Why can't I talk to girls?

Question

I am 34. I have never had a girlfriend. I am still a virgin. I have a big nose, a skinny face, a long neck and balding. I have NEVER asked a girl out in my entire life. It's because I am ugly. Even when I was younger, I was a dork with glasses, plus a big nose, a skinny face and way too skinny, though I did have hair. I am real depressed about this. I am going to end up alone for the rest of my life. I want to fall in love, get married, have kids and raise a family. But I can't talk to girls because I am ugly. What should I do?

Answer 1

Now Larry. There is no need for such depressing talk. It is true that people are attracted to more goodlooking people but Im sure that there is a girl out there for you just waiting to fall in love with you. It may be hard to think that there is but trust me, there is. I think you should be a little more outgoing and try to think more positively about your looks. Because I am sure you are not as bad as you say you are. All you need is a little push in the right direction...

Answer 2

Buy a few new clothes...not too expensive...just improve the way you look generally (i dont meant this in a bad way but having a good image will interest girls).

Be yourself :) It doesnt matter how you look or how you don't look - it is the inside that counts. If you just be yourself and show off your great personality and a sense of humor then girls will adore you - you don't have to be Brad Pitt. (About the sense of humour; if you feel that you don't have a sense of humor then just watch a bit of Lee Evans stand up comedy and see how he and other comedians speak and emphasise things etc to be funny)

You have to have this mentality: It is the girls' privalidge to have you - not the other way round. Make yourself believe that you are exclusive. Because as long as you be yourself, then this is the truth. (There is a difference between having this mentality and being big headed...dont allow it to get to the 'big headed' stage).

Don't get hung up if it doesn't work out with the first girl that you try it with...its no big deal and there seriously are so many other girls out there...when it doesn't work with one girl then it is their loss...NOT yours. Always think this way.

A few little things that I hope will help :) Just be confident in yourself and you'll do great man :)

Good Luck :D

And also...change your Yahoo screen name from Larrytheloser to something else...because this is by no means true and it shows off the wrong mentality. As I said before - you must believe you are exclusive - but not in a big headed way.

Answer 3

i seriously doubt that you are going to be alone for the rest of your life. If you don't like how you look do something about it. Try building muscle, eating healthy, exercising ( which will also help you because it gives you endorphins that make you feel better about yourself). Work on the inner you and make yourself into someone you love, then worry about other people, especially girls. Make a list of the features and characteristics that you do like about yourself...such as i have a nice singing voice, or i have such and such talent and add something every day. Call it your feel good list so that when you are feeling down you can always remember the good things about yourself. I've seen some handsome men who turned out to be the ugliest guys and Vic a verca! A winning personality means more than good looks. Looks fade but being who you are and loving yourself...that can never go away!
Good luck and i hope this helps!

Answer 4

First off, women like a man with confidence. If you are not confident in the man you are, then she won't be confident in you. Stop thinking of yourself as ugly, if a girl is so shallow that she is judging only that aspect of you, she isn't worth your time anyways.

Second, just talk to people, smile, and ask people questions. All you have to do is be very observant, and ask OPEN ENDED questions, not yes or no questions. Smile a lot, be confident and just practice talking to perfect strangers.

Do not get hung up on the fact that you are skinny, or have a big nose or whatever, just stop thinking about it. Be yourself, and be confident.

Answer 5

well confidence is a big thing, but dont be cocky.
you should feel good about yourself because your truley a bueatiful person ,and the right girl will see thorugh what you believe to be an unappealing out side and see who you are on the inside. try online dating services and singles bars, or the next time you see a nice girl at your favorite cofee place or the bookstore strike up a conversation with her, ask her what she reading or something, give her a compliment, and ask her what shes doing this staurday give her your number, but if she doesnt call, dont search enlessly throuh the phone book for hers, take a hint, find another girl theres plenty of fish in the sea ( :

Answer 6

You Need to get that out of your head forget about how you look and get your courage up. Be positive when talking to a woman and they will respond no matter what you look like. I've seen some dog ugly guy married to some hotties with beautiful kids so it does happen. watch 40 year old virgin and see what could happen he was just an average guy and this really happens.

Answer 7

Ugliness is not an excuse for being a chicken. Thats what you are for not asking a girl, not ugly. Girls can find any man attractive not by his face and body, but by his swagger and confidence. Stand up straight, tell yourself that any girl would want a nice, smart man like yourself, and say what's on yor mind. Smile at her and she'll smile back if she senses that you believe in yourself.
It's easier to say than to do, i know, but think highly of yourslef and girls will do the same. They're after what's in your heart not your face and body.

Answer 8

Well, first of all change that screen name! I doubt you are as bad as you say. You have a negative self-image. I bet if I saw you I would find something appealing about you. I can find something good about almost anyone physically as long as they have good hygiene and take care of their appearance. I think what you lack is self-confidence. I have known downright ugly men who got women just because they were fun to be around. I even know this one guy, he is like half-handsome and half-ugly because he was in a fire as a child, but girls flock to him because he acts like he's wonderful. Work on developing your personality. Go to a stylist about your hair and ask them for other tips on how to improve your appearance. I know it sounds cliche but try dating sites like match.com or eharmony.com. There is someone for you out there. Really and truly. I wish you the best.

Answer 9

Hi Larry. I am 41 and didn't meet my boyfriend until I was 35.

It's not about looks but about spirit. Who you are spiritually determines how you interact with other souls in life, whether your family, friends, co-workers, or romantic relationships.

The trick to attracting your soul-mates in life, whether friends or romantic partners, is to work on uncovering and developing your purpose and gifts, what interests you and makes you happiest to interact with others. That is like a magnet that will attract people who share in what you are about. Even when you have a weakness or a problem, but you are confronting it head on and working to improve yourself, THAT internal change and personal work will attract good friends or partners to help walk you through that change, often because that person is going through the same thing at that time. Again, it is spiritual growth and purpose that determines the timing and design of our relationships in life. Does that make sense or ring a bell?

Every soul is unique, so the more we identify and uncover what makes us special, we attract special souls looking for a unique connection with us. No two people are alike, so no two relationships are alike either. You cannot compare by physical appearance or time or anything that can vary from person to person or relationship to relationship.

You can only look inside yourself and discover the roadmap that is already there.

I hope you will focus on your favorite interests, thoughts and ideas, career or personal goals; then pick one or two and go out and develop them more so you can meet the kind of people who inspire you to grow in a positive direction. That is how you will meet your soul-mates, because people need support from one another to change, in any stage of life.

Take care and good luck!
Love, Emily

Answer 10

im sure ur not that ugly. U can go to the spa or sumthing and get a new look; like in the show "Beauty and the Geek" And Plus its not all about the looks. U're prob. lacking confidence in urself to ask a girl out, or u jus too shy.