Whats the point of living if you don't feel loved?

Question

I don't really feel loved by anyone in my family.Sure,they buy me things, but they seem like people I happen to know and just buy me materialized things.And since I think I'm not really loved,I feel like there is no point in living.I mean whats the point if no one will remember you in 10 years.I eat a lot because I'm depressed and I really wish I had help

Answer 1

When I go through depressed states, I remind myself that sometimes the mind (like a factory) has to shut down and quit functioning in order to clean house. So this is quiet time that I need to re-evaluate and sort through mixed thoughts I have not finished; and only when everything is in order can the lights go back on and the factory can start running again.

This stage can serve a good purpose, so the sooner we use it for that, we can move on to the next stage instead.

The point in going through this phase or phases is to let go of whatever expectation or ideas keep us unhappy. When we totally stop imposing these thoughts on ourselves and our lives, that's when we open up room for "unconditional love" to enter that does NOT depend on physical proof or conditions like humans are used to in the material world. By forgiving all past thoughts and actions, that is when we can replace any negative energy or thinking and start over with no conditions.

So until we have totally let go of every last unforgiven thought, these things are like a wound can become "infected" with negative energy that festers until we feel miserable or anger or depressed all the time -- that is our mind's way of letting us know there is something built up that needs to be let go. So these bad thoughts and feelings are there to motivate you to try to get rid of them, to find the problem and solve it so you don't feel these things anymore. It is part of a process to help you troubleshoot your system. Please don't feel bad that your mind is doing this, but try to work with it, to listen to your heart and find out what it is asking or questioning or upset about.

Is there some memory or thought of your family that keeps a bad feeling in your mind? If so, forgive it so those bad feelings will be released and won't build up in your attic.

Sometimes we have to let go of all those things to find true love, peace or happiness that is independent of material life we "think" it depends on. One counselor I heard at a workshop described a "desert phase" in life where you feel you are taken away from the world and tempted with nothing but negative thoughts about everything in life including yourself. You think all your decisions are wrong, and may hate or fear everything. The purpose is not to suffer and stay there, but to work through even the toughest questions in life about what our purpose really is, so we don't settle for false reasons but arrive at a true understanding. In the meantime, we feel alone and abandoned because we have to be ocmpletely isolated to go th rough these thoughts "objectively" does this make sense?

Your reason for living cannot be based on whether you have friends or family who love you. What keeps me going is knowing that "I" love people and that is a gift. It makes me very happy and I am glad. I am sad that people don't know how to love or help each other, but I am happy that I can.

Can you start where you are, at ground zero, and look at what you do have in life that is meaningful, what talents or skills you most enjoy using, what hobbies or interests you have that if you could just do that all day you would never get bored. (I love sharing with people and I love to sleep. So when I get depressed I just spoil myself and do what I love and forget anything else I don't feel like doing.) If you are using "eating" to compensate for gratification or control of pleasure, you may benefit from seeing a counselor about ways to transfer that habit to something else more productive. I started working on projects I had put off for 10 years, and it changed my whole outlook on life and my ability to do what I thought I could never take on. So is there anything in your life you have been neglecting that you would love to do but were afraid. If so, now is the time to try something new. Because you feel so bad, that means you have nothing to lose, so that is one advantage of being at the bottom. You have nowhere else to go but up, so use that to encourage yourself.

If you don't have friends you think you can share your ideas and thoughts with, can you look online for forums and just start posting. All it takes is finding one or two buddies who understand, and it can change your WHOLE outlook on life. What you are going through may help someone else and make all the difference in the world to someone who thought they were alone and hopeless. This happens all the time.

So try to find something to connect with and start from there. Don't worry or feel bad if this is where you are right now. But start from there and work with it, one step at a time. You are already opening the door for good things to come in your life by just asking around like this, so keep going! Ask wherever you can, and you will start putting ideas and answers together that work for you.

Take care and keep looking for things that make sense and work better than where you are now or what you tried in the past that did not make you happy. If you keep seeking and asking, and trying different ways, you will find what works for you. Remember, you are only feeling negative right now so that when you find the right answers to the real purpose and meaning in your life, those will stand out in comparison. So of course all the wrong thoughts and ideas will "feel bad" so you will keep looking for the right ones. I hope this helps you to feel less afraid and more encouraged to keep working and keep looking. Please write to me if you don't feel better and still want to talk things out more. You are going through a deep spiritual process and it takes a lot of sorting out thoughts in your mind, so I understand. You will feel much better as you forge your way through it, so don't give up on yourself but keep going until the dark clouds clear up enough where you can see where the light is leading you next. Much love, hugs, and healing to you! Yours truly, Emily

Answer 2

People show their love to others in many different ways. Ask yourself first exactly how you want love shown to you. Then show it that way to others and see what the response is. You may be pleasantly surprised. If not why not just ask the others if they love you. And love is not a matter of quantity but quality. NEVER give up on life cuz ya never know what or when a new love is comming and if just one person loves you it makes life worth living always and you don't want to miss it when it gets here!

Answer 3

There is no guarantee in life we will be loved, and we cant control that. But you have to power to love others and that is the point. Love others and eventually it will come back to you. You got stuck with a familly that doesnt show love so maybe you need to teach them. Tell them you love them. Hug them. Dont stop and maybe someday they will learn to show it too.

Answer 4

I was raised in a family that I wasn't loved, I turned out okay but it was a long road to happiness.

Answer 5

Jesus loves you. Talk to him and I bet you'll feel that love you're missing.

Answer 6

I was same way

Answer 7

dont worry i love you[: