I am a single mother and a few months out of a fairly long relationship.I have met a few men, but it is my "policy" that none of them meet my seven year old son. They are all "friends." We are not in a committed or sexual relationship, but some of them are offended by this. Should they be?
2007-07-25 12:36:11 · 11 answers · asked by GIG45TXFL 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No. you stick to what you think is right for your son.
2007-07-25 12:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would definitey be too confusing for a 7 yr old to have a series of men coming in and out of his life. Stick with your policy. If they are offended by this and cannot understand, then you are better off without them.
2007-07-25 20:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by nanad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong. If you are not committed to these relationships and do not see them going long term, then they do not need to meet your son. It will give him the wrong idea if he sees a parade of men coming and going in his life. Stick to what you are doing.
2007-07-25 19:44:45 · answer #3 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is not rude. Actually, I think it is for the best. For a child to see men in and out could give him issues. (not saying that you have men in and out) You are right and if a man who is interested in you can't respect YOUR wishes on how you are bringing up your son is not worthy of your time.
2007-07-25 19:42:41 · answer #4 · answered by who are you anyway?? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think when you find the right person, you will naturally feel comfortable; and the connection will happen, seemingly on its own.
My boyfriend kept me away from some friend of his, and I thought it was about me, but later found out she didn't like me and that was why. It was about her. But when the time was right, when she was married and happy and there was no issue, then it was okay.
So when the timing is right, the connection will happen naturally. I don't think you need to worry about that.
2007-07-25 19:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by Nghiem E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I would keep to your policy...My stepsons mother jumps from one man to another and it has messed my stepson up he doesn't understand...the men that he likes best are the ones she doesn't keep around....he thinks that it is him most of the time....and he can't talk to her about it....
Tell you man friend that he will get to meet him when the time is right.
2007-07-26 00:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by Winks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. That sounds like a deal breaker.
If he can't meet your son, it's a pretty clear indication that you're not in a serious relationship.
If they are actual friends and not just embryonic boyfriends, then it's still pretty rude, as in "I think you're a molester without a shred of reason". In fact its fantastically rude.
2007-07-25 19:42:23 · answer #7 · answered by anotherbsdparent 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
offended? prolly not.
most men wouldnt be offended.
UNLESS your sitting there mentioning the fact that they cant meet him for whatever reason. Now THAT would be offensive.
If you just make sure that they dont meet him, thats fine, but bringing it up kinda says that "I AM NOT SURE YOUR GOOD ENOUGH TO MEET MY SON" and that sounds really bad.
2007-07-25 19:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They shouldn't be offended. You don't want to take the chance of your child getting attached to someone that may not be around for very long. If the man can't understand that, he doesn't understand children and isn't right for your situation. Say thanks and move on!
2007-07-25 19:40:13 · answer #9 · answered by harleychic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let the guys be offended! You are keeping your private life private, period. Kids get confused. I did the same thing after divorce. I have three kids. Stand by your guns. They are males, they'll get over it!
2007-07-25 19:41:51 · answer #10 · answered by zen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋