She Has a new friend who is almost 4 years older than her, the friend a bad example, and i know this so i talked to the friends guardians we decided that they no see eachother but the friend ran away from her home to my house and met up with my daughter, I let her stay the night after informing the guardian. In the mornig i found a paper saying that my daughter has runaway and she is at some girls house with her friend she'll be back when she wants to. Help PLEAASE.
2007-07-25 11:54:47 · 7 answers · asked by runnawaydaughter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't force her to come home or make her feel you're angry. Take time to analyse the situation - it's your daughter at stake here, so do it as your life depends on it. Even if it doesn't work, it will still have a great impact on her. Maybe you did something wrong or maybe you had a misunderstandung which made her mad at you. Most teenagers' life is a puzzle. It's your job as a parent to guide her in unpuzzling it - not take over and unpuzzle it for her. They can be influenced by many things around them. Peers, fashion, technology and even drugs. It's your job as a parent to be a god influence. Be a parent and a friend to her. Show some authority but show some friendliness too.
If you feel that her friend can inlufence her to do illegal things, then that's the time you can ask for the local authority's help. A counselor or a priest can help too. You can help both your family and her friend's family.
2007-07-25 12:51:48 · answer #1 · answered by Dylan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know many children of Fundamentalists run away like that, whether it is Muslim or Christian Fundamentalists. Some children just cannot be boxed in like that day after day, year after year, and they finally snap and want freedom. Even if this is not what YOU feel you did to her, it is what SHE felt you did to her. So that is the situation. Unfortunately your daughter went the wrong way to find this freedom. If she had just left by moving to go to University and get a good career and find freedom that way, it would have been much better. But this looks like only more of the same prison to children who have already been raised in a box, they feel. Your daughter feels the same and you can see this from what she said "She is never coming home again." Her computer was her only link to what she felt was her freedom and then this was taken away. This is also why children of Fundamentalist Christian preachers end up going "wild" and rebelling. They were not allowed to participate in life and society outside their own community. I am sorry for your situation and for your pain and also for the pain your daughter has felt that caused her to look for escape. I hope that your daughter is going to be ok and NOT harmed by those she has gone to. I hope that she finds a good life, and good people and will eventually come back to your family as a happy fulfilled person. Also remember that as a 19 year old she has not really "run away" from home, because she is an legally an adult. So it is time to let her go and just hope that she is going to be safe and cared for and will find her way in the world successfully. P.S. The kind of crap Spiderman (one of your answerers) wrote about women is more than likely at least part of the reason your daughter left. Anyone who would stay in a religion that believes that kind of nonsense about women is a twisted sick person indeed.
2016-05-18 04:23:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there is not much you could do. Except go to the police and try to take her home by force. Don't do that. It'll only send her to be more distant to you. Wait for her to come home and talk to her calmly and use arguments that are logic. Don't go "I told you so" or other lines like this. She'll come around and realize by herself that what she had done is wrong. Be patient. I know it's hard but being angry when she'll come back, will only set her away again. Talk to her at a cup of coffee, or lemon juice, and be not just a mother but a best friend. Her confidence in you will increase and you''ll gain her back more quickly than you think. Still express your concern. Impose the rules by logic, and not by force. No teenager will obey otherwise. Been there done that. Now because my mother explained and talked to me, talked calm and with loads of logic I found in her not only a parent who wants my best but a soul friend and a best one. Be a mother, and a best soul friend anyone could have. And your daughter will realize the mistake. If things sort out, and the problem is solved don't make the mistake to remind her of this every single fight you'll get into. Later in life she will appreciate you and respect and love you more for this.
2007-07-25 12:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by DUKE OF SEGOREAN 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is where tough love comes in. You get on the phone, call the authorities, and report her as a runaway. I know that it would be a hard thing to do, but it has to be done. I've been through a similar incident with my youngest daughter.
You have to show them that this kind of thing isn't acceptable and that they don't make the rules.
Trust me, this is the best thing for you to do right now.
Good luck and hang in there.
2007-07-25 12:00:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to be the parent in this case. Step up and set boundaries. If your daughter oversteps these boundaries, then punishment is in order.
You are your daughter's parent, not her best friend.
2007-07-25 12:00:27 · answer #5 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I recomend that you try to talk to her......or im 14 and i know taht every teenager hates when their parents say if u dont stop i will send u to boot camp......i recomend that u tell her this and not actually do it and just pretend taht u already have one picked out u know play with her but it might just change her
my parents did this to me and i changed alot and i have friends taht their parents have done this and they have changed
2007-07-25 12:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just listen to her and let her know that you love her and how it makes you feel when she runs away and laos ask her what's going on in her life.
2007-07-25 11:59:23 · answer #7 · answered by southwest_mountain_girl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋