how can I stop going from feeling great to extremely unhappy?

Question

I'm a mum of a 3yr boy and 18 month girl... my husband has accepted a new job position which means we have to move from Australia to the US. He will be leaving next month but I can't go until my visa paperwork is done which can take up to 6 months. One minute i'm excited about the move and then the next day I'm crying not knowing how i'm going to cope being by myself with the 2 kids and so I think well if i'm going to be alone for 6 months then maybe i'll just stay here and not move at all... I'm worried about money and not being able to cope... I feel sick and my body feels tired and worn out (i'm only 26) I'm constantly just wanting to eat and i'm wondering if it's got to do with my worrying. I'm snapping at my kids for no reason and I even told my 18 month daughter to go away yesterday... I feel horrible and wish I never had to get out of bed. How can I feel normal again?

Answer 1

you are facing a major life change, give yourself a break here. you have a right to feel overwhelmed and afraid and on edge. but, you need to remember that every life change that happens is an opportunity for incredible personal growth. you can and will feel "normal" again, as everything in life does, this too shall pass. just keep trying to remind yourself, that this scary transition in your life is also a chance to experience wonder, to experience greater confidence in your own abilities, and to give to your children the mind expanding learning that only travel can provide. grant yourself the time to vent your fears, as you have done here, cry a little, worry some, but keep reminding yourself that this could be a great chance for you and your personal growth. You have born two children, you are a strong woman, you can do this.

Answer 2

moving, period, is, like, the second most stressful thing you can do. moving to another country...let alone being without the help of your husband that has been available to you, before hand, for 6 months, well.... that's a big change. it's a lot on your plate to deal with. add to the mix dealing with 2 very young children. i don't think you have a chemical imbalance. (i'm not a doctor) i think you're just going through an extremely stressful time in your life and you don't need to feel ashamed about that. having someone to talk to and help you cope is probably a great idea. i don't necessarily mean a professional. friends, family... really, it's not something to be sorry for, the fact that you are having a hard time dealing with this on your own. and you shouldn't have to deal with this all by yourself. i agree, you shouldn't take it out on your kids but that's a big cue for you too, that your current course of action isn't working to help you deal with this. and, of course you're going to have mixed feelings about it. it's a big change. a life changing event. anyway, good luck to you and that's my advice. hug your kids, take a deep breath and call your mom (or whoever).

Answer 3

Sounds to me like you just don't want to go? There is a certain amount of grief involved in the big move you are planning. Maybe it's just not right for you. Not trying to sound mean either. It's a very big change and a lot of stress involved. (why anyone would want to leave Australia I can't understand) Find someone trustworthy to talk this through with & Take care.

Answer 4

It sounds like you are depressed. I'm not going through the same situation, but I am depressed and your symptoms sound a lot like mine. Make an appointment with your doctor, so he can prescribe something (short term) to help you cope in this very difficult time.

Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 5

You might need to see a doctor. Maybe there's a physical problem like a hormone imbalance or anemia. One of the best things to do is to eat regular healthy meals and exercise.