Go for a girls night out. Eat, flirt, dance... but don't let yourself stay in this slump!
The way I look at it is this:
If things don't work out with this person, that's just one less you have to worry about on your journey to happiness with someone. It's an experience, and you're learning from it.
Also, chocolate covered strawberries and a good movie always make me feel better. ;)
2007-07-25 12:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just went through this with my daughter. The only thing that will help you is time. Heartache is the worst!! Its ok to cry, you should be crying. And just when you think you are over him, you will hear a song that reminds you of him and cry again. Or you will drive by somewhere that you went with him and cry again. I promise with time the pain will go away. My daughter did not believe me at all. Now when she thinks of him she feels nothing. She doesn't hate him or anything and she doesn't regret it, she just no longer has feelings. It took a long long time but it will happen for you too. The loss of our first love is the hardest. Take care.
2007-07-25 12:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your first love is very hard to get over no matter what... but a little advice friends don't work no matter how many times you think it will..all those feelings you will have, will end up coming back and then it usually ends up bad with fights or agruements.. I was in the same situation once myself.. and to get over it will take time, but for now avoid him otherwise those feelings will come rushing back.. and after some time you will be able to see him without having your stomach flip flop.... THe best advice is be strong and have confidence that you can do it. it will be hard but you will get through it..
2007-07-25 12:59:43 · answer #4 · answered by Karebear 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That happened to me too. Over 30 years ago. I loved him and he broke up with me. I cried and cried...but then something just took over and said well if he thinks it doesn't bother me then maybe that would do it. It did. He couldn't stand the thought of me dating anyone else. And to be quite honest...when I did start dating again, I made sure it was someone close enough that he would find out. He couldn't stand it and came back...took a while but he did...maybe that could be the thing that brings him back to you. Do you know any of his buddies that are single?
2007-07-25 13:11:45 · answer #5 · answered by chatterella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this just proves that it was true love and since the relationship was so strong its gonna take a longer time to get over it. but thro all the hurt and the pain you are experiencing there will be a bright side to it trust me. when your in a tunnel god hides a flash light somewhere in their and if you look hard enough youll find the light.so i wish you good luck I'm going thro the same thing right now i feel your pain. and right now ur thinking friendship will never be enough. but if friendship is all you can have then take it in run you don't wanna loose him 4ever
2007-07-25 12:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by Grace W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, the pain is will be there. Being friends with an ex is not the best idea at this point. It will take time to heal. However, do not succumb to your emotions because that is what is leading you to cry. The fact is you do have feelings for him. It took time to develop them and it will take time to heal.
2007-07-25 13:08:59 · answer #7 · answered by spencer4571 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st love is hard it will take time. Just don't call him for no reason and don't try to bug him or guilt him into getting back with you. You are a prize and there will be many guys that come along. And trust me... he will be back. All guys come back. At least once!
2007-07-25 12:55:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the only thing that will help you. You are young and will probably have your heart broken a few more times before you get it right. We all go through it and it sucks. Sorry hun.
2007-07-25 12:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are only two ways to get over your first love. The first is your second love, and the next is time.... lots and lots of time.
2007-07-25 12:54:13 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋